Ever wonder if you’re really the good guy in life’s story?
Don’t sweat it!
We’ve got a quick list to help you figure it out.
Here are 10 signs that show you’re doing the right thing and being awesome while at it.
Let’s dive in!
1. You Listen More Than You Speak
It’s not just about hearing words, but really understanding what someone is saying.
If you often find yourself being the last to speak in a conversation because you’re genuinely taking in what others have to say, you’re on the right track.
You value perspectives other than your own and give people the respect and attention they deserve.
Stand-up people know the power of active listening, and it’s a clear sign you care about others and their feelings.
2. You Remember the Little Things
Remember when your friend casually mentioned they loved that particular flavor of ice cream?
And then, weeks later, you surprised them with it on a rough day?
It’s those seemingly tiny details that can make a huge difference.
People who are stand-up tend to remember and act upon these small bits of information, showing that they truly care about the well-being and happiness of those around them.
This isn’t just about memory—it’s about having a heart that pays attention to those little moments that matter.
It’s like my grandma used to say, “It’s the small gestures that paint the big picture.”
3. You’re Not Afraid to Admit When You’re Wrong
Sounds a bit backward, right?
But here’s the twist: being a stand-up person isn’t about always being right; it’s about knowing when you’re not.
In a world that often prizes ego and being faultless, those who step forward and say, “Hey, I messed up, and I’m sorry,” are the real MVPs.
It’s counterintuitive, but owning up to mistakes actually makes you more trustworthy and respected.
The courage to admit your blunders and learn from them?
Now that’s a sign you’re one of the good ones.
4. You’ve Faced Your Own Demons
Every single one of us has a closet full of skeletons, and some are scarier than others.
A stand-up person doesn’t just slam the door and hope they go away. Instead, they confront those dark parts, those mistakes, regrets, and insecurities.
You’ve had nights where you’ve looked in the mirror, teary-eyed, wondering if you can ever make things right or if you’re even worthy of love and forgiveness.
But by facing these shadows head-on, seeking help when needed, and striving for growth, you’re doing the right thing, even when it’s the hardest thing.
Being raw and honest with oneself is the cornerstone of genuine integrity.
5. You Seek Solitude in a World Screaming for Attention
In a society addicted to likes, shares, and 24/7 connectivity, there’s a peculiar strength in those who seek moments of solitude.
It’s not about being anti-social or aloof. Instead, it’s the realization that sometimes, the best answers and truest reflections come in silence.
While everyone’s racing for the next notification ding, a stand-up person understands the value of unplugging, recharging, and connecting with oneself.
Ironically, by occasionally stepping away from the crowd, you’re better equipped to serve, understand, and connect with others in a more genuine way.
6. You Ask for Help, Even When You Think You Shouldn’t
In a world that often idolizes the “lone wolf” or the self-made individual, admitting you need a hand can seem like a sign of weakness.
But in reality, reaching out for help is one of the bravest things you can do. It’s an acknowledgment that no one has all the answers and that together, we can achieve more.
Whether it’s seeking advice on a project or opening up about personal struggles, being vulnerable enough to say, “I can’t do this alone” demonstrates strength, humility, and wisdom.
Being a stand-up person means recognizing that it’s okay not to be okay, and it’s even more okay to ask for support.
7. You Prioritize Values Over Victory
We live in a competitive world.
From job promotions to sports leagues, everyone wants to be on the winning side.
But what if you choose principles over podiums?
A stand-up person understands that a true “win” doesn’t always mean coming in first.
Sometimes, it’s about maintaining your integrity, even if it costs you the game.
It’s the choice to play fair when no one’s watching, to step back for the greater good, or to stand up for what’s right, even if it means standing alone.
True champions aren’t just defined by trophies but by the values they uphold in pursuit of them.
8. You’ve Hurt and Been Hurt, But You Still Love Deeply
Life’s not a fairy tale. You’ve messed up relationships, said things you wish you could take back, and perhaps even broken a few hearts along the way.
On the flip side, you’ve felt the sting of betrayal, the weight of disappointment, and the pang of heartbreak.
Yet, despite the scars, you haven’t let it turn your heart cold.
Instead, each hurt, each lesson, has deepened your capacity to love, to empathize, and to connect.
It’s raw, it’s messy, but it’s real.
A stand-up person doesn’t hide from past pain but uses it as a bridge to understand and cherish human connections even more.
Your willingness to still love, with all its risks and vulnerabilities, is perhaps the bravest act of all.
9. You Embrace Growth Over Comfort
The cushy couch of comfort is tempting.
It whispers, “Stay with what you know. Avoid risks. Don’t push yourself.”
But deep down, a part of you rebels against that.
Because you recognize that the real magic, the essence of life, happens outside of that comfortable bubble.
Making mistakes, facing challenges, being uncomfortable – these aren’t just inevitable parts of life; they’re signs that you’re evolving.
A stand-up person understands that to truly do the right thing, they sometimes have to challenge themselves, embrace the unknown, and learn from every stumble.
It’s not about always being in a state of ease, but continually seeking growth, knowledge, and self-improvement.
Because, in the end, the journey of becoming better is never-ending, and that’s the beauty of it.
10. You Know Perfection is a Myth
Well, here’s a bonus (and a testament to the point itself) – you don’t always stick to a preset mold.
Life doesn’t always fit neatly into lists, plans, or expectations.
Those who truly stand tall understand that chasing perfection is like chasing a mirage.
It looks enticing from afar but will continually elude your grasp.
Instead, you embrace your flaws, laugh at your quirks, and own up to your missteps.
Perfection might be the Instagram ideal, but the raw, unfiltered, authentic you is far more valuable.
By shedding the weight of unattainable perfection, you free yourself to pursue what genuinely matters: being genuine, being kind, and being human.
In the end, a stand-up person recognizes that it’s our imperfections that make us beautifully unique.
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