Not all separations are final and lead to divorce. In fact, your husband may want you back, although he may not be that forthcoming about it.
The good news is he’ll show undeniable signs that he wants to rekindle the love. It’s just a matter of paying attention to these 17 gestures:
1) He’s frank about getting back together
If reconciling came out of the cat’s mouth himself, then it’s obviously the case. But of course, talk is cheap. He may tell you he misses you, but this may not necessarily translate into action.
That said, you know it’s the real deal if he manages to demonstrate the other signs listed below.
2) He’s taken responsibility for what happened
That means he’s no longer making the excuses he has made for so long.
He’s no longer blaming you – or other people, for that matter.
He’s doing what he’s supposed to do, as he promised.
3) He’s trying to fix the problems that caused you to separate in the first place
Taking responsibility for what he’s done is just the tip of the iceberg. Fixing the problems that caused you to separate in the first place is a clear sign that he wants to get back together with you.
For example, it could take the form of going to therapy or possibly scaling back from his work responsibilities.
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Suppose you’re reading this article on how to save your marriage alone. In that case, chances are your union isn’t what it used to be… and maybe it’s so bad that you feel like your world is falling apart.
You feel like all the passion, love, and romance have completely faded.
You feel like you and your partner can’t stop yelling at each other.
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4) He’s talking about future goals – and you’re included
Say you had a casual conversation with your estranged hubby. You ask him how he’s been, and he talks about future plans.
To your surprise, you’re included in the picture.
This is pretty obvious. In his heart of hearts, he still sees his future with you. Mentioning this – even accidentally – may be the push you need to come back and reconcile eventually.
It’s up to you if you want to have a future with him as well.
5) He communicates with you frequently
You know your husband wants to reconcile if he keeps communicating with you. And it’s not just asking about the kids – or the pets. He calls or texts the same way he did before separating.
He’s doing this because he wants to rekindle the connection you once had.
On the other hand, he could be trying to offset the poor communication skills that led to the separation. Essentially, it’s one of his attempts to fix the problems that caused you to drift apart in the first place.
6) He often relieves your good ‘ol memories
If he often reminisces the good times you had together, it’s clear that he still wants you back.
And it’s not just a hunch thing, mind you. This is actually supported by science.
According to a Psychology Today report, remembering the good old days can revive a relationship.
In distressed couples (e.g., separated just like you,) it could elicit sadder feelings. For one, it can make you “realize how much happier they used to be than they are now.”
In other words, reminiscing places a possible light at the end of the tunnel. It could actually make you want to reconcile and relive your glory days once again.
7) He keeps on asking for advice
If your old partner keeps asking for advice, it’s not just because he needs help. Instead, he may be trying to gain your favor again.
It’s what experts call the Franklin Effect. Explains a Science of People report:
“There is immense value in asking advice from people we want to get closer to…
“It states that when you ask someone for help, it makes them like you and want to help you more… As social creatures, we feel good when we help others, and those positive feelings establish a bond.”
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8) He’s still looking out for you
And, even if he’s miles away from you, he’ll still do his best to look out for you. It’s as simple as sending you a message saying, “Text me when you get there.”
Alternately, he could be gifting you a taser or pepper spray to bring around ‘just cause.’
9) He’d drop anything for you
Say you had car problems. Worse, you may need to be hospitalized. If your husband is serious about getting back together, he’ll drop anything and rush to be at your side.
He could be at work – maybe even overseas on a business trip. He loves you even though you’ve separated. You still – and will – always come first.
10) He obviously trusts you
He needs to go on an emergency trip, and he can’t find a dog sitter at the last moment. Without batting an eyelash, his first instinct is to leave his dog with you.
It may not seem like much, but it’s a sign that he still trusts you. He knows you got his back, which is just one of the many things why he’s determined to get back with you.
The only question is: will you trust him once again?
11) He’s grateful – and it shows
A husband who shows his gratefulness is eager to get you back.
It’s more than just constant thank yous, no. Remember: actions always speak louder than words. So, for example, he could show his gratitude by offering help or giving a simple gift.
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12) He’s very curious
True enough, a husband who doesn’t love you anymore will not care about what’s going in with your life. But if he keeps on asking – maybe even prying about your life – it’s clear that he wants to get back with you.
It’s an age-old trick, you see. He wants to know what you’re up to, specifically if you’re dating someone else. He wants to get back into the picture, and he wants to make sure that there’s no resistance along the way.
13) He enlists the help of your kids, family, or friends
It’s possible that he’s done many things on this list, but you haven’t really noticed it. As a last resort, he’ll turn to your kids, family, or friends.
For example, he may be asking them to talk him up to you.
Perhaps, they’re acting as informants – telling him what you’re doing and where you’ll be. So don’t be surprised if he’s able to get in the way of your dates (more about this later.)
14) He keeps on flirting with you
Is your husband still flirty with you? Well, it is a possible sign that he still wants to get back together with you.
It worked out in the past, after all!
Mind you, his way of flirting might not be the ‘usual,’ e.g., a sexy stare or a brush on the arm. Instead, he could be doing other ‘subtler’ things, like reciting things or standing up taller.
Get the complete list of flirting signs here.
15) He’s there wherever you go
Sure, he knows your routine. You’ve been together for quite some time, after all. But if he manages to appear in areas (or at times) that he wouldn’t have known otherwise, he may be receiving assistance.
Remember sign 13 – enlisting the help of others? Of course, they could be telling him where you’re about to go, which is why he always manages to be there.
He may be trying to fake destiny in his attempt to get back with you. In his mind, maybe it’ll convince you that you’re actually meant to be together.
16) He hasn’t dated anyone seriously
Men often engage in rebound relationships to get their exes jealous. But if your husband indeed wants to get you back, he’ll do the opposite.
He won’t date anyone.
This could go on for months, years even. He may have flings from time to time, but they don’t last as long.
And, even if you ask him about these flings, he’ll just stay mum.
Deep in his heart, he’d rather stay single than be with anyone. Simply put, there’s no replacing you!
17) He gets in the way of your dating life
For some reason, all of your dates keep getting foiled by him. It’s not a coincidence but a sign that your husband wants you back for good.
Blame it on his curiosity, or maybe someone is spilling the beans. Your kids or your family, perhaps?
Ultimately, his goal here is to prevent you from seeing anyone who could get in the way of your reconciliation.
Mind you, he won’t be afraid to make a fool of himself doing this. He’ll do anything to ensure that you don’t go out on that date!
Your separated husband may want to get you back, but the question is, do you want to get back together too?
See, saving the relationship when you’re the only one trying is challenging. Still, it doesn’t always mean your relationship should be scrapped.
Because if you still love your spouse, what you need is a plan of attack to mend your marriage.
Many things can slowly infect a marriage—distance, lack of communication, and sexual issues. These problems can lead to infidelity and disconnectedness if not dealt with correctly.
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