15 signs your partner is a beta male (cheer up, that’s a good thing!)

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Does your man have a sensitive side?

Does he prefer going to the theatre to the theatre instead of a football game?

Is he a pacifist who believes in the power of words and reason over war and violence?

Well then, sounds to me like he’s a beta male.

But before you freak out, I need to point out that it’s actually a good thing!

Take a look at these 15 signs that he’s a beta male and you’ll see why that’s a good thing.

1) He’s self-aware

Trust me, you wanna be with someone who is self-aware.

A guy who’s self-aware is a guy who knows himself – he doesn’t get sudden outbursts of panic, anger, or self-doubt, and he doesn’t misplace his feelings.

He’s someone who understands his thoughts and feelings, he knows what his emotional triggers are, as well as how to deal with them.

What’s more, he knows his strengths and weaknesses and doesn’t pretend otherwise and that’s a good thing!

2) He doesn’t need to prove himself

You might have noticed that alpha males like to compete, be the center of attention, and show everyone just how great they are.

But do you know what?

I think that’s actually because they’re not sure of themselves.

Yup, it’s true.

Their constant need to prove themselves reeks of a lack of confidence and low self-esteem. Their assertive alpha nature is, in fact, all a big show.

The great thing is that beta males are nothing like that. As I mentioned above, they’re self-aware and they don’t need to prove their worth to anyone else.

3) There’s more to him than meets the eye

The truth is that with alpha males, it’s often “what you see is what you get”. They like to be in charge and to show off. And yes they can be quite charismatic at first glance, but from my personal experience, that’s it. There’s nothing more to them.

However, with beta guys, once you take the time to get to know them – once you scratch beyond the surface – you’ll find yourself in for a real treat.

Personally, I’ll take a beta male over an alpha any day.

4) He’s emotionally intelligent

Here’s another (big) reason to be with a beta male – he’s emotionally intelligent! Do you know how rare it is to find a guy like that?

He’s not some rough, macho guy who doesn’t know how to cry! It’s 2023, who wants a guy like that?

A beta male isn’t ashamed of his feelings, he embraces them.

But that’s not all.

The fact that he’s emotionally intelligent means that he’s good at picking up on other people’s emotions. So when you’re feeling down, not only will he be able to tell, but he’ll know just what to say and do to make you feel better.

Meanwhile, an alpha male won’t notice a thing.

5) He’s open-minded

Now, if you’re looking for a fling, it doesn’t really matter whether he’s open-minded or not.

However, if you’re looking for a serious relationship, you’re gonna want to be with someone open-minded.

Beta males are open-minded – they’re not set in their ways or insufferably stubborn. They’re eager to learn new things and happy to change their minds with new information.

Alpha males are the opposite. They have a narrow view of the world and tend to resist new information. Being with someone like that can be super frustrating, trust me, I tried!

All in all, it’s a good thing that your guy’s a beta male!

6) He has communication skills

Boy, do I love a guy with good communication skills!

Beta males are known for their communication skills, and that means that you don’t have to go around guessing what they’re thinking or how they’re feeling!

If they want something, they’ll say so. If they’re feeling a certain way, they’ll tell you so!

And the best part?

Being with someone who knows how to communicate makes for a strong, healthy, and relationship!

7) He’s against violence

I don’t know about you but I’ve never been turned on by violence.

Beta males are not the type of guys to lose control and get into a bar fight over nothing. They won’t let themselves be easily provoked or intimidated, they’re above that!

And if it comes to a conflict, they’ll try to find a peaceful and civilized way to resolve it.

But don’t get me wrong, if it comes down to it, they can stand their ground in a fight!

8) He’s an active listener

A lot of guys (and these are usually alpha males) only pretend to listen to us when we speak.

They’ll nod their heads and smile and then either talk about themselves or try to move from conversation to something else…

But not beta males.

The great thing about them is that they’re actually interested in what we have to say. They want to get to know us – who we are, what we like and dislike, how we think, what makes us laugh…

So, they won’t pretend to listen, they’ll actually actively listen. They’ll have follow-up questions and everything!

The bottom line is that while you’re talking an alpha male will be thinking “How can I get in her pants?” while a beta male will be thinking “Oh my god, I can’t believe what she’s telling me!”

9) He’s supportive of you

Alpha males like to take center stage.

When you’re with an alpha male, it’s usually all about his needs and desires. He expects you to support him and his dreams.

But what about you?

Well, an alpha male probably won’t ask himself that. It probably won’t even occur to him that you have any aspirations.

That’s why it’s so great to be with a beta male. If your guy is supportive of you it’s because he’s a beta. Your goals and dreams are just as important to him as his own!

10) He’s a generous lover

To sum up alpha guys in bed, “Bam, wham, thank you, ma’am!”

It’s true!

They may seem all manly, strong, and assertive. They’ll kiss you passionately and throw you on the bed like in the movies, but before you know it, it will be over and you won’t be all that satisfied!

Let’s face it, alpha males are selfish lovers and they don’t put in much effort when it comes to pleasing their woman. In fact, they usually have a huge ego which makes them think they’re “all that” when the truth is, they’re not!

It’s a good thing to be with a beta male. Beta males are known for being generous lovers. They take the time to know your body and to find out what makes you tick!

So, be glad your man is not an alpha!

11) He’s patient

Look, a beta male would never ever try to force you to do something you’re not ready for.

And if you’re going through a tough time, he won’t become impatient and ask you to “get over it”.

Unfortunately, the same can’t be said for an alpha male.

They’re pretty self-centered and they’re known to be more than a little pushy when it comes to getting their way.

12) He’s humble

Alpha males aren’t exactly known for their modesty.

Whatever they have, they’ll show it off.

But beta males aren’t like that. They’re humble.

Your guy could be an award-winning physicist, but you’ll never catch him bragging about it. In fact, he’ll downplay his success and smarts in order not to make other less successful people feel bad!

13) He’s an intellectual

Alpha males are generally handsome guys who like sports and to have a good time. They’re not exactly the bookish type.

Beta males on the other hand are well-read, intellectual types who like to sit around and discuss politics, art movies, jazz, the meaning of life…

Basically, an alpha male is okay if you wanna have a good time, but if you want something a bit more, beta males are the way to go.

14) He’s loyal

If your guy is faithful and loyal, if he puts you first, it’s a surefire sign that he’s a beta male.

You see, alpha males like to have a good time and that can sometimes get in the way of their loyalty – if you know what I mean.

But not beta males, when they’re with someone, that’s it – there’s no one else.

15) He’s kind and empathetic

Finally, it’s a good thing if you’re with a beta male because it means you’re with someone who’s kind and empathetic.

He cares about other people’s feelings – about your feelings.

He’s kind, generous, and compassionate, and trust me, you don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who isn’t.

Jelena Dincic

Jelena has a background in photography and film-making and has spent the last few years as a content editor and copywriter. Jelena is a citizen of the world who is passionate about travel and learning about new cultures. She’s a foodie who loves to cook. And, as an art lover, she is always experimenting with new art mediums. When she’s not at her computer, she’s usually out and about in some forest with her dogs.

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