Adrian Volenik
We’d all like to have a positive influence on others. Unfortunately, our friends and family are typically the hardest nuts to crack.
They know us too well and often aren’t responsive to our advice or mentorship. Still, some people bring out the best in their friends and family.
Are you one of them? Let’s find out as here are the signs you’re a positive influence on your friends and family.
1) Your generosity knows no bounds
The best way to bring out the best in others is to lead by example. It doesn’t matter if you’re a young kid or an old grandparent. You can positively influence others no matter your age.
And that’s especially true when you’re incredibly generous and kind. You willingly offer your time, resources, and assistance without expecting anything in return.
Whether it’s helping with a move, lending a listening ear, or sharing your belongings, your selflessness builds trust and strengthens relationships.
Your friends and family know they can rely on you in times of need.
Plus, your small, unexpected acts of kindness, like sending an uplifting message, sharing a thoughtful gift, or performing a random act of generosity, brighten the days of those around you.
2) You embody the idea that challenges are opportunities for growth
Your strong belief in learning and getting better also motivates the people close to you. When things don’t go as planned, you see them as chances to grow, and you encourage your loved ones to also face challenges confidently.
Your ability to bounce back inspires others, showing them that setbacks are temporary and they too can get through tough times. Just like you did.
I can proudly say I positively influenced some of my relatives when I moved to a different country and made a complete 180 regarding my life and career.
By seeing what I did and by hearing my stories of life transition and emphasizing how it led to personal and professional growth, I inspired them to take the leap and also pursue a more fulfilling path.
3) Your arms are open to all
Another important sign of positive influence is if you welcome diversity and ensure that everyone feels valued and respected in your presence.
Unfortunately, not all families or even friends are inclusive. They have (too) many prejudices about certain demographics. Not to mention that uncle or aunt who is still incredibly bigoted even though they aren’t even that old.
But you try to positively influence them by celebrating everyone’s differences and promoting an atmosphere of acceptance.
You’re promoting unity and harmony among friends and family from various backgrounds and perspectives.
And it works. They all feel comfortable around you.
4) You naturally assume the role of a mentor
All of the signs I mentioned simply prove that you naturally assume the role of a mentor. Even if you never wanted to.
You just slip into the role seamlessly.
You share your experiences to benefit those who need your direction. Whether it’s career advice, life lessons, or practical knowledge, you’re a treasure trove of valuable insights that help your loved ones navigate their own paths more effectively.
5) Your sense of humor is a breath of fresh air
If you have a knack for finding humor in everyday situations, I’m sure you noticed your laughter is infectious.
I found that in difficult moments, being able to lighten the mood with a well-timed joke or a playful attitude is a valuable coping mechanism for most people.
Laughter truly is the best medicine, and if you crack jokes around your friends and family, you’re definitely a positive influence, and they love having you around.
But there might be something else that sets you apart and inspires your loved ones.
6) Your creative spirit is inspiring
When you approach problem-solving with innovative ideas, you also encourage others to explore their own creativity.
Your readiness to think outside the box inspires fresh perspectives and opens up new avenues for exploration.
For example, instead of the typical birthday party, you plan a themed celebration with unique decorations and activities tailored to the birthday person’s interests.
If they love science, you create a mini science fair at home with fun experiments, sparking curiosity and creativity in everyone.
7) You’re a skilled mediator when conflicts arise
Even though we love our friends and family more than anything, it doesn’t mean there can’t be fights and disagreements.
In fact, I’d argue that we quarrel even more with them than with people we aren’t as connected with.
That’s why it’s important to have at least one cool-headed person who can find common ground and encourage constructive discussions.
If that person is you, you not only have a positive influence but also help mend strained relationships among friends and family.
Your calm and rational approach is key to resolving any disputes and promotes understanding and harmony.
8) Patience is your virtue
I wrote on many occasions that patience isn’t my virtue, and I admire people who have it. If you want to positively influence others, you simply have to be patient.
A sign that you bring out the best in others is if you understand that personal growth takes time and that everyone progresses at their own pace.
You can wait and provide unflinching support, allowing those around you to make it without feeling rushed or pressured.
For example, your sibling is on a journey to improve their health and fitness. They don’t see immediate results, but you consistently offer them encouragement and praise.
You don’t fail to remind them that progress comes in small steps and lapses are normal. And because you’re so understanding and patient, you motivate them to stay committed to their goals.
9) You openly express admiration
Most people take their friends and family for granted. Not you. You express admiration for their unique qualities and strengths.
You give out genuine and heartfelt compliments, boosting their self-esteem and making them feel appreciated and valued for their individuality.
For instance, when your friend finally accomplishes a long-held goal, you tell them how impressed you are by their dedication and hard work.
Their achievement is remarkable, and you’re genuinely proud of them. Which shows.
10) Your relentless optimism shines brightly during challenging times
Being an optimist in today’s world isn’t easy, is it? With the looming climate change, AI, wars, famine, etc., you might find it tough to stay upbeat.
But if you have an optimistic outlook, it might rub off on others. Your faith in a better future and your ability to see opportunities within difficulties inspire hope.
When the going gets tough, your positivity is a guiding light, encouraging your loved ones to persevere with resilience and determination.
Whenever my wife asks me what I think about the world’s issues, I try to give my opinion in a positive light. I always try to find a silver lining and appease her mind.
She already spends too much time worrying about everyday things anyway.
11) You’re committed to personal growth and self-improvement
You’re not afraid to look at yourself and try to become a better person. You lead by example, showing that understanding yourself is really important for getting better in life.
This inspires your loved ones to also start figuring out who they are and how to grow as individuals.
You show that self-awareness is a vital tool for personal development, motivating them to venture on their own journeys of self-discovery.
When you want to learn a new skill, you openly share your journey with your friends and family.
For instance, if you decide to take up a new hobby like painting, you invite them to join you in exploring their creative side.
Your contagious enthusiasm for learning encourages them to step out of their comfort zones and try new things.
12) You’re a masterful communicator
And lastly, you’re a positive influence on friends and family when you can communicate openly about anything and everything.
You’re capable of expressing your thoughts and feelings clearly and empathetically. You actively listen and validate their views, creating an environment where trust and understanding thrive.
Plus, when you’re comfortable discussing any issue, you’re more likely to address problems as they arise.
This proactive approach can prevent conflicts from escalating and help find solutions more effectively.
Final thoughts
In order to bring out the best in others, you need to be the best version of yourself. That doesn’t mean you have to be perfect or fake it.
People (and especially family and friends) can see through BS and relate more with people who are flawed, just like them.
