12 unfortunate signs you will never hear from your ex again (+ tips to move on)

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Breaking up is hard.

Knowing you’ll never hear from your ex again is even harder.

Even the strongest people struggle immensely with this situation, so I’m going to level with you:

If you’re dealing with this and trying to overcome it, it’s going to hurt badly.


With the help of this guide I will show you a way through the pain to a better and stronger you.

1) They block you everywhere

When an ex blocks you everywhere, it doesn’t always mean they’ll stick to it.

But sometimes it does.

If they’ve hit the block button on every phone number, app, social media platform and location possible, then they clearly don’t want to hear from you again.

If it’s gone to the point of blocking you, then something clearly went very wrong.

And that’s not easily fixed, even with the passage of time.

This is one of the most unfortunate signs you will never hear from your ex again, and that’s the brutal truth straight-up.

2) They physically hide from you

If your ex moves away to a place you can’t find them and literally tries to hide from you, you’re almost definitely not going to be hearing from them again.

The light version of this is changing the locks:

The hardcore version is that he or she moves completely, maybe even to a new state or country.

They don’t want to see you or be seen by you.

They want you completely out of your life and it couldn’t be more crystal clear.

3) They are happily dating someone new

Even the best relationships have cracks under the surface, I fully realize that…

But one of the top signs that your ex won’t be contacting you again is that they’re happily dating someone new.

Not to be too blunt about it, but they just don’t need you anymore.

Here’s the thing:

The feeling of being replaced is brutal, and I know that all too well.

But when it happens, it happens.

And you shouldn’t hold out hope that your ex will contact you again.

4) What would a relationship coach say?

While this article explores the main signs you won’t hear from your ex again, it can be helpful to speak to a relationship coach about your situation.

With a professional relationship coach, you can get advice specific to your life and your experiences…

Relationship Hero is a site where highly trained relationship coaches help people through complicated and difficult love situations, like getting an ex back. They’re a very popular resource for people facing this sort of challenge.

How do I know?

Well, I reached out to them a few months ago when I was going through a tough patch in my own relationship. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a unique insight into the dynamics of my relationship and how to get it back on track.

I was blown away by how kind, empathetic, and genuinely helpful my coach was.

In just a few minutes, you can connect with a certified relationship coach and get tailor-made advice for your situation.

Click here to get started.

5) They deleted every trace of you from their life

Another one of the most unfortunate signs you will never hear from your ex again is that they deleted every trace of you from their life.

Photos? Gone.

The flowers you bought for their front porch? Gone.

The necklace you bought her on your first anniversary? Gone.

The watch you gave him for his birthday? At a musty pawn shop.

When an ex does this there are only two possible reasons:

  • They are impulsively erasing you out of feeling hurt and upset and might think better of it later on.
  • They are systematically deleting all traces of you like an emotional hitman and will never contact you again for the rest of their life.

6) They cut off contact with all mutual friends and colleagues

Another big red warning sign that you’re never hearing from your ex again is when they cut off all contact with mutual acquaintances.

Even good friends you both shared find themselves now cut off from contact.

Your ex isn’t just breaking up with you, he or she is breaking up with your friends.

You know what:

This is sad.

It’s really sad…

And if it’s happening it’s time to face the harsh truth that your ex won’t be in touch with you ever again if possible.

7) They tell you they will never forgive you

Whatever it was that went wrong in your relationship is your business.

But one of the top unfortunate signs you will never hear from your ex again is that he or she tells you goodbye and says they will never forgive you.

Whether it was cheating, letting you down in your hour of need or something else, this person has told you in no uncertain terms that they are done with you.

It’s brutal, but it couldn’t be clearer:

They want you out of their life for good.

8) A real psychic tells you it’s so

Sometimes signs about your ex can be confusing – and contradictory.

In situations like this, it can be very worthwhile to speak to a highly intuitive person and get guidance from them.

They can answer all sorts of relationship questions and take away your doubts and worries.

Like, are they really your soulmate? Are you meant to be with them?

I recently spoke to someone from Psychic Source after going through a rough patch in my relationship. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a unique insight into where my life was going, including who I was meant to be with.

My advisor was kind and compassionate and provided a new perpsective for me.

Click here to get your own love reading.

In this love reading, a gifted advisor can tell you exactly where you stand with your ex, and most importantly empower you to make the right decisions when it comes to love.

9) Your ex’s family shuns you

Another of the most hurtful and unfortunate signs you will never hear from your ex again is that his or her family now shuns you.

It’s not just your ex who’s given you the cold shoulder.

Now their own flesh and blood seems to think you’re the devil too.

If this is happening, let’s be honest:

You no longer have any kind of “in” to reconnect with your ex even if you wanted to.

Even their family hates you! It’s absolutely game over.

10) “It’s not you, it’s me”

Who hasn’t dreaded these words?

They’re the death knell for every relationship and there’s really no coming back from them in almost every case.

If your ex told you this when you broke up, it means they really really don’t like you anymore.

They want to rid themselves of all guilt and shame and be done with you for good.

The reason this one sentence is so deadly is that there’s really no response…

After all:

What are you supposed to reply?

“No, no, it really is me: I’m awful.”

I think not. And even if you do try to the self-pity, confession approach, it only ends in more humiliation and the same break-up.

You can close the chapter on this love story forever.

11) Your ex committed a crime against you

Without getting too Jerry Springer about this, if your ex committed a crime against you, he or she is likely out of the picture for good.

Harassment, rape, assault, stalking, cyber-threats and all the rest can lead to some serious charges.

And if your ex got hit with charges in the course of your relationship, it’s enough to sour them on you for life.

Don’t expect them to come calling again (especially if there’s literally a restraining order against them or you).

12) They gave back all your possessions

Another unfortunate and rock-solid sign your ex is out for good is that they give back all of your possessions.

Whether you lived together or not, they are done with every last item that you ever exchanged or gave them.

As I said, gifts and thoughtful additions to their life are gone.

So are all your clothes, any possessions, even your toothbrush.

If there’s a big garbage bag out on their street the day after you breakup, I’d bet good money your spare toothbrush is in there.

I guess it’s over when it’s over…

5 tips to move on from an ex who’s gone for good

1) Work on yourself

When an ex won’t talk to you again, it’s maddening…

The desire to force it to work or get some answer about why you weren’t good enough can be overwhelming.

And I know it feels like if you could just figure out exactly why it went wrong you could find a way back.

Despite all the signs your ex is sending your way that he or she is gone for good, you can’t quite believe it’s real…

You’d do anything just to fix it!

But the truth is, most of us overlook an incredibly important element in our lives:

The relationship we have with ourselves.

I learnt about this from the shaman Rudá Iandê. In his genuine, free video on cultivating healthy relationships, he gives you the tools to plant yourself at the center of your world.

He covers some of the major mistakes most of us make in our relationships, such as codependency habits and unhealthy expectations. Mistakes most of us make without even realizing it.

So why am I recommending Rudá’s life-changing advice?

Well, he uses techniques derived from ancient shamanic teachings, but he puts his own modern-day twist on them. He may be a shaman, but his experiences in love weren’t much different to yours and mine.

Until he found a way to overcome these common issues. And that’s what he wants to share with you.

So if you’re ready to make that change today and cultivate healthy, loving relationships, relationships you know you deserve, check out his simple, genuine advice.

Click here to watch the free video.

2) Meet someone new

Meeting someone new is sometimes the best cure to an ex you’ll never hear from again.

The only constant in life is change, and even if you are sure you’ll never replace your ex, you don’t have to.

Hold on to their memory, feel whatever you feel.

But here’s the crazy thing:

You don’t have to live up to any role or ideal. You can just meet someone new and see where it goes.

They don’t have to be the love of your life.

Maybe they’ll end up becoming a best friend, or a dance partner!

Maybe they’ll disappoint you and be a waste of time…

But keep moving if at all possible.

And do your best to enjoy the ride even through the big swoops.

3) Laugh in the face of chaos

I’ll be honest with you:

Sometimes life serves you a shit sandwich, and your only choice is to cry or laugh.

Or maybe both!

Making sense of why these things keep happening or how love went so wrong can cause a massive hangover…

It can even hurt your physical health.

That’s why sometimes the best thing you can do is laugh in the face of the chaos.

Accept the pain and the anger inside, but don’t revel in it.

Just keep moving. And laughing.

4) Get into your body

Many of us in our digital world spend too much time in our heads!

And you know what…

I have nothing against heads! But having spent way too much of my own life stuck in mind, I highly recommend getting unstuck.

A big part of unfucking your mind isn’t about thinking at all!

It’s about getting in your body, taking action, connecting with the earth and truly living.

You have more than enough time to sit and stare at a TV screen or pore over old texts between you and your ex.

Go out and swim instead, or go try a punching bag at the gym! You might be surprised how great you feel afterwards.

5) Consider a change of scenery

Sometimes the memories you have with an ex really are just too painful.

You walk by certain restaurants and remember them, or even shop in certain supermarkets and find yourself crying in the pasta aisle.

That’s not going to do you any good, no matter how tasty that pesto is.

That’s why you sometimes need to consider a change of scenery.

If this means moving to a new neighborhood, new state or even new country, so be it!

Maybe you can also shake things up in your professional life, with your hairstyle, personal wardrobe and interests.

Despite the disappointment of your ex having left you behind for good, think of how much freedom you now have to tap into your full potential completely unencumbered by the expectations and judgments of your partner.

You can now become the best you can be, even if that means remodeling your kitchen the way you always wanted, moving to Ireland and working in a pub, or starting a heavy metal jam band in your garage.

Do it!

If you’re reading this and thinking all hope is gone, I have some advice for you…

I know how it feels to miss an ex so much your body physically hurts.

You feel like you went up against Mike Tyson and got pummeled on the ropes.

Just getting out of bed brings up existential despair: why bother?

But if you’re reading this and thinking all hope is gone, I do have one last piece of advice for you.

There is still something you can do even if it seems like no hope is left.

You can throw that last Hail Mary pass and try to get your ex back…

And it’s not always as complex as it sounds.

In fact, one of the easiest ways you can win your back is by simply sending them the right text messages.

Yes, it’s entirely possible to effectively “text your ex back”. Even if you thought that it was impossible to ever rekindle any sort of romance with them.

There are literally dozens of text messages you can send your guy or girl that will compel them to keep texting you. And ultimately lead you guys back together.

But you need to have a plan of attack and send these messages right when your ex is most likely to take them seriously. Only then do you induce a “fear of loss” within them.

Pro tip:

Try this “Jealousy” text.

— “I think it was a great idea that we decided to start dating other people. I do just want to be friends right now!” —

By saying this, you’re telling your ex that you’re actually dating other people right now… which will in turn make him or her jealous.

This is a good thing.

You’re communicating to your ex that you’re actually wanted by other people. Everyone is attracted to someone in high demand.

By saying that you’re dating around already, you’re pretty much saying that “it’s your loss, dude!”

After sending this text your ex will begin to feel attraction for you again, and that “fear of loss” will be triggered.

I learned about this text from Brad Browning, who has helped thousands of women get their ex back. He goes by the moniker of “the relationship geek”, for good reason.

In this free video, he’ll show you exactly what you can do to make your ex boyfriend want you again.

No matter what your situation is — or how badly you’ve messed up since the two of you broke up — he’ll give you a number of useful tips that you can apply immediately.

Here’s a link to his free video again. If you really want your ex boyfriend back, this video will be incredibly helpful.

If you’re a guy who broke up with his girl, Browning’s advice can also be super helpful, too!

Can a relationship coach help you too?

If you want specific advice on your situation, it can be very helpful to speak to a relationship coach.

I know this from personal experience…

A few months ago, I reached out to Relationship Hero when I was going through a tough patch in my relationship. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a unique insight into the dynamics of my relationship and how to get it back on track.

If you haven’t heard of Relationship Hero before, it’s a site where highly trained relationship coaches help people through complicated and difficult love situations.

In just a few minutes you can connect with a certified relationship coach and get tailor-made advice for your situation.

I was blown away by how kind, empathetic, and genuinely helpful my coach was.

Click here to get $50 off your first session (exclusive offer for Hack Spirit readers).

Paul Brian

I’m a multimedia journalist with experience in print, photography, video, and online. My passion is reporting on individuals, faiths, nations, and situations that impact us all on the journey of life.

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