10 signs you’re a high-value person, according to psychology

Imagine you’re a Ferrari automobile, but you look in the mirror and see a beat-up, 1995 sedan with no paint and smashed headlights. 

Sadly, all too many of us don’t see our own value and underestimate the enormous power and potential inside us. 

That’s why this timely reminder from psychologists is so crucial. 

This is a look at the key indications that you are actually a high-value person who’s on the track to wonderful experiences and a promising future. 

Let’s dive in. 

1) You’re always improving and growing

You’re on a growth curve with no plans to stop. 

You regularly seek out new knowledge and skills, learning for its own sake and also to improve your career prospects and life fulfillment. 

The components of your life plan are threefold: setting goals, assessing progress and having the willpower to stick to it and progress. 

“First, he says, you need to establish the motivation for change and set a clear goal,” notes psychologist Roy Baumeister, PhD. “Second, you need to monitor your behavior toward that goal. The third component is willpower. Whether your goal is to lose weight, kick a smoking habit, study more, or spend less time on Facebook, willpower is a critical step to achieving that outcome.”

2) Resilience in adversity

You face down life’s challenges with a strong heart and determination. 

You do your best to stay optimistic and have a constructive approach to the pitfalls and disappointments that come your way, without taking them too personally. 

Using your problem-solving skills and emotional intelligence (EQ) you do your best to navigate conflicts and setbacks in your personal and professional life effectively. 

Sometimes there’s nothing you can do. Sometimes there is something you can do. 

Either way you don’t give up or play the victim

3) Your actions align with your values

This is one of the most crucial markers of a person’s value:

How closely they align their actions with their values. 

“A large part of being a high-value person is your willingness to express the sacred values you believe in for the world to see,” explains business coach and mental health writer Michelle Saya.

Having high-minded ideals and inspiring values is one thing. Living up to them (or trying to) is something else entirely. 

Those who find ways to powerfully align what they believe with what they do become exponentially effective, respected and fulfilled in life. 

They are radically honest with themselves and others, which creates a powerful reinforcing and strengthening effect.

This ties into the next point:

4) You balance collaboration and independence

You are capable of working independently but also work well in a team. 

It’s not just a job interview cliche, it’s who you really are.

You’re able to wear both hats and still get the job done with flair. 

This points to your versatility and ability to adapt to different social and professional roles. 

You’re not just the quiet lady who sits behind her computer, but you’re not just the  busy social event organizer either. 

You’re both, depending on what the situation and your ambitions call for!

And that’s a powerful and high-quality thing. 

5) You enforce healthy boundaries and standards

You understand and respect your own limits and boundaries as well as those of other people. 

The boundaries you set are for real, and you stick to them. 

If you break up with a repeatedly abusive guy and he keeps coming back, you don’t relent and go back down that same dark path. 

You stick to it. 

“Setting and respecting boundaries is a key trait of high-value individuals,” points out psychology writer Al-Amanah Mart. “They know their limits and communicate them clearly, which helps prevent burnout and maintain healthy relationships.”

This goes in any area:

If you’re in a job that exploits and underpays you and you say that you’ll need a higher salary to continue, you don’t stay even when the management doesn’t raise your salary. 

You have a boundary and standard, and when it’s not met you leave.

6) You appreciate constructive feedback

When somebody criticizes you, your tendency is to consider whether it has any use. 

Are they making a potentially valid point or just venting at you? 

You appreciate constructive feedback that can help you improve yourself and grow your self-awareness. 

If it’s not constructive, you do your best to practice patience and restraint in responding. 

In handing out feedback you always try to make it useful to others rather than just random criticism or motivated by any kind of mean-spirited intention. 

7) You’re true to yourself and express yourself

You do your best to be true to yourself and express that honestly. 

If you’re furious it doesn’t mean you throw a rock at somebody, of course, but it does mean you acknowledge that anger in yourself and try to be true to it. 

If you’re surrounded by people on a very different path from you in life, you also honor your own path instead of doubting yourself. 

You align what you do with your value system and are honest about that instead of looking or outer approval and validation. 

As Saya notes: “When your thoughts, behavior, actions match in complete alignment with your personal value system, your radar for attracting people, opportunities, lifestyle changes to reinforce your standards becomes an automatic consequence of your shift.”

That’s just it: You express your true self without fear of judgment, which encourages genuine connections and inspires others to be authentic as well. It’s an all around win-win. 

8) You handle conflict maturely and responsibly 

When conflicts come up, you do your best to handle them maturely and responsibly. 

You’re a high-value person because you do your best to de-escalate instead of always having to be right or get your way. 

You have practiced self-awareness and are more in touch with your own biases and blind spots as well, so you know that you’re also far from perfect. 

You look for solutions that will benefit everyone or at least lead to a cessation of nastiness and rancor.

If the problem can’t be solved or is irreconcilable, you have the courage to walk away rather than continuing a toxic cycle. 

9) You genuinely appreciate your blessings

You’re genuinely grateful for all the blessings in your life. 

This includes the people you love and who care about you, too. You say good things about them even when they’re not around and you’re their greatest advocate.

“You stand up for people close to you even when they are not around. You talk well about people behind their backs,” notes the An-Noor School of Entrepreneurship.

This creates a cycle of positive reinforcement and positive intentions around you. 

Folks know that you have their back, and they have yours, too. 

You appreciate your blessings, most of all the people that are close to you and who share their time and energy with you. 

This also ties into the next point: 

10) You cheer others on in their success 

You celebrate and support the achievements of others in a genuine way. 

You’re not threatened when others have big wins, because you see life and work as a win-win situation, not a zero-sum game. 

It’s part of your overall positive outlook which believes in a can-do approach to life and its challenges. 

“Having a positive outlook doesn’t mean ignoring reality, but rather approaching life with optimism and hope,” points out Mart.

“High-value individuals maintain a positive attitude, which can enhance their well-being and that of those around them.”

When you see others hitting their stride and also scoring wins, all the better!

It’s inspiration for you if you’re still struggling to find your way, and it’s sharing the wealth if you’re already riding high!

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