Adrian Volenik
Having genuine friends in life is very important as they understand you on a much deeper level.
In fact, genuine friends relate to your experiences and have a profound connection that lasts for a lifetime.
But you know the saying, “You attract who you are.”
Attracting someone very genuine in your life means you’re quite genuine, too, and your lovely personality attracts like-minded people.
But how do you know if you have a lovely personality? Don’t worry, I’ve got you covered.
Here are the signs that you have a fantastic vibe that attracts a genuine bunch around you.
1) You’re true to yourself, and people appreciate your genuine nature
Have you ever had a team meeting, and some colleagues proposed actions that didn’t sit well with your principles?
If you’re the person who will express your concerns, then you shouldn’t shy away from standing up for what you believe is right.
Being true to yourself means you stand for what matters to you, and you have faith in your own beliefs.
Your genuine nature understands that it’s impossible to please everyone. Still, by staying true to yourself, you overcome all the challenges and somehow preserve that optimistic outlook on life.
2) You genuinely care about others and are there to support your friends
You’re the person who naturally does the little things everyone appreciates. Like asking them how their day’s going.
You also bake a favorite cake for your friend when they feel overwhelmed and stressed, just to make them feel better again.
And if your friend is moving into a new apartment, you’re there to help without even being asked.
In other words, you genuinely care, and you support your friends and people around you. And you always try to make the world a better place by putting a bit more love into it.
3) Your optimistic outlook on life is contagious and makes people want to be around you
Being positive in life is the whole mindset, attitude, and approach you can have towards everything that life throws at you.
It also means you’re resilient because you can adapt and go through difficulties with an optimistic outlook.
You see things differently, especially if people around you dwell in their negativity because something bad happened to them.
Of course, everyone can feel negative and sad sometimes, but what matters is that the positive outshines the negative, and you see the way out.
Having an optimistic outlook attracts more friends because people need it.
4) You stand by your friends through thick and thin
Standing by your friends through thick and thin means loyalty and genuine care. You’re not only there for good moments. You’re there for bad ones, too.
You offer a listening ear when people around you struggle. You comfort them and help them find a solution to their troubles.
You’re the person who will put on a raincoat and go and save your friend who is stuck on the side of the road in the pouring rain because their car broke down.
And guess what? You’re the first they will call because they know you’ll come.
You are reliable, and you follow your commitments, and your friends know they can depend on you.
You are also there to celebrate them and their achievements, and they genuinely do the same for you.
5) You listen more than you talk, making others feel heard and understood
Sometimes, all that someone needs in their life is to be listened to. They don’t need advice or solutions. They just want you to listen.
And that’s exactly what you do. You’re being a good listener, which means you show interest in people, and that what’s attracts them toward you.
You’re trying to understand your friends and make them feel heard. When they start talking about their work day, you enjoy all of it: meetings, deadlines, and all the shenanigans they experience at work.
Their stories are Oscar-worthy to you. But do you know what’s even more healing than being listened to? Being able to laugh.
6) A good laugh is a great bonding experience, and you’ve got that covered
A good sense of humor makes dark thoughts go away. It’s a bond that holds us all together. So, finding humor in all kinds of situations is a great quality to have.
A good laugh helps in stressful situations and makes time with friends even more enjoyable.
I’m sure at least once in your life, you experienced a fun trip with your friends that you’ll remember forever because everything that happened there, good and bad, turned into comedy gold.
I still remember the trip with my two buddies who were fighting for one hour each day of the trip, and you know what? All of us found a way to laugh about it years later.
That’s what matters.
7) Treating others with respect is your second name
You’re a very tolerant person, and you accept others for who they are.
You’re trying to be positive and non-judgmental, and that’s what people around you like about you.
Because you embrace someone’s differences and cultures because that’s what makes other people what they are today.
You don’t argue with others because of their different political or personal beliefs, and you’re trying to understand where they stand and why.
I’m not saying you have to accept everything, but you don’t judge either. Instead, you respect them.
8) You’re open to new ideas and different perspectives, making you easy to connect with
Accepting people for who they are is essential, but it’s also important to be open to new ideas and try them out.
You’re a very open-minded person, and you’re always humble about other people’s knowledge, and you understand that everyone approaches life with different viewpoints.
You’re curious about them and like to hear what others think. And, most importantly, you don’t express anger when their line of thoughts doesn’t match yours.
This is what people like about you and one of the reasons they want to be your friend.
Imagine if everyone was the same and everyone liked the same things. What a boring world that would be.
People have different perspectives on life shaped by their experiences, and you’re trying to understand that.
Some of these perspectives might appeal to you more, and you want to give them a try.
Why not.
9) You’re a natural leader
Have you ever wondered why, whenever you’re a part of some work education group or playing group games with your friends, you’re always elected as a representative, a leader?
It’s because you are one. People around you trust your talent and your knowledge, but not only that.
You’re inspiring and likable, which makes the perfect combo, and that’s what attracts them to you.
They trust you, and they trust you’ll prioritize their ideas and interests fairly and equally.
Final thoughts
Sometimes it’s not easy being a charming person, and if you find yourself with most of the personality traits above, well done to you.
But you should know it didn’t just occur overnight. It’s your whole life and everything around you that brought you to this conscious living.
It’s who you are with your whole being.
Also, remember that you don’t have to be perfect to attract good friends and people around you. Just be who you are, and others will recognize it.
