18 signs your male neighbor likes you (complete list)

Your male neighbor has been super good to you lately. The question is: is he just being neighborly – or is he into you?

Well, you don’t have to keep second-guessing this. All you just need to do is be on the lookout for any of these 18 signs.

Let’s get right into it.

1) You keep on seeing him around

Say you’ve gone jogging or just walking your dog. For some insane reason, he always crosses your path.

And it doesn’t matter what time of the day it is. He’s always there.

Now, this may seem creepy at first, but it’s not necessarily the case. It’s just that he likes you, so he’ll do anything to make sure that he crosses your path.

Heck, he might just go jogging – even though he doesn’t like to do so – just to be able to have a quick chat with you.

Now that’s dedication if you ask me.

2) He’s way too curious

A good neighbor will, of course, ask you about what you think of the borough meeting, the new zoning restrictions, and all the other things that involve your community.

But if he likes you, he’ll inquire about things that don’t necessarily involve the neighborhood.

For example, he may ask about your hobbies and interests – and he even may invite himself to your next camping trip.

In other words, he’ll try to ask you about the things you enjoy – so that you and he may speak for longer.

3) He acts like a hero

Is your neighbor volunteering to do ‘tough’ tasks, such as lugging your oak cabinet – or installing your security cameras?

If he’s acting like your hero, then it’s a sign that he likes you.

You may not know it, but you may have unleashed his inner hero.

I learned this concept – the hero instinct – from relationship expert James Bauer. In his video, he explains how this ‘impulse’ drives how men act in relationships.

As the name suggests, this instinct transform regular Joes into unwitting heroes. The result? They become better partners to those who have managed to stir up this instinct within them.

Now, you may be wondering why it’s called “the hero instinct”? Do guys really need to feel like superheroes to commit to a woman?

Not at all.

When I first heard about this, I thought I needed to act all hopeless to trigger my husband’s hero instinct.

Boy was I wrong!

Turns out all I just needed to do was to watch James Bauer’s excellent free video.

Here, I learned a variety of useful tips. Perhaps my favorite was a 12-word text that helped kick in my hubby’s hero instinct right away.

Like me, you just need to know the right words to say in order to unleash the inner hero in your man.

Click here to watch the free video on how to do it.

4) He keeps on complimenting you

A good neighbor will compliment your house, lawn, or porch, among many other things. But if he likes you, he’ll admire you – and not just what happens on your property.

That means praising your attire, your shoes, your hairstyle, and everything else in between. Even if you think you look your worst, he manages to find something good about it.

It’s actually a good tactic, for a Psychology Today article has shown that “people who received the compliments felt happier, more pleased and flattered.”

And, if he just plays it right, he just might get you to like him back.

5) He remembers the little things

As I’ve mentioned, a male neighbor who likes you will be curious. And, if he’s really interested, he will go on to remember the little things.

Remember the fence problem you told him about? He’s already fixed it.

The fruits you loved from the farmer’s market? He bought it for you, for he knows you’ll be at work that day.

He remembers the little things because he listened to every little thing you said, even though you thought some of them were negligible.

And, knowing that guys aren’t really great listeners, this is a clear sign that he likes you!

6) He always looks good

Ever wonder how he looks so dashing – even though he’s just taking out the trash or walking his dog?

It’s as if he’s going to party. You, on the other hand, look like you just rolled out of bed (it is because you just did!)

Mind you: it’s not a fluke. He’s trying to look good because he’s trying to impress you. He likes you, after all!

As a report confirms, one reason why men want to look good is “to make a good impression on people of the opposite sex or those they find attractive.”

7) There’s a lot of eye contact

They say that the eyes are the windows to the soul. And if your male neighbor keeps on making a lot of eye contact, it’s probably because he likes you.

Explains Vanessa Van Edwards of Science of People:

“When someone is attracted to you, they subconsciously will try engaging in lots of mutual eye contact. They do this to feel closer to you, and because they are interested in you and what you are saying.”

That said, you need to be careful when interpreting this gaze for it differs according to culture. In the US, for example, eye contact is thought of as a sign of respect and confidence.

So if you want to be certain, then you need to take note of the pattern, says Van Edwards.

“When someone is attracted to you, however, their eyes go eye-eye-chest, which is a much more intimate way of gazing.”

8) He keeps on accidentally ‘touching’ you

When you like someone, you want to touch them.

As Van Edwards puts it, “Touch releases the bonding hormone oxytocin. So, it is an instinctive way of trying to strengthen your connection.”

So if your male neighbor keeps on ‘grazing’ at your arm or back – it’s not a plain coincidence.

“If someone increases the intimacy of their touches, it’s a sign that they feel comfortable around you and want to get closer,” Van Edwards adds.

Again, it’s a matter of taking notice of where he accidentally ‘touches’ you.

As you see, a handshake is professional. But with the hand, explains Van Edwards, “the higher you go up the arm, the more intimate the touch. It’s the opposite for backs. The lower on the back you go, the more intimate the touch.”

9) He’s always near you

Most neighbors will just talk to you from their side of the fence. Someone who likes you, however, won’t hesitate to enter your personal space.

In other words, that usually means:

  • Leaning towards you
  • Standing 0-18 inches away from your ‘intimate zone’
  • Sitting next to you

If you want to be sure, observe how he interacts with the other female neighbors. If you’re the only one whom he leans, stands, and sits close to, then it’s a major sign that he likes you.

10) His body language betrays him

Actions speak louder than words. And if you want to be 100% sure that he likes you, then you need to be on the lookout for these telling body language clues:

  • An eyebrow flash. That’s because his eyebrows will tend to rise and fall when he sees someone he likes!
  • Parted lips. It means he likes what he sees!
  • Flared nostrils. Together with his eyebrow flash and parted lips, the flared nostrils complete an ‘open’ facial expression.
  • Touching his face. A guy who’s interested will stroke his cheek, rub his chin or touch his ears.
  • Smoothing or messing up his hair. This involuntary act is one of his ways to look good for you.
  • ‘Straight’ body. He’s pulling his muscles in an attempt to show off his body.
  • Visually checking you out. This speaks for itself!

11) He keeps on teasing you

Does your male neighbor keep on poking fun at your yard, or the decors you put up for Halloween?

If he’s constantly teasing or making fun of you, it’s not necessarily because your holiday favors suck.

On the other hand, it may mean that he likes you.

As to why he does this, it could be his attempt to soften the blow if he does get rejected.

As Dr. Vanessa Marin explains in her Cosmopolitan interview: “In some circumstances, teasing can be a way to protect yourself from rejection. You can try to play something off as just being a joke.”

Add to that, it may be his way of knowing if you’re a match.

As Dr. Marin adds, “If you’re a very teasing person and your crush seems to take offense to everything you say, it might not be the best match between the two of you.”

12) He’s very nice to the people around you

A neighbor who likes you won’t just be nice to you. He’ll be nice to the people around you too.

That means your family, roommates, and the occasional friend who crashes on your couch.

He may do favors for them as well, just like the way he does for you.

You see, he wants to score some brownie points. Who knows? It just might increase his chances of getting together with you.

13) He’s given you a lot of gifts

Most neighbors will give you a housewarming gift once you move in. But if he keeps on giving you gifts for no reason at all, then it’s a sign that he likes you.

“People don’t always give just to get something back, but many times we think ‘if I do a good deed, something good will happen for me,’” explains Dr. Darlene Silvernail of South University.

Add to that, Dr. Devin Byrd explains that in “A romantic relationship, people will try to go for sentiment. [Gift-giving] taps into how we want to connect with that individual.”

In other words, it may work to his romantic favor if he’s generous to you.

14) He acts weird whenever you’re around

If your neighbor acts the opposite of what I’ve listed above – for example, he tends to be nervous and jittery when you’re around – this may also mean that he likes you.

Quoting Darwin in The Expression of the Emotions in Man and Animals:

“When lovers meet, we know that their hearts beat quickly, their breathing is hurried, and their faces flush; for this love is not inactive.”

Unsurprisingly, this is what research has shown as well.

According to a Psychology Today article by Dr. Wendy Patrick, “participants (interacting with a particularly attractive potential romantic partner) reported most frequently included staring, heart rate, increased attentiveness, smiling, laughing, blushing, and having trouble concentrating.”

So don’t be surprised if he does any of these. He’s not bizarre, he’s just into you!

15) He interacts with you (a lot) on social media

A good neighbor will not necessarily care about your social media account. They may add you out of consideration, but that’s it.

But if he keeps on interacting with you – a lot – on various social media platforms, then it’s a huge sign.

He likes you (and not just your posts or pictures!)

Perhaps he’s shy to interact with you personally, that’s why he’s making it up by commenting on or sharing your posts.

As such, don’t be surprised if he tries to slide into your DMs. If this worked out for Nick Jonas and Priyanka Chopra, it may work for him too!

16) He’s sad when you tell him you’ll go away for a while

Perhaps you’re visiting relatives in another state – or taking a month-long European vacation. If he gets visibly sad at the thought of you ‘disappearing’ for quite a while, know that it’s because he likes you.

See, he wants to see you all the time. That’s why you often end up ‘seeing’ him whenever you go around the neighborhood.

And that’s why he always looks good even if he’s just taking out the trash.

Don’t be surprised if he offers to house-sit while you aren’t around!

Obviously, this a classic example of the hero instinct.

You’ve managed to trigger this ‘inclination’ within him, that’s why he’ll go over and beyond for you.

And, as I’ve mentioned earlier, it’s as easy as knowing the right thing to say. So if you want your male neighbor to be the hero you’ve always wanted, then make sure to watch this simple and helpful video by James Bauer.

17) His friends know you

So you come home from work and see your neighbor and his friends chilling on the porch. He introduces them to you.

Then his friend suddenly blurts out, “Hi (your name here.) He’s told us a lot about you.”

And, if this is followed by some blushing, there’s no denying that your neighbor is really into you.

Let’s face it. You’ve done this bit as well. When you like a guy, you tell your friends, right?

It’s just the same with him. He’s interested in you, and he’s probably babbled it to his pals.

He just didn’t anticipate that they’d blurt it out to you!

18) He’s invited you over

Has he invited you to come over to hang out? No party, no occasion, no reason, whatsoever? Now, this is pretty straightforward. He likes you, maybe even too much.

That being said, this could also mean that he’s just interested in the “you know what”. Whether you’re going to heed his invitation is up to you.

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