So, you’ve been in a romantic relationship for a while now.
And even if it’s not always a bed of roses, you’re happy and optimistic about your future together.
But here’s the thing.
How are you really doing? (Because it’s not always so obvious).
It’s not like you can just sit an exam and get a grade (if only it was that easy).
Well, here’s the good news.
There are several signs (based on psychology), that you can look out for, that give you a big clue on how successful your relationship truly is.
Let’s dive in!
How many of these seven behaviors can you recognize?
1) You laugh together
Having a great sense of humor is one thing, but having a similar sense of humor to your partner can take your relationship to the next level.
There’s a ton of science behind it.
Psychologists state that humor plays a significant role in long-term relationships, for several reasons.
First of all, it increases bonding. At the end of the day, laughing is about relating and connecting. The best jokes are funny because they’re true!
Humor can also break down barriers and make us feel comfortable. It puts us at ease and even increases trust within a relationship.
Wait, there’s more!
The act of laughing provides natural stress relief. Over time we start to associate this feeling with our partner. Endorphins released during a fit of the giggles help create a positive environment and literally fight anxiety. How cool is that?
It’s no surprise that having a good sense of humor is consistently rated as one of the top traits we look for in a partner.
So, if you regularly enjoy laughing out loud with your partner, chances are you’ve got a bright future together.
2) You’re physically intimate
Don’t get me wrong.
Physical intimacy isn’t everything.
But psychologists think it’s kind of important.
Research shows that getting plenty of attention in the bedroom improves both our physical and emotional well-being. I’m talking about feeling accepted and loved.
Because without regular intimate moments, the relationship can struggle. You may start to feel insecure or confused.
It’s not just about sex either.
Those cozy moments snuggling on the sofa in front of a movie, or romantic one-on-one time enjoying your favorite meal can be just as important.
3) Your communication is almost telepathic
This is a big one.
Because without solid communication, the relationship can go south fast.
In fact, poor communication is the most common reason for couples to split up.
Here’s the thing.
No communication means you can’t share your ups and downs. You have no idea how your partner is feeling. Over time, this can cause resentment or worse still, force them to confide in another person (where they can communicate).
They say the act of communicating not only helps you understand the needs of your partner but also helps you stay close and connected in your relationship.
In the best relationships, things can get weird. You can start to read your partner’s mind.
Of course, we’re not actually telepathic!
But it’s a positive sign that you know your partner so well (probably from many years of deep conversation, regular communication, and sharing absolutely everything).
4) You make a good team
Having each other’s back is the foundation of a successful relationship.
I’m talking about emotional, physical, and even financial support.
You split those boring chores up evenly, and contribute equally in all aspects. If children are part of your life, they’re a big part of the equation.
At the end of the day, the top 1% of successful relationships are kick-ass teams. They understand their strengths and weaknesses and work together to stay on top of things.
Psychologists state that the key to a loving relationship is an emphasis on selfless behavior.
It goes against our instincts.
Because most of the time, we tend to look after number one. We put our wants and needs first. But this changes when we truly find our soulmate.
At least, it should!
5) You enjoy quality time together
This might seem obvious, but experiencing new things, enjoying shared hobbies, or simply being in the moment together is a common trait of the top one-percenters.
It helps if you have things in common.
But it could also just be a shared goal or direction in life like losing weight or buying your first house together.
Dr. Gary Chapman suggests that giving someone your undivided attention (during quality time together) not only signifies deep love and connection but fosters a strong bond between couples.
It’s such a powerful thing.
Because actions speak louder than words.
Sure, you can express love through physical intimacy or romantic statements, but nothing says “I love you” more, than giving up your precious time to be alone with that special someone.
6) You plan your future together
I know. Planning… it’s kind of boring.
It almost feels like a job interview. Where do you see yourself in five years?
But when it comes to successful relationships, planning is kind of fun!
Fantasizing about the dream house you’ll live in and the big family you’ll have (or maybe just the cute pets, if children aren’t your thing).
There’s plenty of psychology behind the power of planning too.
When we make plans, we feel more secure and can stop worrying about the goal (which gives us more free time to attack other important tasks). In other words, enjoy the moment together.
It can solidify the relationship (especially if others are involved too).
Which leads nicely to our final point.
7) You’re close with their friends and family
I’m not saying you have to fall in love with your mother-in-law.
But having a strong relationship with your partner’s close friends and family is a strong sign you’re heading in the right direction.
The simple fact that they’ve introduced you should tell you something.
Hint: they’re proud of you and see you in their life for the foreseeable future.
That’s basic psychology.
Put it this way, if you’ve been together for a while now and they still haven’t introduced you, you’ll start to wonder why.
Hopefully, this isn’t your situation and you can recognize most of the other signs listed above!