18 undeniable signs that you’re destined to be together

There are some things that happen in life that just feel like it was always meant to be.

That this was written in the stars the day you were born, and every event in your life led up to this moment.

And sometimes, for those lucky few of us, we meet the person we’re destined to be with.

But how do you truly know that you and your partner share destiny’s path?

Here are 18 signs that you and the one you love are destined to be together, now and forever:

1) You Communicate Non-Verbally As Much As You Communicate Verbally

We use words to tell other people our wants and needs, to ask questions, to get to know other people.

Verbal communication is an essential part of everyday life, whether you do it with your mouth or with words on a screen.

You can’t imagine what it would be like to not know how to speak, read, or write.

But with your partner, half the time your communication isn’t the typical kind of communication at all.

You both understand each other so intimately that in many instances, there’s zero need for words.

Just the microexpressions on your faces, the way you move around each other, your sighs and breaths — all of these speak volumes when a person knows how to read you.

And who can read you better than your soulmate?

2) You Never Have To Try To Be Anything Else

Even with your closest friends, sometimes you have to put up a kind of persona that isn’t exactly you.

You check yourself in the mirror hoping you look exactly the way you want to look, you watch your words, and you pretend to like or dislike certain things just to fit in.

We do so many little things to tiptoe around the world, often without even realizing it anymore.

But when you’re with the person you’re destined to be with, all of that self-consciousness flies out the window.

None of it matters anymore, because your heart understands that they love you exactly for who you are.

Of course, this doesn’t mean you’ll stop trying to look and be your best.

It just means that the version of you that exists in your heart and mind — the real you — is exactly the person you show your partner because you know you no longer have to hide any of it.

3) He is protective of you

If you’re destined to be together, then you know that the guy will be doing all he can to protect the women.

He’ll step up to the plate for you in order to earn your respect.

In fact, there’s a new psychological theory that’s generating a lot of buzz at the moment. And it goes to the heart of whether two people are actually destined to be together.

It’s called the hero instinct.

What it boils down to is that a man wants to see himself as an everyday hero. He wants to be someone you respect. Not a mere accessory, ‘best friend’, or ‘partner in crime’.

I know it sounds a bit silly. In this day and age, women don’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives.

And I couldn’t agree more.

But here’s the ironic truth. Men do still need to feel like a hero. Because it’s built into their DNA to seek out relationships that allow them to feel like one.

If he really is your true soulmate, then he’ll step up to the plate and be your everyday hero. He’ll do seemingly little things to earn your respect.

However, sometimes you need to ignite the flame to trigger the hero instinct him.

The best way to learn how to trigger the hero instinct in your guy is to watch this free online video. James Bauer, the relationship psychologist who first coined this term, reveals the simple things you can do starting today to trigger this very natural make instinct.

When a man’s hero instinct is triggered, he’ll be more loving, attentive, and committed to being in a long-term relationship.

Here’s a link to the video again.

4) Laughter Is Always Part Of Your Relationship

When you’re with your soulmate, you’re never too far away from a laugh.

Laughter is one of the clearest signs that two people are meant to be together.

And it doesn’t mean that you or your partner are professional comedians; it just means that you both value happiness, you both feel joy being around each other, and you both know what makes the other person laugh.

There’s no greater joy than making the person you love to laugh, and knowing how to make each other laugh in even the hardest and toughest times is essential for the longevity of your relationship.

5) You Make Each Other Better

There are couples who don’t really want what’s best for each other.

These are people who don’t love their partner as much as they think they do; instead, they use their partner as a tool to elevate their own ego, and can’t stand the idea of their partner climbing while they’re not.

But you and your partner are the complete opposite.

You wish only the best for each other — the best opportunities, the best promotions, the best everything.

You want your partner to succeed because you don’t see them as your underling; you see them in all their beauty, and you recognize their true potential more than anyone else.

So you push each other, always, positively, and proactively.

You recognize when the other person is “off” and do what you can to help them get back on their feet.

Not because your love is conditional, but because you want them to fulfill the potential you know they have.

6) You Believe The Same Things

Our personal values and beliefs are important to us; they frame the way we see and interact with the world.

So it’s essential that the person we’re destined to be with shares our deepest and most intimate values.

If there are differences at those levels, there would just be too many fundamental issues in the relationship, no matter how great every other part of it is.

So you know you’re destined to be with your partner if you very rarely find yourself disagreeing with their core beliefs.

You may disagree here and there, but overall you feel that you can build a life and a family with this person with little to no major conflicts.

And when there are differences?

You don’t let each other go to bed angry or upset.

You talk it through with the proper respect to hear each other out, and prioritize the health of your relationship over the disagreement.

7) You Both Show Up For Each Other

Being in a relationship means being there for them when it counts.

It’s easy to exchange loving texts and make empty promises and plans. It’s easy to show up when things are good and your schedule is convenient.

What really counts is when you give your significant other the time and commitment to really connect with them when the circumstances are less than ideal.

Showing up is more than just about being physically there too. It’s listening to them and making sure they can feel your presence.

It’s paying attention to their needs, both what they say and those hiding between the lines and giving them that support.

It’s taking into consideration what they’re feeling at the moment and giving them the space to breathe, feel, and think.

8) When You Think of Home, You Think of Each Other

Good relationships are just easy, and oftentimes it feels like fitting each other.

Despite your differences, the tension is minimal and your contrasts don’t really stand in the way of forming a deeper connection.

If anything, it informs the relationship and creates something more well-rounded and robust.

Other relationships can feel like you’re on a rollercoaster that’s going up and up forever; this doesn’t really feel like that.

It feels safe, calm, and more importantly, stable.

It can feel like this person is your tether to the rest of the world; come sunny days or heavy storms, this person serves as your anchor, and with them, everything just feels a lot more bearable.

9) You Ride Out the Storms Because You Believe In This

Even the most perfect relationships aren’t always smooth sailing.

There’s bound to be speed bumps that make you pause and wonder whether this person is the right fit for you. If they are truly right for you, the answer often feels like a resounding yes.

It’s not because conflicts are avoidable; it’s because you see qualities in them that make you confident that disagreements are something you can get through together.

Maybe they have good communication skills that allow you to dissect disagreements amicably.

Maybe they understand your need for personal space and are more than happy to give you time to think.

Whatever it is, they fit your needs so easily that making up feels like second nature.

10) You Both Feel Like Extensions of Each Other

You and your partner are in that sweet spot of being utterly familiar with each other and yet still having your own individual identities.

What makes the perfect relationship isn’t so much being 100% identical with the other person but having that ability to empathize with them and mesh with their own idiosyncrasies.

You don’t really feel the need to change each other; it’s just that being together makes you both better.

When they express their emotions, needs, and passions, you empathize with them on a truly emotional level and it’s easy to feel those things for yourself.

Despite this, the lines between you and your partner remain separate.

You resonate with each other deeply but still have that personal space that allows for a healthy relationship.

11) Your Life Goals Fit

If things are meant to be, they’re just meant to be. Even the most perfect relationships fail because of circumstances.

Maybe he wants to have kids at 30.

Maybe she wants to move to a different continent to pursue her career.

Sometimes the easiest indication of whether or not your partner was made for you is by looking at how viable the relationship is.

Outside your compatibility, does your relationship actually work?

Do you actually have the same timeline for your career, for wanting kids and having a family?

If you and your significant other are truly meant to be together, even the universe will make way.

The simplest, but often most crucial factors, such as career trajectory and personal development will just sync up effortlessly.

12) You Just Get Each Other

If telepathy were a thing, it would definitely feel like some secret magic is at play here.

One look across the room and you already know what the other person is thinking.

With too many inside jokes, shared passions, and tender quiet moments, even a blind person would see that you just get each other.

13) You’re both in the same place

You know how sometimes when you begin seeing someone, you enjoy the initial stages but then after a while, you realize that you’re actually at different stages in life.

Maybe you’re not ready to settle down just yet, but they’re already planning to buy a house in the burbs with a nice big yard for the kids.

Or they’ve just come out of a bad breakup and they just want to take things slow, whereas you’re ready to go the whole nine yards almost immediately.

But when you’re destined to be together, you both meet each other at the same stage in life. You both want the same things.

And this is why everything will probably work out because you’ll both want to settle down, get married, and have kids at the same time. There’s no ambiguity or awkward discussion about waiting for the right moment. This is it for both of you.

So if you can see that you are both are at a similar stage in life, and you both want the same things in the future (marriage, 2 kids, and a four-wheel drive) then you can bet your bottom dollar that you’re destined to be together.

When it comes to being destined to be together, timing is everything.

14) You accept and even embrace each other’s flaws

We all have flaws, and seeing as we understand our soulmates so well, we recognize their imperfections and flaws in clear daylight.

The kicker?

When you’re destined to be together, you will fully embrace and accept the flaws in your partner because you know that it’s just who they are.

Nobody is perfect, and to be honest, you wouldn’t want to date anyone that is perfect. It’d be kind of freaky.

And if you’re lucky enough to meet your soulmate, you realize that every trait has a positive as well as a negative side.

It’s the task of every soulmate to always look for the good, even when it appears like it’s negative on the surface.

15) They challenge you

When you’re destined to be together, it isn’t always bells and whistles.

They make life interesting because they challenge your views, habits, and ways of thinking.

You’re meant to be with your soulmate because they help you expand and improve your life, and their deep connection with you is enough to make you take those first steps.

They also act as a mirror to reflect on yourself, your values, and how you’re living your life.

Whatever negativity, issues or insecurities you have will be right there in front of you, waiting for you to confront them and overcome them to become a better human being.

16) You feel each other’s pain

The empathy between the two of you is strong.

You know when they are happy, sad, or in pain. And it’s the same for them.

It’s almost like you know what it’s like to walk in each other’s shoes.

And you understand each other so well that the second you see them you already know what mood they are in.

The good news?

Because you know each other so well, you’re able to lift each other out of a bad mood.

When you’re able to do that, you know that your connection is next level.

17) You get the feeling you have known them longer than you have

An interesting thing that happens when you’re destined to be together is that you always get the feeling that you have been around each other before.

One or both of you will comment that you feel like you’ve known each other forever.

You’ll laugh at how you didn’t know what to do without them and you might even have some flashbacks of lives you entered into together previously.

18) Your connection runs deep. It’s more than just a sexual connection

It’s more than your “love for each other”.

You’re not just boyfriend or girlfriend or husband or wife. Your relationship transcends all of those labels.


Because words don’t do your connection justice. It’s too deep. You “get” each other on a deeper spiritual plain.

You understand their feelings and thoughts and everything in between. You know what you both want. And you know that you’re both going to help each other get it.

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. Check out my latest book on the Hidden Secrets of Buddhism and How it Saved My Life. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

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