Kiran Athar
You know how much you love your partner, right?
But do they actually know?
Sometimes we can fall into the trap of assuming they know how much we love and care about them, and we become complacent.
If you want to avoid that happening in your relationship, read on. I’ll be sharing simple ways to make your partner feel loved every day, leaving no room for doubt!
Let’s jump in:
1) Tell them
Want your partner to feel your love?
Start with the most obvious – tell them!
Most people are great at expressing their feelings and whispering sweet nothings over pillow talk at the beginning of a relationship.
But as time goes on and work, life, and kids get in the way, we can easily forget to say those simple yet powerful three words.
And if sweet talk isn’t your thing?
That’s okay…A simple “I love you” before bed or in the morning will do. No need to go overboard, but it’s always nice to hear those words!
2) Back up your words with actions
But it’s not enough to just tell your partner you love them, care about them, and cherish them daily…you’ve got to show them!
Whether that’s by helping out at home if your partner is stressed and tired, or making them a cup of tea every morning in bed so they can relax a few minutes longer, don’t be afraid to get creative.
This is a fireproof way to make your partner feel loved every day – through the small things that show you think about them.
After all, the classic saying still rings true – actions really do speak louder than words.
3) Ask them how their day was
Another simple way to show your partner your love is to ask how their day went…
So, why is such a seemingly insignificant question so powerful?
Well, by asking your partner (and not waiting for them to tell you), you’re showing how much you care about them.
You want to know if something bad happened at work so you can comfort them.
You want to hear about how their important presentation went so you can congratulate them.
And as well as showing care, you’re showing INTEREST. And that’s a powerful thing right there, let alone another way to make them feel loved and wanted!
4) Give them your full attention
Is there anything worse than trying to tell someone something, but they’re constantly distracted?
Nowadays we’re all glued to our mobile phones, so one of the best ways to make your partner feel loved is to give them your utmost attention!
This will make them feel seen, heard, and valued. To do this, try the following:
- Put away your phone/turn off the TV when your partner wants to talk
- Make eye contact
- Avoid interrupting them
- Ask questions to show your interest
In a world of short attention spans and busy people, be the one person who listens.
Do this, and I guarantee they’ll never doubt how much you love and respect them.
5) Go out of your way for them
When was the last time you surprised your partner with their favorite meal for dinner?
Or took them on a spontaneous trip out of town? Or even picked up their dry cleaning without them asking you to?
I mentioned earlier how it’s the small things that have the biggest impact, and the same applies here.
When you make a conscious effort to go out of your way for your partner, just to make them smile or to save them time, you’re showing love.
This tells your partner that you aren’t only thinking about yourself, but factoring them in too!
6) Show your appreciation and gratitude
Another simple way to make your SO feel loved every day is to show how much you value everything they do for you.
For example, my boyfriend never fails to thank me when I bring him a coffee or do something mundane like clear out the cat tray.
Sometimes he expresses his appreciation with more words, but in general, a simple thank you, a smile or a cuddle is enough!
So, if there’s one thing you do today, it should be to tell your partner how grateful you are for everything they do and the joy they bring to your life.
It’s a beautiful way to remind them of your love.
7) Be patient
Patience is a hard skill to master…some are born with it while others have to work for it.
But if you can show patience with your partner, you’ll make them feel more than loved, you’ll make them feel respected and supported.
Because let’s be honest, we all have ups and downs.
We all go through rough patches in life.
And we all want a partner who sticks by our side and patiently deals with our sh*t!
8) Get affectionate
Now, for another simple way to show your love and make your partner FEEL it, it’s time to get physical!
But I don’t mean sex.
Sure, you can do that too, but I’m thinking more along the lines of holding your partner’s hand, giving them unexpected cuddles, kissing their face until they laugh…you get the gist.
Because anyone can have sex, but to show this level of intimacy is a clear display of true love.
I know firsthand – no one has held my hand as tightly or stroked my face as much as my current boyfriend.
He never misses an opportunity to physically connect with me, even if we’re passing each other in the hallway.
And trust me – it makes me feel so loved every day, and I’m sure it’ll do the same for your partner!
9) Make an effort to spend quality time together
We’ve already discussed the importance of giving your partner your full attention, but what about your time, too?
I know when you get home from work you want nothing more than to switch off and relax. And on the weekends, you’ve got stuff to do and things to catch up on.
But there’s got to be at least a few hours a week that you can spare to do something fun with your SO.
Even if it’s just going for a walk or spending time together having a drink in the garden, it doesn’t have to be extravagant. We’re all in this cost-of-living crisis together.
The point is that you’re going out of your way to increase the bond you guys share. Your partner will notice this.
And they will feel loved as a result!
