9 signs your partner will always be there for you when you need them, according to psychology

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We all want to believe in a happy-ever-after. 

Reality, unfortunately, is often disappointing.

You might be madly in love—and they might be the sweetest person in the world— but even that is not a guarantee.

A poll shows that 54% of people will consider divorce if their partner falls into debt. 

And according to a study, 12% of men will leave if their wives are diagnosed with conditions like cancer.

Thankfully, there are still people who remain loyal no matter what. You just have to know how to look for them.

Allow me to help you learn how to do that.

Here are 9 signs your partner will always be there for you when you need them, according to psychology.

1) They’re a person with high integrity

Take a hard look at your partner. 

Do  they possess traits of a person with high  integrity?

Are they honest, loyal, and principled?

Then you’re one lucky chap.

A person with integrity will find it extremely difficult to leave anyone in time of need—especially if they’re your partner and especially if you’re already married.

According to Dr. Eschenback, a person of integrity adheres to principles and commitments not accidentally or nonchalantly, but in a manner that informs her self-identity.

In other words, if they’re your partner, they will always do their best to act like your partner.

That’s not to say that people with integrity will never abandon people, of course. It’s just that when they do, they always have a good and perfectly reasonable reason.

They might cut off a friend for being a cheat or a thief, but they’re not going to leave you just because you got sick and lost your job.

2) They’re highly sensitive and empathetic

Society is full of people who look down on sensitive, empathetic people.

Sensitive men are told that they’re too “soft” and “unmanly”. Empathetic women are told that they’re “too emotional” and can’t make rational judgements.

But they’re the type of people you’d want to choose as a life-long partner!

Why?

Not only are they awesome to be with, they’re also likely to stick around. 

Research suggests LOW emotional intelligence contributes to people abandoning their spouses.

So if your partner is an empath, the chance is significantly lower. After all, empathy is the foundation of kindness and understanding.

They probably won’t abandon you the moment life gets tough. And even if you do break up, you’re likely going to get support from them as a friend.

3) They know how to communicate

Does your partner shut down when they have personal problems? Do they shut down when both of you have problems? Or worse, do they lash out or leave?

Then they might struggle to problem-solve and handle life’s hard knocks with you.

Given that ALL relationships rely fundamentally on communication, it should be no surprise that poor communication is one of the common causes behind divorce.

This is one of those things that goes both ways.

If your partner is so bad at talking things out that you don’t feel like discussing your problems with them, you wouldn’t want to stick around once things get hard.

At the same time, if your partner IS that bad at communication, they wouldn’t be able to talk to you properly about any problems they might have with you.

It can be easy enough to keep things working so long as things are going well, but it stops being “worth it” for both of you once things go south.

So if you want someone who can be there for you when you need them, find a partner who’s good at communicating—someone who listens to you with both ears, and talks to you in a respectful manner.

4) They’re naturally generous

Is your partner naturally giving? 

And not just to you and to their close friends and family?

By this I mean, are they generous to the waitstaff, to the taxi drivers, to charities and organizations…to anyone who needs a little bit of help, basically?

Be glad if your partner is this kind of person!

Someone who’s this caring and kind-hearted will not want to hurt the people closest to their heart if they can help it.

When you’re with a naturally generous person, all you have to do is ask and they’ll do whatever they can to support you.

5) They have accountability

Being in a relationship means that you’re both responsible for your relationship and, to a certain extent, one another.

A person who has accountability won’t abandon you when you need them the most.

They know they’re partly responsible for your wellbeing. 

They know that they’re partly responsible for your feelings.

They know that they share 50% of the responsibility of your relationship and they’ll always do their part no matter what.

They also won’t leave you just because you got fired because aside from their love for you, they know they have a very important role in your life.

6) They understand that love requires sacrifice

Life isn’t easy, and there are times when we must sacrifice something for the sake of love.

That sacrifice can be anything—dreams, money, time, and even a little bit of sanity.

If you suffer from self-esteem issues, for example, then you might be a needy partner who’s always in need of reassurance.

If you suffer from cancer, then both of you will have to live with the fact that not only do you have to spend money on treatments, it’s likely that you might also die early.

It’s normal for people in tough situations to balk and think “Why does this have to happen? Is this even worth it?” 

Or even “Should I end this now to cut my losses?”

A person who believes that love isn’t just roses and just 5pm kisses is someone who’ll be there for you when you need them. After all, they know that challenges are part of the package.

7) They’re always attentive and responsive 

Research shows that meeting one another’s emotional needs is fundamental to relationship satisfaction. These needs include feeling safe, happy and supported in challenging moments.

Does your partner pay attention to you? 

Like when you say something or do something, do they try to react even if they’re busy?

But more importantly, do they pay extra attention to you when things are a bit rough?

Do they notice the small changes in your mood?

Do they go “Hey, you seem overwhelmed.” or “Are you okay? Please tell me.”

Well, that just means they truly care about you and their relationship with you. And it could also mean that they’re going to stick around if you need them.

Heck, you won’t even have to ask for their help because they might already know.

8) They value interpersonal relationships

How are they with other people?

Are they close with their friends and family? Do they have friends at work? Are they nice to the neighbors?

Do they help people in need without hesitation?

Then you can rest assured that your partner will always be there for you when you need them.

There are people who easily cut off people who are “needy” and break up with their partners the moment they become “a drag”—but not your partner.

Someone who values interpersonal relationships WILL value their very special relationship with you.

9) They like being a hero to everyone (and it’s not a bad thing!)

They simply can’t seem to say “no” when their friends ask them for favors…and they’re always happy to go around acting like everyone’s little helper.

Perhaps this might have even annoyed you every now and then because they’re just too nice.

But before you resign to thinking of them as a people pleaser, consider that they might just feel like they have an obligation to the people they care about instead.

That is to say that they might have a Hero Complex.

As frustrating as it can be—especially when it’s obvious that people are just taking advantage of their kindness—just try to be happy that they’re the person they are.

Protect them from the people who would abuse them of course, but don’t try to change who they are.

Why?

Because they’re just genuinely kind and trust me—they’re going to be there for you when you need them. 

And what makes them different is that they’d never ever make you feel like you’re a burden—like, at all.

Final thoughts:

Many of these habits and personality traits are, unfortunately, quite hard to find.

It’s important to remember though that you’re not guaranteed to remain together forever, even if your partner has all these traits.

People are more than just their traits, and sometimes people just aren’t meant to be.

But they don’t have to be your partner for them to be with you. 

So long as they care for you, they WILL be there for you regardless, and that’s what matters.

So if you’re lucky enough to be with someone with all these traits, treasure them regardless of whether they’re a friend or life partner.

Yes, aim for a “happily-ever-after” but spread your love to deserving people, too. That way, you’ll have a tribe when life gets rough.

Isabella Chase

Isabella Chase, a New York City native, writes about the complexities of modern life and relationships. Her articles draw from her experiences navigating the vibrant and diverse social landscape of the city. Isabella’s insights are about finding harmony in the chaos and building strong, authentic connections in a fast-paced world.

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