Are you one of those people who always speaks their mind, even when it could get you into trouble?
Do you have a hard time keeping your thoughts and feelings to yourself?
Well then, it sounds to me like you’re someone who can’t help being honest.
Now, while the truth often hurts and your honesty makes you unpopular at times, most people appreciate the fact that you tell it like it is.
Here are 11 signs that you’re one of these brutally honest people who others can’t help but respect:
1) People trust you
The first sign that you can’t help being honest is the fact that people trust you. They know that when it comes to you, they can be sure to get a no-bulls**t answer.
For example, your friends might come to you for dating advice. They’ll ask you what you really think about the person they’re dating, “Is he the one?” and “Should I forgive him for cheating on me?”
And when they come to you? They’re prepared to hear the ugly truth. They know that you might say, “No, he’s not the one. You guys have nothing in common!” or “You know what I’m going to say, once a cheater, always a cheater.”
2) You say whatever’s on your mind
Now, it’s true that this sometimes gets you into trouble, but the fact that you have no filter and tend to blurt out whatever comes to mind is another sign you can’t help being honest.
Once in a while, you’ll end up hurting someone’s feelings or pride, but even though they may initially feel hurt by your words, they can’t help but respect you for being you.
3) You can’t keep a secret to save your life
Here’s the thing: You keep telling people not to tell you their secrets!
It’s not that you don’t want to keep them, it’s just that you have an extremely difficult time doing it. It’s simply not in your nature to lie or keep things from other people. And even if you don’t plan on saying something, you may find yourself revealing a secret.
But your friends get it, they respect you for being honest about your problem when it comes to keeping secrets.
I mean it’s better to be upfront about it than to lie and say, “I won’t tell anyone, I promise” and then announce it to the world, don’t you agree?
4) Your honesty can be brutal
One thing’s for certain, you don’t beat around the bush and you don’t sugarcoat things!
When you have something to say, you say it.
In fact, people often think twice before asking you, “Does this outfit make me look fat?” But when they really want to know, they’ll come to you.
And here’s another thing: Your honesty means that when you want something, you go for it!
For example, if you like someone, you’ll have no trouble going up to them and telling them how you feel.
Respect for putting yourself out there!
5) Lying makes you feel sick
Well that’s me in a nutshell!
There’s just something about lying that goes against who I am.
If you’re like me, I guess you have a strong moral compass, so when you tell a lie, you literally feel sick in the pit of your stomach.
The only exception I’ll make to lying is telling little white lies to spare people’s feelings, and even then it’s not easy. I have to keep reminding myself that I’m doing it “for the greater good”.
6) You’re authentic
Even if you were supposed to meet a president or royalty, you’d still come dressed as yourself and wouldn’t shy away from speaking your own truth.
Simply put: There’s nothing and no one that can make you pretend to be someone you’re not and that’s something people respect (even if they don’t always agree with you).
7) You’re an open book
Some people are difficult to get to know. You can spend years being their friend without them ever completely opening up to you. It’s like there’s always a part that they’re too scared to show.
And I get it, being an open book can be scary for some people, especially if they’ve had their feelings hurt in the past.
But you don’t like to hide your feelings and you have no trouble expressing yourself, even when it comes to the difficult stuff!
All-in-all, it’s easy for people to get to know you and get close to you because you’re an open book.
8) You’re a bad liar
The truth is that nobody likes a liar – lying is not a positive trait.
And even though most people end up telling a lie every now and then, the fact that you can’t even if you tried, is actually kind of sweet.
I mean, you literally find it difficult to deceive people and usually give yourself away with your facial expressions and awkward body language.
There’s something innocent and childlike about the fact that you’re a bad liar that people can’t help but admire.
9) You don’t like bulls**t
The fact that you don’t play mind games and are straightforward in your interactions with others is something people truly respect.
Nobody likes to be lied to and deceived, and the fact that you tell it like it is is definitely something to be respected.
10) You can’t stand it when other people lie
It makes sense really – if you’re honest to a fault, you’re certainly not gonna like it when someone else is lying.
“I call bull***t” is something you have no trouble saying because you have a low tolerance for lies and dishonesty and tend to call people out on it – no matter who they are!
11) Your honesty extends to yourself
Here’s the best part – not only are you honest with other people, but you’re also honest with yourself.
That means that you spend a lot of time reflecting on your thoughts and your actions. You have no trouble owning up to your mistakes.
But that’s not all!
You’re also honest with yourself about your flaws, you’re aware that even though you’re an honest person, you’re far from perfect.
The bottom line is that even though your honesty can be brutal and even hurtful at times, your strong moral compass and the fact that you’re honest with yourself means that people can’t help but respect you.
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