13 signs you’re in a relationship with someone who truly loves you

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When you’re in a healthy and loving relationship, there’s no need to look for signs of love. You simply feel it every day.

However, if you need a reminder or signs you’re in a relationship with someone who truly loves you, keep on reading. 

1) They accept you

Someone who genuinely loves you accepts you for who you are, together with all your quirks and features. 

If your partner not only accepts but also embraces your loud chewing, stamp collections, love for ponchos, eating sausages with chocolate pudding, sleeping with a comfort blanket, loud walking around the apartment, or whatever else you do that would drive others nuts, it’s a sign they truly appreciate you for who you are.

I only hope you can extend the same sympathy towards them and their quirks because there’s nothing worse than one partner being extremely tolerant and patient while the other is unsufferable and easily annoyed. 

2) They give you time and attention

In a world busy with responsibilities, quality time is a precious gift in a relationship. A partner who loves you dedicates time to be with you, showing that you’re a priority in their life.

Likewise, engaging in activities you enjoy, even if they’re not personally interested, proves their willingness to invest time and effort in shared experiences that bring you joy.

For example, my wife loves tasting many different kinds of wines. A wine tour is her dream activity. On the other hand, I hate wine and basically only drink wine if it’s in Sangria or Aperol Spritz. 

But, I go with her regardless and try all the wine they serve in front of us. I don’t constantly moan about how much I hate it. I nod, say it has a fruity bouquet, and try not to make a sour face while drinking it.  

Easy! 

3) They’re thoughtful

Being thoughtful is one of the easiest and best ways to show how much you love someone, especially if you’ve been in a relationship for a longer time. 

By remembering significant dates, personal preferences, and details about your partner’s life, you show how much you care for them and how much consideration you have for their happiness.

So if your partner displays unexpected gestures of kindness, like leaving sweet notes or surprising you with something you love, it means they’re consistently thinking about your happiness.

4) They’re affectionate

The same goes for being affectionate. 

Physical touch is an important aspect of expressing love. Holding hands, hugging, cuddling, and intimate moments all demonstrate their affection and desire to connect with you.

With years, this naturally declines, but it shouldn’t have to. Remind them by doing the same for them, and you’ll see how they return the affection to you. 

Start small by showing your partner you care by actively listening to what they say. Set aside special time for date nights where you can focus solely on each other and rekindle the romance.

Hold hands while walking, watching TV, or sitting together to create a feeling of intimacy and connection.

And most importantly, put away distractions like phones and truly be present in the moment when spending time with your partner.

5) They love talking to you

A partner that genuinely loves you also loves talking to you and is interested in what you have to say. Even if you said it hundreds of times over the years, they will listen to you

But communication is another thing that declines in a relationship as years pass. Sometimes it feels like you know each other too well, and you, paradoxically, don’t really have anything to talk about anymore. 

So if a partner doesn’t talk as much with you lately, don’t shy away from starting a dialogue. Ask opening questions or focus on topics they’re more interested in at the moment. 

A loving partner will make an effort to communicate openly and honestly. They’re interested in your thoughts and feelings and create a safe space for you to express yourself without fear of judgment.

6) You have a tremendous unspoken communication

On the other side, if you and your partner can understand each other’s thoughts and feelings without explicitly stating them, it shows a strong emotional bond.

A partner who truly loves you is attuned to your emotions. They understand your feelings, put themselves in your shoes, and offer comfort and empathy during challenging times.

Sometimes, it’s also better to leave things unsaid and just offer a listening ear. 

7) They express love in creative ways

Throughout history, people have found new and unique ways to express love, such as writing songs, painting, or even crafting. All of which show a desire to express emotions in distinctive ways.

If you’re lucky enough to have a life partner that shows how much they love you through a song, a poem, a painting, or something equally as impressive (or unimpressive but sweet), you’re one blessed person. 

8) They support you

One of the most important things we look for in relationships besides love is support. 

Whether they’re celebrating your achievements or supporting you through challenges, a loving partner is there for you. 

They offer a shoulder to lean on, provide emotional support, and encourage you to overcome setbacks and obstacles (external or self-imposed).

I’m lucky to have found such a person that’s there for me through thick and thin and encourages me never to settle. 

9) They’re able to compartmentalize

I’m also lucky enough that she doesn’t hold grudges or past disagreements against me. 

You see, in a loving relationship, conflicts should be seen as isolated incidents and don’t define the overall connection.

It’s important to look past them and realize that’s just a blip on a journey that doesn’t even register after some time. 

10) They trust you

Love thrives on trust. A partner who loves you doesn’t constantly question your actions or motives but believes in your integrity and gives you space to be yourself.

You don’t have to call or text them every five minutes to report your whereabouts. 

But without trust, a relationship has an expiration date that will run out as soon as the partner that isn’t trusted blows a fuse.

Plus, in healthy relationships, there’s no reason not to trust a partner. If you don’t trust each other or one partner doesn’t trust the other one, there are underlying reasons that are responsible. 

Perhaps past trauma, negative experiences in past relationships, and even mental health problems. 

11) They’re willing to compromise

No one can always be right, and one partner shouldn’t have control over the other and over their actions. 

Relationships require compromise and collaboration. A loving partner is willing to find a middle ground in disagreements, prioritizing the relationship’s health over always getting their way.

And so one of the defining traits of every healthy relationship is how well you deal with disagreements and whether or not both partners are willing to compromise and preferably come out with a win-win situation. 

But here’s another important sign of love. 

12) They plan the future

In a loving relationship, partners envision a future together. If your partner always includes you in their long-term plans, they show commitment and a desire for a lasting partnership.

For example, I ALWAYS envision my wife and our kid when I think or even dream of our future. There are no ifs, buts, and maybes. 

But because you’re reading this article, I’m fairly sure you’re the same. You’re a loving person that simply wants to strengthen their thoughts about their partner and your future together. 

If you have any doubts whatsoever that your partner isn’t imagining you in their future plans, you should really think through your relationship and where it stands. 

13) They encourage you

And lastly, love means wanting the best for your partner. A loving partner supports your dreams, even if they’re different from their own, and encourages you to pursue your goals.

I’ve seen some couples where one partner holds their reservations about supporting the other in their dreams and goals, and it didn’t end up the best.

Dreams are incredibly important to almost every person walking on the face of this Earth. Once you let them go, you basically stop living. 

Final thoughts

So there you have it – 13 signs you’re in a relationship with someone who truly loves you. 

I really hope you recognized your partner in most of these and, in the process, thought about your own behavior from a different perspective. 

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Adrian Volenik

Adrian has years of experience in the field of personal development and building wealth. Both physical and spiritual. He has a deep understanding of the human mind and a passion for helping people enhance their lives. Adrian loves to share practical tips and insights that can help readers achieve their personal and professional goals. He has lived in several European countries and has now settled in Portugal with his family. When he’s not writing, he enjoys going to the beach, hiking, drinking sangria, and spending time with his wife and son.

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