8 signs you’ve found your life partner, according to psychology

Finding your life partner is no easy task. Trust me, I know. Hi, I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder of Hack Spirit and a devoted student of mindfulness and Buddhism.

As someone who’s spent a lot of time diving into the intricacies of the human mind, I’ve learned that psychology offers some pretty insightful clues about compatibility.

And you know what? There are certain signs that, according to psychology, indicate you’ve found your life partner.

So let’s delve into these signs together. Because, who knows? You might have already found “The One” and not even realize it. 

Let me guide you through the 8 signs that your search for a life partner may be over.

1) Deep comfort in silence

In the hustle and bustle of life, silence often takes a backseat. But when you’re with your life partner, silence isn’t just golden, it’s comfortable.

Psychology tells us that being able to sit in silence with someone, without feeling the urge to fill the space with chatter, is a sign of deep connection. This comfort in silence shows a level of understanding and acceptance that goes beyond words.

Consider this from a mindfulness perspective. In mindfulness practice, silence is cherished. It’s in those quiet moments that we truly tune in to our senses and surroundings. Silence allows us to be present and fully aware.

If you and your partner can enjoy these silent moments together, cherishing the stillness and simply being in each other’s presence without any urge for distraction – that’s a pretty powerful sign you’ve found your life partner.

2) Shared core values

Core values, the guiding principles that dictate behavior and actions, are a significant element in any relationship.

I’ve found that when you share core values with someone, it creates a deep bond that can withstand life’s many ups and downs.

Psychology backs this up. Couples who share fundamental values are more likely to navigate through relationship challenges successfully.

If you and your partner’s core values align, it’s a strong sign you’ve found your life partner. These shared values become the sturdy keel that keeps your relationship balanced in even the stormiest seas of life.

So, take a moment to reflect on what you hold dear. If you find your partner right there with you, you’re on solid ground.

3) Acceptance of imperfections

Let’s get real here. No one is perfect, and expecting your partner to be flawless is both unrealistic and unfair. 

But recognizing your partner’s imperfections and loving them regardless? That’s a strong sign you’ve found your life partner.

In the realm of psychology, acceptance plays a key role in successful relationships. The ability to see your partner, faults and all, and still choose to love them creates deeper intimacy and connection.

This concept aligns with the Buddhist wisdom of acceptance. Buddhism teaches us that everything, including ourselves and our partners, is impermanent and imperfect. 

This understanding helps us let go of unrealistic expectations and embrace our partners as they are – beautifully flawed.

So if you can look at your partner, see their quirks, their flaws, their humanness, and love them all the more for it, you’ve likely found your life partner. 

After all, it’s through acceptance that we find true love.

4) Mindful communication

Let’s strip away the pretense. We all know communication in a relationship isn’t always sunshine and rainbows. It can be messy, unclear, and downright difficult.

But having mindful communication with your partner? That’s a game-changer.

Psychology emphasizes the importance of open, honest, and respectful communication in a healthy relationship. If you can talk effectively about both the good and the not-so-good, it’s a strong sign you’ve found your life partner.

Mindfulness plays a significant role here. Being mindful in communication means being fully present during conversations, actively listening, and responding thoughtfully rather than reacting.

5) You inspire each other to grow

Personal growth is a journey that never really ends. As someone who’s been on this journey for many years, I can tell you that having a partner who inspires you to grow and evolve is invaluable.

Psychology tells us that when your partner supports and encourages your growth, it not only enhances your personal development but strengthens the bond between you two.

In my book, “Hidden Secrets of Buddhism: How To Live With Maximum Impact and Minimum Ego”, I talk about the importance of continuous growth and learning in life.

If you find yourself with a partner who pushes you to be the best version of yourself, celebrates your victories, and supports you in your struggles, then it’s a pretty solid sign you’ve found your life partner.

After all, a life partner isn’t just about companionship; it’s about growth, evolution, and walking the path of life together.

6) You practice forgiveness

Let’s be brutally honest here. Mistakes happen. Misunderstandings occur. No relationship is devoid of conflict or disagreement.

But if you and your partner can consistently practice forgiveness, that’s a telltale sign you’ve found your life partner.

Psychology underscores the importance of forgiveness in maintaining healthy relationships. Holding onto grudges can breed resentment and create a toxic environment.

Buddhist wisdom echoes this sentiment. It teaches us to let go of anger and practice forgiveness.

So if you’re in a relationship where mistakes are forgiven, where you can let go of the past and move forward together, then you’ve likely found your life partner. 

Because true love is not about perfection, it’s about forgiveness and growth.

7) You feel safe and secure

Let’s face it, the world can be a chaotic place. But when you’re with your life partner, you should feel a sense of safety and security, like you’ve found a haven amidst the storm.

Psychology highlights the importance of feeling secure in a relationship. This safety doesn’t just refer to physical safety but emotional safety as well. It’s about knowing that you can be your authentic self without fear of judgment or rejection.

Buddhist teacher Pema Chödrön perfectly encapsulates this feeling when she says, “To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of the nest.”

If you feel safe to be yourself, to be thrown out of the nest and still know that your partner will be there for you, then it’s a strong sign you’ve found your life partner.

After all, true love provides a safe space for us to be ourselves, flaws and all.

8) You can be apart

This might seem counterintuitive. We often think that being inseparable is a sign of a strong relationship. But what if I told you that being able to be apart is an equally, if not more, important sign?

Psychology suggests that having a healthy degree of independence and personal space in a relationship is crucial for its longevity. Being able to enjoy time apart without anxiety or insecurity indicates trust, respect, and individual growth.

From a mindfulness perspective, spending time alone is important for self-reflection and self-awareness. It allows us to connect with our inner selves, enriching our personal growth and overall well being.

So if you and your partner can spend time apart without fear or doubt, knowing it contributes to your individual growth and ultimately strengthens your bond, it’s a solid sign you’ve found your life partner.

Recognizing your life partner isn’t always an overnight revelation. It’s a journey, full of introspection, growth, and understanding. 

These signs we’ve discussed are not checkboxes to tick off but guideposts to consider along your journey.

If you’re interested in diving a little deeper into the wisdom of mindfulness and Buddhism and how they can help you navigate relationships and life, I invite you to check out my book, “Hidden Secrets of Buddhism: How To Live With Maximum Impact and Minimum Ego”.

Keep in mind, finding your life partner isn’t just about compatibility, but also about growth, acceptance, and a shared journey. And when you do find them, every twist and turn along the path becomes a shared adventure.

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. Check out my latest book on the Hidden Secrets of Buddhism and How it Saved My Life. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

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