Brendan Brown
Let’s face it – we all wish for that movie-style perfect relationship.
But in reality, nobody’s perfect, and neither is your partner.
Instead of hunting for perfection, it’s all about spotting the real signs that show you’re actually in a good relatationship.
So, if you’re wondering if you’re on the right track with your partner, even with a few bumps here and there, keep reading.
I’ve got 8 simple signs that’ll clear things up for you.
1. You laugh together
It’s not all about grand gestures or intense drama. Sometimes, it’s the little moments that matter most.
If you and your partner find joy in the same silly jokes, or can laugh at life’s mishaps and your own goofy mistakes, that’s a sign the relationship is right for you.
Shared laughter keeps things light, reminds you why you clicked in the first place, and shows that you both don’t take life too seriously.
Plus, they say that couples who laugh together, stay together. I see it with my friends and their relationships all the time.
So, if you’re giggling over the same memes or TV show scenes, you’re onto something good.
2. You feel safe being yourself
Here’s the thing, I’ve been in relationships where I felt I had to wear a mask or be a certain “version” of myself. It was exhausting.
But when you’re in the right relationship, there’s this comforting freedom to just be… you.
I remember the relief I felt when I could openly share my quirkiest habits or my weirdest dreams without the fear of being judged.
If your partner embraces your quirks, supports your passions, and loves you even when you’re in your pajamas with messy hair, that’s a sign you’re in a beautiful place.
It means you’ve found someone who adores the real you, not an idealized version.
3. Arguments don’t mean the end
I know, it sounds a bit off, right?
We often associate arguments with trouble in paradise. But, from my perspective and many relationship experts, a little disagreement here and there isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
In fact, if both of you can have a disagreement and then work through it, it shows you’re mature enough to handle conflict.
I’ve come to see arguments as opportunities. They allow us to understand our partner’s viewpoint and to grow together.
If every disagreement doesn’t escalate into a threat of breaking up, but rather a discussion and eventual understanding, then believe it or not, you’re on solid ground.
It’s not about never having problems; it’s about facing and solving them together.
4. You celebrate each other’s wins
Have you ever had a big win and the first person you wanted to share it with was your partner? That’s a pretty sweet sign right there.
But even sweeter?
When they cheer you on and celebrate as if it was their own victory.
It’s not always about romantic date nights or gifts; sometimes, it’s about feeling genuinely proud of each other.
If your partner is your personal cheerleader and you find joy in their accomplishments too, you’re building a really solid foundation.
Remember, a relationship thrives when two people constantly lift each other higher. If you’ve got that, you’re in a pretty great spot.
5. Acts of kindness aren’t just for special ocassions
Did you know that according to a study from Penn State University, small acts of kindness can significantly boost our well-being and relationship satisfaction?
It’s not always the grand gestures on birthdays or anniversaries that make a relationship glow. Instead, it’s those unexpected cups of coffee on a dreary morning, the random “thinking of you” texts, or the simple act of covering you with a blanket when you doze off on the couch.
These seemingly tiny gestures speak volumes about how attentive and caring your partner is in daily life.
If you find that both of you are frequently making these small moves, it indicates a deep-rooted affection and consideration for each other’s happiness.
And that is far better than a once-a-year grand gesture.
6. You both value alone time
This might sound a bit strange, but hear me out.
I’ve always believed that a solid relationship isn’t just about being inseparable but also about understanding and respecting each other’s need for alone time.
I remember when I first told my partner I needed an evening to myself, just to read, relax, or even binge-watch my favorite shows.
Instead of feeling rejected, she got it. She understood that it wasn’t about distancing from them, but rather about recharging myself.
In the right relationship, you understand that giving each other space to pursue individual interests, hobbies, or simply to relax can be equally as important as the time you spend together.
It’s about balancing togetherness with individuality, and if you’ve got that dynamic, it speaks to the depth of your bond.
7. Trust isn’t just a word, it’s a feeling
Trust is the backbone of any lasting relationship.
You don’t constantly check your partner’s phone, second-guess their decisions, or doubt their words.
Instead, you have this underlying confidence in each other’s actions and intentions.
And this goes beyond fidelity. It’s about knowing that if they say they’ll be there, they will. If they promise to support you, they’ll stand firm.
Trust creates a safe space where both partners can be vulnerable, open, and genuine without any fear.
If you can close your eyes and fall back, knowing they’ll catch you—that’s a relationship that’s definitely right for you.
8. Your futures align
At the end of the day, you both see a shared path ahead.
It’s not just about enjoying the present but having common goals and dreams for the future.
Whether it’s plans about family, career, or travel, you’re on the same page. You don’t have to agree on everything, but the big picture aligns.
If you can look ahead and clearly see each other in those plans, you’re not just living for today—you’re building for tomorrow together.
And that’s a surefire sign you’re in the right relationship, even if your partner is far from perfect.
