Pearl Nash
You don’t really enjoy looking at yourself in the mirror, and you often catch yourself thinking “I wish I looked better.”
But you know what, you’re probably just being a bit too harsh on yourself.
In this article, I will give you 12 signs you’re actually better looking than you think you are.
1) People notice you
You would catch people looking in your direction every so often, and some might even smile and wave at you.
If you’re not at all pleasing to the eyes, this usually doesn’t happen.
See, people are naturally drawn to things they find attractive, so even if they don’t say it outright, the fact that people would keep on noticing you means you are, indeed, attractive.
Sure, you might not be a Marilyn Monroe or an Angelina Jolie, but you don’t have to be. You’re pretty enough to catch peoples’ eyes.
2) You make guys a little self-conscious
Body language is a wonderful thing, because a guy doesn’t have to actually say “I think you’re pretty” for you to know you’re making him feel things.
If guys tend to get self-conscious around you—like, say, they fix their shirt, touch their hair, or straighten up from a slouch—then it’s because they think you’re attractive.
Hell, they might even try to avoid making eye contact with you completely, just so that they’ll be a little more comfortable in your presence.
This happens even if a guy is not even interested in dating you. Guys simply just want to look nice—and not make a total fool of themselves— when there’s a good-looking girl around.
3) You get special treatment
You’re no celebrity or VIP, and yet you keep getting special treatment from the people around you… especially that of the opposite sex.
A barista might give you a free chocolate or a coupon to go with your drink, and you might have people holding the door open for you even though you’re perfectly able to.
Hell, call it unfair but you might have gotten better grades and feedback at work even though you know you’re not supposed to. It’s science-based. There are studies that fortune (and opportunities) indeed favor the beautiful.
So the most likely explanation behind why you keep on getting special treatment is that you’re attractive and people like you for that.
4) People compliment your style
You might not have a face that would launch a thousand ships (or at least you don’t think you do), but you have style and know it.
Dressing up is an art that you have perfected, and you know it because people keep on complimenting your style.
But it’s not just your “style”, or the clothes you wear that people are complimenting. They’re also complimenting you—the person wearing the clothes—for making them look good.
So go and stand tall with your chin up—you ain’t half bad, trust me!
5) Someone once said you’re intimidating
One of the prettiest, smartest, most talented people I know laments about feeling unattractive because she’s still single at 30.
But the truth is that many guys actually really like her, but they don’t talk about it because they’re afraid that she’d turn them down.
So if someone has even told you that you’re intimidating even if you think you’re not… then it’s probably because they actually do find you attractive.
And it’s easy to see this from your side as well.
Think of how you felt when you were near your crush—you would feel happy, but also a little bit intimidated. That is how guys probably feel around you.
6) People wonder why you’re still single
People get surprised when you tell them you’re still single, even more so if you tell them that you haven’t even dated anyone yet.
It’s just hard for them to grasp that someone as good-looking as you hasn’t been taken yet—surely you must have admirers flocking around you!
You might think they’re just pulling your leg and trying to make you feel good, but honestly that’s just your insecurities talking.
You have nothing to lose from trusting their judgment anyways. So you might as well ask yourself the same question—why are you still single?
7) Women get jealous when their BF gets close to you
Do you notice unavailable guys back away from you when their girlfriends are nearby? Well, it’s probably because they’re afraid their partners would get jealous and they don’t want that.
It’s even possible that their girlfriends already talked to them about it—warned them not to go near you or else!
Now, think. They wouldn’t be threatened by you if you’re not at all good looking, would they?
Of course not. The fact that you’re pretty is why they’re so intimidated by you, and some of them might even go and try to chase you off.
8) You actually look good in your old photos
You feel ugly now but when you see a photo of you from five years ago, you think “Well, I wasn’t so bad!”. You might even think in the back of the head that you were quite pretty then.
But chances are that when that photo was taken, you were already feeling like you aren’t attractive at all.
There’s probably a problem with how you see yourself. Even if you’re the prettiest girl in the hood, if you always see yourself as unpretty, you’ll never ever feel like you’re good looking.
You probably have dysmorphia and self-esteem issues, and you must address them before they take over your life.
9) You get free stuff
You would go to the bar and you’d get free drinks, whether it’s because the bartender decided to give you a drink in the house or because another patron took a shine to you.
Or you might muse about wanting to buy a new dress someday and all of a sudden, you have people offering to buy the dress for you.
You get these things not only because you’re charming, but also because you’re good-looking.
It’s hard to tell for sure why people give freebies to good looking people, but it’s nonetheless one of the signs you can rely on.
10) You get a lot of free passes
Society is more biased towards anything more attractive. That’s just the way it is. For example, we’re more likely to excuse a cute cat knocking over a vase than we would if a frog did the same thing.
And the same thing happens when it comes to humans, too. Your looks influence how gracefully (or not) the people around you respond to your mistakes.
People are more forgiving to you for some reason—they laugh at your mistakes instead of condemning you and you’re always given one more chance.
Sometimes you might even find yourself wondering how you keep getting away with things. And that’s probably because…you got it, you’re good looking!
11) People are just nice towards you by default
It’s unfair, but people will just be naturally meaner towards people who they think are “ugly” and, on the flip side, act nice when they think someone is pretty.
So if people act nice and welcoming towards you by default, then chances are that they think you’re a pretty attractive person.
In fact, a lot of people who used to look legitimately attractive are often shocked at how people suddenly stopped being cold or hostile towards them after they had gotten their glow-up.
12) People get mad at you for voicing your insecurities
You would complain about how you feel ugly—perhaps in social media, perhaps in person—and you would have people getting mad at YOU for voicing your feelings.
It’s almost as if it is somehow wrong for you to feel insecure about your body, and that you’re not allowed to even feel this way!
They might even take it personally, or assume that you’re trying to humble-brag.
This is because, as far as they can see, you are beautiful and that there is absolutely no way that you actually feel insecure about your looks.
So when you express your insecurities, THEY end up thinking that you’re trying to shove the fact that you’re prettier than they are straight in their faces.
Last words
If you can relate to almost all of the items in this list, then you clearly just don’t know how good looking you are.
You have to address why this is happening. You probably equate validation with attractiveness, or you have a distorted view of yourself because of trauma or too much exposure to social media.
It won’t be easy to deal with, but you should certainly try to do something about it.
It would be unfortunate to live your whole life feeling like you’re an ugly duckling when you truly aren’t.
