9 signs that indicate an emotionally unavailable man is in love with you

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It’s not uncommon for people to work through their emotional challenges and learn to open up to those they care about.

It’s also not always easy to read their emotions. Still, some signs suggest an emotionally unavailable man is falling for you.

However, even though they’re opening and showing signs of love towards you, it doesn’t necessarily mean they’ve fully overcome their emotional unavailability.

Nevertheless, let’s discover what signs show they’re actually in love with you.

1) He starts spending more time with you

Detached men aren’t really known for being clingy or wanting to spend more time with others. In fact, they’re the exact opposite and want to be as independent as possible. 

That’s why one of the best signs an emotionally unavailable man is falling for you is if he’s not just physically around more but even becoming more integrated into your daily life. 

He starts suggesting more frequent hangouts, asks about your day, or even pops up unexpectedly just to spend time with you. 

It’s a noticeable shift in how much he wants to be around you.

2) You notice he’s more willing to share his thoughts and feelings

As someone who’s fairly closed off and not really keen to share what’s on my mind with others, I’m only really sharing my emotions with my wife, who’s my only confidant. 

So, if he’s being more upfront and honest about his thoughts and feelings, it’s a great sign and could mean he’s head over heels for you

Instead of keeping things to himself, he’s sharing what’s on his mind, even if it’s difficult or uncomfortable.

For example, he opens up about his childhood struggles and how they’ve shaped him into who he is today.

Or he shares his fears about his job security and asks for your advice and support.

3) He starts introducing you to friends and family

I don’t know about you, but I haven’t really introduced many people to my friends and family. 

I mean, most people come and go through our lives, so what’s the point of introducing them if we think they won’t play a big role in our lives anyway, right? 

So, if he invites you to a family barbecue and introduces you to his parents, siblings, and cousins, or he brings you along to his best friend’s birthday party, it’s a sign that he treasures your company and wants you to be a part of his inner circle.

And this closeness means he’ll inevitably show you his softer side, his underbelly that’s often quite vulnerable no matter how tough he acts. 

4) He expresses vulnerability

Although he’s emotionally unavailable, that doesn’t mean he doesn’t feel things. It doesn’t mean he isn’t vulnerable and insecure.

He’s simply so comfortable with you that he’s letting down his guard and showing you his more sensitive side. He obviously trusts you enough to share his deepest thoughts and fears.

Such as admitting he feels insecure about his body image and sharing his struggles with self-confidence.

Typically, he’ll also confess to you about his past heartbreak and how it’s made him cautious about opening up again.

From my experience, many men become wary, careful, and closed off after they’ve been burned in the past and had their hearts broken. 

5) He acts protective

Is your friend or new partner walking you home after a late-night movie, making sure you get back safely, or stepping in to defend you when someone makes a rude comment about you at a party? 

You guessed it, they might be head over heels for you. 

You might think these things are expected, but not all men will do them if they aren’t completely in love with someone. 

In the first example, they want to make sure you get back safely, and they’re willing to sacrifice their own convenience to ensure your security.

And in the second, they’re standing up for your honor as a clear sign that they’ve got your back, no matter what.

6) He remembers details

Frankly, most men listen to women only with one ear. Or the information they just heard goes out the other ear as quickly as possible. 

It’s not that we don’t care about you. It’s just that we aren’t that interested in most stories you have to share with us. We think women are overdramatic and make a huge deal out of small things and situations.

But when a man is freshly in love with you, he will pay attention to the little things you say and do. 

He will remember your favorite things, important dates, and meaningful stories, showing that he values and cares about you.

And that’s why he might surprise you with tickets to your favorite band’s concert because he remembered you mentioning it months ago.

It’s concrete things like these that signal just how much he cares about you. 

7) He takes tangible actions to support you during tough times

He’s there for you when you need him most. Whether it’s offering a listening ear, providing practical help, or simply offering emotional support, he’s reliable and dependable.

Imagine you’re going through a rough patch at work, feeling overwhelmed and stressed out. 

Your friend or partner notices that you’re struggling, so they offer to help out in any way they can. 

Maybe they volunteer to take on some of your tasks, cook you a comforting meal, or simply lend a listening ear as you vent about your frustrations.

And look, I know many people don’t walk the walk. But in this case, when he’s in love with you, he’s not just offering comforting words. 

He’s about to roll up his sleeves and actively be there for you when you need him the most.

And if you’re not used to that, it’s really refreshing and a great way to bond even when the going gets tough. 

8) He apologizes and accepts fault

To this day, many men think they aren’t and shouldn’t be wrong. Ever. It’s simply fascinating how different views they have about this. 

But again, a man in love is often very different than one that isn’t. Love is a powerful motivator, maybe the most powerful of them all. 

That’s why he takes responsibility for his actions and apologizes when he makes mistakes. He’s humble enough to admit when he’s wrong and tries to make amends to resolve conflicts.

He doesn’t want to see your bad side, not just because he loves you but also because he doesn’t want to hurt you.

He’d rather bend over backward to make things right than possibly lose you. Of course, if he made a really serious offense, that probably won’t be enough, but it doesn’t mean he won’t try. 

9) He shares personal achievements and failures

Have you noticed how he shares both his successes and failures with you? By sharing his moments of success, he’s including you in his joy and sharing his happiness with someone they care about.

On the flip side, despite feeling disappointed or frustrated, he trusts you enough to share his vulnerabilities and struggles. 

He values your support and understanding during tough times, and by opening up to you, he’s showing just how willing he is to be real and authentic in the (potential) relationship.

Final thoughts

As you can see, emotionally unavailable men act just like regular men when they’re in love. 

They let their guard down and let you in, which is something that’s typically not easy or comfortable for them.

Still, while an emotionally unavailable man can reveal some of these signs as he starts to develop deeper feelings for you, it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s fully overcome his emotional unavailability. 

Ultimately, understand that you can’t change someone who is emotionally unavailable

Accept him for who he is, but also be realistic about what you can expect from the relationship.

Adrian Volenik

Adrian has years of experience in the field of personal development and building wealth. Both physical and spiritual. He has a deep understanding of the human mind and a passion for helping people enhance their lives. Adrian loves to share practical tips and insights that can help readers achieve their personal and professional goals. He has lived in several European countries and has now settled in Portugal with his family. When he’s not writing, he enjoys going to the beach, hiking, drinking sangria, and spending time with his wife and son.

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