The dating world can be tricky. While we all strive to find a genuinely good person in our lives, people can be deceptive.
It can be hard to tell the difference between someone genuine and someone who is a wolf in sheep’s clothing.
What I’m trying to say is that beneath their exterior could be a seed of toxicity waiting to grow and make itself known.
Well, in this article, we’ll be going through 13 signs that you’re dating a genuinely good person and quite possibly, a keeper! Let’s get started.
1) They are your biggest supporter
You know you’re dating a genuinely good person when they are your biggest supporter. Aka, your number one fan.
No matter what you want to do or how outlandish your ideas are, they are behind you 100%.
You might want to start your own business, run a marathon or walk the Great Wall of China. They’ll be all for it because they know that’s what will make you happy.
But also, as your biggest supporter, they believe in you and your capabilities.
That’s why they may also act as your pick-me-up. That means when you start doubting yourself, they’ll whisper supportive words in your ear to remind you that you can do it!
2) They make you feel appreciated
How do you feel when you think about the person you’re dating? Do you get that warm, fuzzy feeling inside? And do you feel loved? How about appreciated?
If thinking about your partner gives you fluttery and positive feelings, that’s a good sign that they make you feel appreciated.
But let’s back this up with some evidence.
A person that appreciates you may let you know it by:
- Showering you with hugs and kisses
- Being affectionate
- Complimenting you
- Telling you straight up!
Does that sound like the person you’re dating? If so, that’s a thumbs up in the good person department.
3) They are thoughtful and generous
Another way they might make you feel appreciated is by being thoughtful and generous.
They don’t wait for those obligatory days of Valentine’s Day or Christmas to treat you. Any time of year is up for grabs when it comes to their thoughtfulness and generosity.
Your partner might act on their thoughtfulness by: surprising you with flowers at work, texting that they’re thinking of you, or taking you on a spontaneous trip to a place you mentioned in passing.
If they make an effort to put a smile on your face and keep you happy, that’s a positive sign you have a good person at your hands.
4) They’re always dishing out the compliments
Compliments make us feel good, don’t they? Especially when it comes from your partner, as it’s a reminder of how attracted they are to you.
Well, a genuinely good person wants to make their partner happy. Being honest with their feelings is one way to do that.
And compliments are the good kind of honesty, the type of honesty that helps make us feel appreciated.
So, if your partner thinks you look irresistible in that little black dress, they’ll tell you. Or, if they like how you’ve styled your hair, they’ll speak up.
Basically, the person you’re dating won’t miss out on a chance to remind you how drop-dead gorgeous you are.
5) They are honest with you
Let’s touch on the topic of honesty now, shall we?
Honesty and trust are the foundation of a strong and healthy relationship.
That means a genuinely good person will want to be honest. And not just the good kind of honesty. The not-so-good kind, too.
For example, if they’ve been distant or on edge, they won’t come up with some unbelievable excuse. They’ll tell you the truth.
And if you’ve said something to upset them, they’ll make light of it rather than allow any tension or hostility to build.
By being honest, your partner doesn’t leave you doubting their intentions or feelings for you. Let’s not forget that honesty also helps to build trust.
6) They open up to you
Part of being honest is also being able to open up to you.
Like I said, if something bothers your partner, they’ll tell you what’s going on. And that’s good because doing so helps you understand and know them more deeply.
This helps deepen your connection and, as I mentioned, plays a part in building upon that honesty and trust.
Is the person you’re dating not afraid to be open and vulnerable with you?
If you can relate, that’s another positive sign that your partner is a genuinely good person.
7) They are trustworthy
I’ve touched upon honesty, so it’s only natural I bring trustworthiness into the equation.
When your partner tells you they’re going to do something or go somewhere, do you believe them?
Or do they leave you questioning what they’re getting up to behind your back?
If you can say you trust your partner, then that might be because their actions align with their words.
This means when they say they will do something, they do it. Or when they say they’ll be somewhere at a specific time, they’ll be there for that time. They take their commitments seriously.
Another sign of trustworthiness is when your partner doesn’t withhold things from you.
Instead, they opt for that healthy dose of honesty and tell you the truth. Therefore, they leave you no reason to believe you can’t trust them.
8) They respect you
Is your partner kind and considerate? Do they allow you to have opinions without making you feel bad about them?
If your partner respects you, they’ll treat you with kindness and compassion and consider your feelings. The last thing a genuinely good person would want to do is purposely hurt you!
They also won’t force you to do anything you’re uncomfortable with, judge or belittle you for thinking a certain way.
So, you don’t have to fear being seen as stupid or small for saying something they disagree with!
9) They treat other people with kindness
This kindness and consideration extend to other people as well.
I mean, it’s one thing to be kind to you, especially in those initial stages of dating when everything is all sunshine and light.
But what about the people they don’t fancy?
How they treat their friends, family, and strangers is very telling of their character. There’s a reason why they say you can tell how nice someone is by how they treat the waiter!
Look at how they treat others around them. Are they kind and respectful to their friends or family? What about strangers? Are they nice to the waiter?
How they are towards others is a good thing to take note of. It could indicate how they may treat you once you’re past those initial, lustful stages of dating.
10) They respect your personal space and independence
Let’s go back to respect for a moment.
You know you’re dating a genuinely good person when they respect your personal space and independence.
A sure sign of an unhealthy and toxic relationship is when your partner tries to cut you off from your friends and family. Or when they keep tabs on you whenever you want to go out and do your own thing.
But a good human being understands that having some personal space to breathe is necessary for your growth, peace and happiness.
So, they’ll give you that space to work on your goals, spend time with your pals, or pursue your interests.
11) They know how to effectively communicate
Relationships are full of ups and downs. Sure, you have the good side of it when you’re all loved up and in each other’s good books. But there will also be disagreements and conflicts.
But when you’re dating a genuinely good person, they won’t seek to try and hurt you in those moments.
Instead, they’ll handle any disagreements through clear and effective communication. That way, you can get to the heart of the problem and come to a resolution that works for both of you.
What they won’t do is resort to shouting, screaming and throwing every insult in the book possible to hurt your feelings or put you down.
If they respect you, they’ll always consider and protect your feelings, even during the low points of your relationship.
12) They listen to you
Part of being able to effectively communicate is also being able to listen. And I mean really listen.
It won’t feel like you’re talking to a brick wall or that your words are going in one ear and out the other. They also won’t shut you off mid-sentence and not allow you to get a word in.
A genuinely good person will listen to understand your point of view, even offering suggestions when they can to try and help.
When someone has the ability to truly listen (and without judgement), it also makes it easier for you to open up to them and, in turn, be honest with your feelings.
13) They take ownership of their mistakes
You also know you’re dating a genuinely good person if they take ownership of their mistakes.
Some people have a talent for blaming others for something that was their fault. It could be because they are blinded to the error of their ways or because taking responsibility is too hard for them.
But a good person won’t shift the blame onto you if something was their doing. They’ll take responsibility for their errors and be honest about it.
They’ll also reflect upon these mistakes and seek to learn and grow from them.
Not only does this help them be better and more rounded, it also helps keep your relationship happy and healthy.
Knowing if you’re dating a genuinely good person can be tricky.
But rest assured that if your partner demonstrates many of these traits, that’s a good indication you have a partner at your disposal who is both genuine and pure!
Also read: 10 things genuinely good people never do