Does everyone notice you when you enter a room?
Do people sit up and listen when you have something to say?
If you can answer yes to those questions, then you might have a natural powerful presence.
Here is a list of signs that indicate you have a strong presence other people can’t help but admire.
1. They Gravitate Towards You
When someone has a strong presence, people tend to hang around them often.
If you’re noticing that people are always around you, that’s a clear sign you have a strong presence and they’re attracted to your aura.
When you’re having a conversation with them, they might begin to slowly lean in a bit, or they might tilt their heads.
These are commonly subconscious responses that we naturally have when we want to engage with someone.
So whether they’re aware of it or not, but beneath the surface, they enjoy being around you because of your strong presence and charisma.
2. You Say What You Mean And Mean What You Say
So many people are afraid to speak their minds because they don’t want to be criticized.
They don’t want to be seen as “weird” for thinking differently than everyone else.
But you’re not like this.
You have to express what you feel because it would be inauthentic not to. It would be superficial, and in your mind, nothing good ever comes from superficial communication.
You know that if you’re going to develop meaningful connections with others and make a positive impact in life, then you have to ignore the naysayers and express yourself fully. It’s the only way.
This is why you have a strong presence and aura about you. Not many people tell it like it is, so you come across as confident and honest.
3. People Maintain Eye Contact With You
Much can be told from someone’s eyes, especially where their eyes are pointed at.
It’s because the eyes are an indicator of someone’s attention. If people maintain eye contact with you, it means their attention is focused on you.
Perhaps they’re listening intently to what you have to say, or their eyes are attracted to your energy because of your strong presence.
Whatever the reason may be, it means that they’re captivated by you and what you have to say.
And that is a clear sign of charisma and presence.
4. They Listen Closely And Consider Your Opinions
Listening to someone is one of the ways to show how much we respect them. It shows that their words and thoughts matter, and that they’re being heard.
Having their opinions considered is also a sign of respect. It shows that what they’ve just said has some form of value.
So when someone takes the time to listen to what you have to say, it can mean more than simply wanting to hear your take on topics.
When they make eye contact, lean in, absorb what you’re saying without waiting for their turn to speak, it shows you that you are someone that they value and they’re attracted to your aura and presence.
5. You Love to Listen to Others And Learn About Other People
Learning is what gets your juices flowing. When you learn about someone else, it makes you feel like you’re entering a whole new beautiful, and complex world.
This makes you a fantastic conversationalist because the other person feels like they’re the only person on the planet at the time.
This immediately puts others at ease and makes them comfortable.
You know that too many people’s egos drive conversations. But when you’re in a conversation, egos are checked at the door.
When you allow yourself to be immersed in someone else’s world through listening, you tend to have strong empathy which gives you a powerful presence.
6. They Mirror You
They say that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. A study found that one of the reasons why people mimic certain behavior and actions is because it’s a form of learning for them.
So when you see someone ordering the same coffee as you to try it out or start watching a series that you enjoy, it’s a signal that they’re sending that you’re on their minds.
They look up to you and want to try implementing what you do into their own lives because they see it as something worth doing.
Not only do you have a strong presence, but you’re also a role model to other people.
7. They Openly Laugh At Your Jokes
Hearing someone laugh at your jokes is one of the more fulfilling experiences in life.
It means that they enjoyed what you said so much that they couldn’t control themselves.
A study found that laughter — a sense of shared enjoyment and amusement — increases the satisfaction felt in a relationship.
If people are in a positive mood around you that they’re comfortable enough to burst out laughing, then they’re probably attracted to your charisma and listen intently to your jokes.
8. People Are Honest With You
Being honest is an integral part of any healthy relationship.
But most importantly, being honest goes hand in hand with showing respect.
When you lie, you’re taking part in an act of deception. Dramatic, I know. But it’s true, even a small lie is still robbing someone’s right to the truth.
So when you choose to tell the truth, even if it’s painful to say out loud, what you’re really showing that person is that you respect them.
Therefore, if you notice people simply can’t lie to you, that you’re always the one to know the truth first, you can rest assured you likely have a strong presence and people respect you.
9. You Respect Yourself
You can’t have a strong presence if you don’t respect yourself.
After all, a key part of gaining the respect of others – to first respect yourself.
When you respect yourself, you’re showing other people how you expect to be treated (and what you won’t tolerate under any circumstances).
Now, this isn’t to say that people with little to no self-respect aren’t respected by other people. They can be.
But the truth is, how we treat ourselves is how others see fit to treat us. If you’re constantly disrespecting yourself, what’s to stop others from doing the same?
On the other hand, if you hold yourself up to a high standard, others will naturally follow suit.
So, if you feel like you respect yourself and live life with integrity, there’s a good chance that you also have strong presence and charisma.
10. You’re never left hanging
Have you ever been ignored by someone?
It’s one of the worst things in the world. You end up questioning every experience with that person, wondering what you did that was so bad for them to give you the cold shoulder.
And then after you’ve got through the initial pain/confusion/sorrow, then comes anger.
Anger that they can’t even be bothered to tell you what you did wrong. Or, to explain what made them upset and react in such a dramatic way.
And why aren’t they breaking the silence and explaining themselves?
It’s because they don’t respect you. Put simply, they don’t care about you or your feelings.
Now, on the flip side, when you have a strong presence that people can’t ignore, no one leaves you hanging.
You send a message? You’ll get a reply.
You have a fight with your partner? They’ll talk things through, heck, they’ll even argue with you, but they won’t do you the disservice of ignoring you point-blank.
Again this links back to what I mentioned earlier – when people respect you, they also respect your time. They’re not going to leave you waiting to hear from them.
But they also respect your emotions. Even if ignoring you after an argument is an easy option, they recognize that you don’t deserve that.
11. People don’t try to manipulate you
When you have a strong aura and presence, people don’t tend to treat you unfairly.
If they respect your boundaries, they’ll respect you when you say no. And instead of trying to convince you otherwise with unhealthy tactics like manipulation, they’ll accept that you mean what you say.
And this is a common theme. Look at victims of abuse. Do their perpetrators respect them?
Not in the slightest.
When someone hurls swear words at their partner are they respecting them? When a narcissistic parent guilt trips their child, are they treating them respectfully and with love?
No. Where there’s abuse, there’s no respect.
So if the people around you treat you well, and never even toe the line of manipulation, you know they have nothing but respect and consideration for you and you undoubtedly have a strong aura.
12. People don’t judge you
Having a strong presence tends to mean that others accept you even with all your weird and wonderful quirks.
Even if they don’t necessarily love your sense of style, or the car you drive, or where you choose to spend your weekends, if they respect you as a person, they’re not going to judge you.
This is because true respect comes from admiring and appreciating your inner qualities.
People respect those who are:
- Live life with integrity
- Respectful towards others
So if you have most of these qualities, and people do genuinely respect you, they won’t care about external factors.
The color of your hair or how many piercings you have become irrelevant in the face of being a decent human being. One who’s worthy of being respected.
Putting yourself first
Hey, Lachlan from Hack Spirit here.
What’s your number one goal at the moment?
Is it to buy that car you’ve been saving up for?
To finally start that side-hustle that’ll hopefully help you quit your 9-5 one day?
Or to take the leap and finally ask your partner to move in?
Whatever it is, you’re not going to get there, unless you’ve got a plan.
And even then…plans fail.
But I didn’t write this to you to be the voice of doom and gloom…
No, I’m writing this because I want to help you achieve the goals you’ve set.
I’ve recently been taking part in a workshop called Life Journal created by teacher and career coach Jeanette Brown.
Covering all the basics and more on what’s needed to reach your goals, Jeannette tackles everything from creating habits and new behavior patterns to putting your plans into action.
She doesn’t mess around – this workshop will require effort on your part but that’s the beauty of it – Jeanette has carefully designed it to put YOU in the driving seat of your life.
So…think back to that important goal I asked about at the start of this message.
How much do you want it?
Are you willing to put the effort in to get there?
If so, check out the workshop here.
If you do take part, I’d love to hear how your Life Journey goes!
All the best,
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