10 signs you’re an unapologetic introvert who doesn’t care what people think

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Confidence isn’t something we’re all born with.

While some introverts try to be more like extroverts, others choose to unapologetically be themselves. 

Confident introverts carve their own path in society.

They follow their passions, regardless if people or society think it isn’t “cool”. 

If you don’t change who you are to fit inside a box, then you’re proud to be an introvert and you’ll probably relate to the below 10 signs. 

1. You Don’t Copy

Some introverts who want to be more sociable might feel the need to simply copy what other people, likely an extrovert, would do.

What this could lead to, however, is muddling their own identity and hiding what makes them unique.

But if you’re unapologetic about who you are, then you’re comfortable being an individual in your own right. 

You’re distinct and original and you don’t try to copy what others are doing.

2. You Don’t Try to Impress Others

Confident introverts don’t tend to be the type to look for external validation for what they’re doing.

You don’t take on a passion project because you want others to think how amazing or productive you are; you do it because you’re driven by something much deeper than that.

Take learning, for instance.

Introverts tend to love it.

They may not be the type to earn high marks and receive countless certifications just to show it off to people.

It’s simply a byproduct of their hunger for knowledge.

3. You Enjoy Observing People And The World Around You

When you visit a cafe for some coffee, you like to sit at a table and simply watch people go about their business.

There’s that woman leaning in to tell her friend about what happened over the weekend; there’s the man in the business suit and sunglasses, probably waiting to strike a business deal in the next few minutes; there’s the old man resisting technology with his newspaper and steaming hot coffee.

You can’t help but be fascinated by other people, and imagine what their life must be like outside the cafe.

4. You Don’t Force Yourself To Be An Extrovert; You Just Show Who You Are As An Introvert

You understand that introversion is something to be celebrated, not hidden away.

The sensibilities that you have naturally serve as building blocks for other skills and personality traits that could contribute to your success.

After all, there’s a reason why there are a lot of famous introverted leaders.

Introverts make natural thinkers, observers, and excellent communicators because of the very things that make them introverted.

You always tap into the voice inside your head and listen to your gut.

5. You Don’t Bother Putting on a Fake Smile

A confident introvert doesn’t fake who they are.

They’re not going to play small-talk if they don’t want to, and they’re certainly not going to give you fake compliments just to make you feel better.

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A confident introvert tells it how it is without pretense.

While you might think that a confident introvert struggles to “network” and “make friends”, you’d be surprised.

Because they come as they are without putting on a fake show, most people find it incredibly refreshing to be around.

This helps them stand out from the crowd.

After all, it’s not often you come across someone who isn’t afraid to speak their mind.

Yes, a strong introvert might speak less than others, but when they do speak they generally speak with maximum impact.

6. You Don’t Seek Validation From Others

You don’t want to be popular.

You don’t seek validation from others.

You know who you are and what you want in life.

If you don’t get invited to after-work office drinks, you’re not going to kick up a fuss about it.

You accept yourself, you’re happy yourself, and other people don’t have an influence on your inner peace.

7. You Hate Small-Talk

Small talk is meaningless to you.

You don’t care about what’s going on with the weather.

And “how are you” and “I’m good” lacks so much meaning that it doesn’t need to be said.

This is why you stay away from small talk. For you, it only serves to reinforce the robotic robots that most people have become.

You want to know more than how someone is doing. You want them to be honest, to express themselves, and not care about other people judging them.

You want to know the purpose behind someone’s actions and why they wake up in the morning.

These are the kinds of conversations that get your juices flowing.

8. You’d Rather Work Alone Than In A Group Setting

Working in a job that requires you to constantly be interacting with people doesn’t excite you at all. That’s why you’d rather spend your time alone, like writing stories, code, or graphic designing.

You’d rather work by yourself because you do your best thinking when you’re alone.

You don’t feel like you have to constantly update someone else or keep up with another person’s thought process. You’re free to go at your own pace.

9. You Appreciate Experiences More Than Material Things in Life

I mentioned above that you have a deep and complex mind, and when you do, it can take a lot of time and effort to feed it and give it what it needs.

You’ve probably found that you don’t get a lot of pleasure out of material things, but a walk in the wood makes you feel alive and energized.

A new cell phone won’t do that for you. You probably spend time learning, getting outside, and going on adventures with those you love – that’s what a deep soul needs to thrive.

10. You Engage At Your Own Pace

Confidence is knowing you don’t have to laugh at every joke or dish out an opinion every single time you open your mouth.

Instead of trying so hard to maintain visibility in social situations, you have trust in your social capital and know that active participation isn’t the only way to leave an impression or cultivate genuine relationships.

Sometimes the pauses and the lulls are just as important as the actual conversations.

The more you try to force yourself to engage or “play nice” when you’re not feeling it, the more disengaged and ingenuine you’ll come off.

It’s pretty easy to see when people are just pretending to be curious.

So savor the conversations, take a step back when you want to, and engage at your own pace.

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. Check out my latest book on the Hidden Secrets of Buddhism and How it Saved My Life. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

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