Do you ever feel tired of it all and assume you must be a lazy person?
This is how I felt a few years back, I was going through the motions of life assuming I was just tired and lazy without realizing that there was something more going on. And more importantly, there was something I could do about it.
Maybe you feel the same?
As it turned out, I wasn’t simply lazy or tired, I was just unhappy with life.
The thing is: happiness is a choice. You don’t get what you deserve, you get what you accept. I wish someone had told me this sooner and I want to be that person for you.
Today I’m sharing 7 signs you’re not tired or lazy, you’re just unhappy. But it’s not all doom and gloom. Recognizing you’re unhappy is just the first step, from there things get better.
Let’s get started.
1) You count down the hours until work is over
Does it feel like a minute takes an hour at work? You glance at the clock thinking it must be close to home time, to realize only 10 minutes have passed since you last checked the time.
Believe me, I know how you feel. In one of my earliest jobs, I used to count down the hours of the day until I could go home. I felt like a prisoner who wasn’t free until 6 pm each day. And the worst part of all, I started counting from the moment my shift started.
At first, I was worried that I was a lazy person who wasn’t cut out for working full-time. I later realized that feeling like this was a sign that I wasn’t happy in that job.
If you’re counting down the hours, it’s probably a sign you’re unhappy in your job too. And yes, everyone goes through phases of having jobs they don’t like but life is too short to endure a job you hate, long term.
You spend a third of your time at work, so make sure you’re doing something that you can tolerate. It doesn’t have to be your dream job but it cannot be your worst nightmare either.
2) You constantly look forward to weekends & holidays
Are you guilty of wishing your life away?
It sounds dramatic but wishing for the weekend to come and for your next vacation means instead of living in the present, you’re wishing your life away.
But it’s not your fault: wishing for the weekend or your next holiday isn’t a sign of laziness. Instead, it’s a telling sign that you’re just unhappy in life.
Entrepreneur and author, Seth Godin famously said “Instead of wondering when your next vacation is, maybe you should set up a life you don’t need to escape from”.
You’re in control so instead of wishing your life away, it’s time to make a change for the better. Take a leaf out of Seth Godin’s book and create a life you don’t want to escape from.
3) You get major Sunday blues
Sunday nights are the worst, right?
As soon as the day turns to evening, the anxiety starts to creep in. The thought of facing another week of work fills you with dread. This uneasy feeling ruins the end of your weekend and makes it harder to face the week ahead with positivity.
Some people call this the “Sunday scaries” and others say “Sunday blues” but regardless of the name, if you know what I’m talking about, it’s a sign you might just be unhappy with your life.
Don’t get me wrong: everyone gets this feeling from time to time but if you’re constantly filled with anxiety and dread once Sunday night hits, it’s more than laziness and it’s time to switch things up.
4) You procrastinate a lot
You know when there’s something you need to do, but even though you know it’s important, you just keep putting it off? That’s procrastination.
And the thing is: procrastination can show up in your personal life as well as at work. Maybe you need to study for an exam, hit the gym, or prepare that presentation for work tomorrow. But you don’t.
You might even think to yourself “Why am I so lazy that I can’t get this thing done?”
But maybe it’s not laziness at all. A little procrastination here and there is normal, you’re only human after all. But if you find yourself procrastinating a lot, it could be a sign that you’re just unhappy in life.
Remember, you’re in charge of all the things you ‘have’ to do. If you’re putting off a lot of those things, maybe you’re not happy with that life and you need to make a change.
5) You feel tired all the time like you can’t catch up
A few years back I saw a meme online that said “Being an adult is pretty easy, you just feel tired all the time.” It resonated with me so much. I felt like no matter how much sleep I got, I always felt exhausted.
Ever feel like that?
Turns out: I wasn’t just tired like I thought. I was uninspired and wasn’t happy with where my life was headed. I was feeling pretty stuck.
If this strikes a chord with you, maybe it’s more than tiredness for you too. Recognizing you need a change is a sign of strength and although change is hard, choosing a life that brings you more happiness is always worth the effort.
6) You just don’t care anymore
You know that feeling when you just don’t care anymore? It’s like none of it matters. The feeling can happen with lots of different things in life.
Maybe you just don’t care about your work projects anymore. Or perhaps you’ve lost interest in the local sports team you play with on weekends. These things used to feel important but they just don’t anymore.
This loss of interest in your everyday activities could be something called apathy and it’s common for people to feel it from time to time, especially when they’re stressed. People often mistake this for tiredness or thinking they’re just lazy.
If you’re experiencing it a lot, this might be the jolt you need to make some lifestyle changes to help you feel happier than ever before.
7) You daydream about a better life
Do you find yourself constantly daydreaming about a better life?
In University, my friend, Bobby and I used to ride share from our hometown back to campus. We’d always spend the entire journey daydreaming about what we’d do if we won the lotto.
We were both broke students and we wished for better but we knew our situation was temporary. It’s normal for students to long for some financial security, right?
However, if you’re through that phase of your life and still find yourself daydreaming excessively like this, with a real longing for a better life, it’s a sign you’re yearning for more.
And here’s the thing: some of these daydreams could be a reality for you if you recognize you’re unhappy and take action to make things better.
The bottom line
How many of these signs do you recognize in yourself?
If you’re familiar with a few of them, it might feel like a bit of a downer. But realizing you’re just unhappy with life isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
Hear me out: the first step to solving any problem is recognizing there is one. If you’ve realized you’re unhappy, you’re already on the right track to making things better.
Consider things that bring you joy (or have in the past), focus your attention and effort there to create more joy, and minimize the stuff you don’t like. This won’t happen overnight but if you start today, in 6 months, you’ll be glad you did.
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