Is there something special about you that draws people in? Something that makes people feel good when they’re around you?
Being that kind of person isn’t as common as you’d think.
But there are certain signs that could indicate you’re this rare breed of human being – someone who everyone enjoys being around.
In this article, we’re going to explore 9 of these signs.
So get ready, because you might just find out that you’re a lot more special than you realize.
1) You’re a positive force
Life can be tough sometimes. We all face our fair share of challenges and obstacles. But when we’re around someone who constantly maintains a positive outlook, it can make those challenges seem a little less daunting.
These are the people who help us see the silver linings, who inspire us to keep pushing forward, no matter what.
If you’re the kind of person who always tries to put a positive spin on things, who always tries to lift others up instead of pulling them down, then chances are you’re that rare breed of person – someone everyone enjoys being around.
2) You genuinely care about others
One of the defining characteristics of people who are a joy to be around is their genuine concern and care for others.
And I mean, really care. It’s not just about asking how someone’s day was and then tuning out as they answer. It’s about really listening, really empathizing, and showing genuine interest in other people’s lives.
I remember a time when I was going through a particularly tough phase. It felt like everything was going wrong, and I was struggling to keep my head above water.
One of my friends, let’s call her Jane, could tell something was off. Instead of brushing it off or avoiding the topic, she asked me how I was doing. When I started to give my usual “I’m fine” response, she looked at me and said, “No, really. How are you doing?”
That simple act of genuine concern made all the difference. It showed me that Jane really cared about my well-being. She didn’t just ask out of courtesy or to make conversation – she genuinely wanted to know how I was.
3) You’re a great listener
In a world where everyone seems to be constantly talking, a good listener stands out. It’s one thing to hear what someone is saying, but to truly listen – to absorb and understand – is a whole different ball game.
Being a great listener doesn’t just mean staying quiet while the other person talks. It means engaging with the conversation, asking follow-up questions, and showing genuine interest.
Did you know that our brains process words at a rate of 125 to 150 words per minute, but we think at 1,000 to 3,000 words per minute? Yet despite this ability, we often don’t use it to its full potential.
This discrepancy between our processing speed and thinking speed allows us plenty of extra processing power to truly listen and engage with what someone is saying.
Being heard is one of the most fundamental human needs – and great listeners fulfill this need in spades.
4) You’re approachable
You know you’re a pleasant to be around when people keep coming to you for advice and pep talk.
We all know those people who seem to have a kind of invisible barrier around them, making us hesitate before approaching them. And then there are those who have a welcoming aura, an open demeanor that invites conversation and interaction.
Approachable people are easy to talk to. They make you feel comfortable expressing your thoughts and feelings, without fear of judgment or criticism. They’re also often good at making others feel special and valued.
5) You’re authentic
Authentic people are the real deal in this digital era.
These people don’t put on a front or try to fit into a mold. They’re comfortable with who they are and they aren’t afraid to show it.
They express their thoughts and feelings honestly, without worrying about what others might think. This doesn’t mean they’re rude or disrespectful – quite the opposite. They respect others enough to be honest with them.
Being around someone who is authentic can be truly refreshing. It encourages us to be true to ourselves as well, creating an environment of honesty and acceptance.
6) You’re empathetic
Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. It’s about being able to put yourself in someone else’s shoes and see the world from their perspective.
This quality is like a balm for the soul. When we’re going through a tough time, it’s incredibly comforting to be around someone who truly understands, or at least tries to understand, what we’re feeling.
Empathy helps us feel less alone. It shows us that someone cares enough to try and understand our experience, even if they haven’t been through it themselves.
7) You’re resilient
Life has a way of throwing curveballs at us. It’s not always smooth sailing, and sometimes we find ourselves facing challenges that test our strength and resolve.
I remember a time when I was hit by a series of setbacks that left me feeling defeated. It felt like I was stuck in a rut, with no light at the end of the tunnel.
But instead of giving up, I chose to push through. I reminded myself that it’s okay to fall, as long as you pick yourself up and keep going. And that’s exactly what I did.
Resilience is a powerful quality. It’s about having the mental and emotional strength to bounce back from adversity, to keep going even when things get tough.
And it’s something people admire. Being around someone who embodies resilience can be incredibly inspiring. It reminds us that we too have the strength to overcome our own challenges.
8) You’re humble
Humility is a trait that’s often overlooked in our success-driven society, but it’s a quality that people truly appreciate.
Being humble doesn’t mean downplaying your achievements or abilities. It’s about recognizing that everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, and respecting them for it.
Humble people don’t need constant praise or recognition to feel good about themselves. They’re comfortable in their own skin and don’t feel the need to prove their worth to others.
They also have an open mind and are always willing to learn from others, no matter their status or position.
9) You spread kindness
At the end of the day, kindness is what matters most.
It’s the way you treat others, the compassion you show, and the love you spread that truly define who you are as a person.
Kindness can be as simple as a smile, a word of encouragement, or a helping hand. It’s about making others feel valued and loved.
Being kind doesn’t just make others feel good – it makes you feel good too. It brings joy and fulfillment, and it contributes to a happier, more positive world.
Final thought: It’s about connection
As we journey through life, we’re all seeking something fundamental – connection.
We yearn for meaningful interactions, genuine conversations, and deep relationships. We crave the feeling of being understood, of being seen, of being valued.
The traits we’ve explored – positivity, empathy, resilience, kindness, and more – these aren’t just qualities of people everyone enjoys being around. They’re qualities that foster connection.
They’re about understanding and relating to others on a deeper level. They’re about making others feel seen and heard. They’re about spreading love and positivity in a world that often seems filled with negativity.
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