Trust and respect are the two most important elements of a relationship, don’t you think?
That’s why when you inspire trust and respect from others, they’re likely to listen to you, turn to you for help, and work with you on a common goal.
But how do you know if you have what it takes to inspire trust and respect? Read on to find out…
1) People come to you for help
I think the most obvious sign that someone trusts and respects you is that they turn to you in their time of need.
Whether it’s a colleague, a friend, or even a family member, it’s clear that they hold you in high regard. They know that if they have a problem, they can come to you.
And what’s more, they can count on you to be discreet when the situation warrants it.
2) They’re comfortable being vulnerable around you
There’s just something about you that’s reassuring, which is why so many people open up to you.
And it’s not just close friends and acquaintances!
Take me for example: For as long as I can remember, people I hardly know have been comfortable talking to me about anything – including childhood trauma.
I have to admit that at first, I found it a bit strange. But now I understand that people open up to me because they know that they’re safe with me.
3) They put their faith in your hands
What exactly do I mean by this?
Well, take for example a surgeon and their patient. The patient respects the surgeon’s vast knowledge and experience and trusts them with their life.
Of course, it doesn’t have to be a life-or-death situation. You don’t have to be a surgeon, you could be the director of a company.
Maybe you have some radical ideas and maybe you’re taking risks that could impact the whole company, but your employees take your lead because they respect you and trust that what you are doing is in everyone’s best interest.
See what I mean?
4) They’re honest with you
It’s easy to be honest with someone about positive things, but what about the negative ones? What about when you have to tell someone something they may not want to hear?
If people are able to tell you that you’ve made a mistake – or if it’s the opposite situation – to come forward and admit that they were wrong, it’s a sign that they truly respect you.
Think about it:
If they didn’t they would pretend to agree with everything you say and they’d cover up their own mistakes. Right?
5) They ask for your advice and take it
Another sign that you inspire trust and respect is that people value your opinion.
Your friends may seek relationship advice from you or your siblings will ask you to help them choose a college.
But that’s not all…
It’s one thing to ask for someone’s advice, it’s another thing to take it – and people really do take your advice because they trust that you know what you’re talking about.
6) They actively listen to you
You know how sometimes when someone is speaking people nod their heads and pretend to listen?
We’ve all been there – it’s that boring meeting about finances at work; it’s listening to your elderly neighbor tell you about their hip replacement for the 100th time.
It doesn’t make us bad people, it just means that we have short attention spans and can’t focus on things that don’t really interest us.
Which brings me to you…
If you have the impression that people are actively listening to you – if they remember what you said and ask questions to find out more, it’s a surefire sign that they respect you and find what you have to say interesting.
7) They give you the benefit of the doubt
They don’t have to, but they do.
If you tell your boss that you stayed up all night to do the assignment but then your cat deleted it (a classic “the dog ate my homework” moment), as crazy as it sounds, they’ll choose to believe you.
And why do you think that is?
8) They show appreciation for your work
- They’ll offer words of encouragement.
- They’ll compliment you.
- They’ll go out of their way to tell others about your achievements.
Isn’t it nice when someone notices how hard you’ve worked to achieve something?
Isn’t it nice when people recognize your talent and appreciate your hard work?
9) They share their ideas and resources with you
If people want to collaborate with you, if they’re willing to share their ideas and resources with you, it’s because they respect and trust you.
And what’s more, they believe in you which is why they want to work with you.
10) They show up on time
Here’s a really big sign of respect: showing up on time!
It’s so frustrating when you make an effort and show up 10 minutes early, only to end up waiting for more than half an hour for someone who doesn’t seem to respect your time.
And I know that there are people who are always late for everyone and everything – but I do think that it’s a major sign of respect when someone shows up when they said they would.
It’s the least they can do, right?
11) They’ll do anything – no questions asked
If you were to ask your friends or colleagues to do something that seemed somewhat daring or strange, would they do it?
What if you told them that you couldn’t explain why or how but that you needed them to trust you and to do this for you?
If the answer is “yes”, then you my friend are someone who inspires trust and respect in others!
12) They honor your decisions
They know that you’ve done your research and considered the pros and cons. They also know that your decision comes from a good place.
How to inspire trust and respect
And if you’re wondering what you can do to get people to trust and respect you, here’s what you should do:
Be honest and open
It’s impossible to trust someone who’s always hiding something. It makes it look as if you’re trying to deceive people or to manipulate them for your own gain.
Do you want to be trusted?
Then start by being honest and open.
Be reliable and dependable
People trust and respect someone who is reliable and dependable.
That means keeping your promises, being consistent in your actions, and being someone people can count on.
Show respect for others
If you want to be respected, then you have to show respect for others.
Respect is a two-way street, and a lot of people seem to forget that. They think they’re better than everyone else and that they should be respected while they treat others like garbage.
I couldn’t respect someone like that, could you?
Be genuine and authentic
Nobody trusts and respects a phony and pretentious person because they don’t know what’s hiding behind the facade.
So don’t be afraid to be yourself.
Acknowledge your mistakes
And did you know that being able to admit when you’re wrong is an admirable quality?
I have a lot of respect for people who not only acknowledge their mistakes, but learn from them. And they don’t try to cover things up which is why II know I can trust them.