7 signs someone misses you (but is afraid to reach out)

Ever wondered if someone’s thinking about you but just won’t make the move to reach out? 

You’re not alone. 

With this in mind, today we get into seven signs someone’s got you on their mind but is holding back. From subtle hints to the more obvious giveaways, we’re laying it all out.

Let’s dive in.

1) They like your old social media posts

We’ve all been there—nostalgically scrolling through an old friend’s or ex-partner’s social media profile, diving deep into their past posts. And then, bam! Before we know it, we’ve hit ‘like’ on a post from years ago. 

Sometimes, it’s an unintentional slip of the finger; other times, it might be a deliberate trip down memory lane. 

But regardless of how it happens, someone interacting with your old social media posts is a telltale sign that they’re yearning for the past. It can reflect a longing for the emotional states associated with those times.

Like photo albums in days gone, social media now serves as a way of touching memories and momentarily bringing them back to life. 

Intentionally liking old posts takes it to a new level. It’s a silent whisper across the digital void, often hoping for some acknowledgment in return.

2) Inquiries through mutual friends

People talk. If you’ve noticed that one or more friends have casually brought up instances of the person inquiring about your well-being or activities, it’s a subtle yet telling sign. 

Why do people do this?

Seeking information through a third party can often feel less intrusive and more comfortable for someone who’s trying to keep their interest under wraps. 

This indirect approach allows them to stay in the loop about your life without directly exposing their curiosity or interest.

3) You seem to just run into each other

Picture this: You’re going about your day, visiting your favorite coffee shop, browsing through a bookstore, or taking a stroll in the park, and who do you happen to bump into? 

The person in question. 

“Coincidental” appearances in places you frequent might seem like sheer luck or happenstance at first, but as they accumulate, a pattern emerges. It might seem as if the universe conspires to have your paths cross.  

I am not going to say this isn’t the case, but the odds of many chance meetings are probably very, very low. Am I wrong?

Therefore, the underlying intentions behind these so-called accidental meetings could be more calculated than they appear. Perhaps this person has taken a keen interest in your routines and preferences, finding ways to align their schedule with yours in hopes of these seemingly serendipitous encounters. 

While on the surface, it may come off as flattering or merely coincidental, it’s essential to consider the possibility of a more deliberate effort at play. 

These encounters, under the guise of coincidence, might actually be a subtle strategy to create opportunities for interaction, indicating a deeper level of interest or, in some cases, an unwelcome intrusion into personal space.

4) They post old photos of you (possibly group photos)

While we’ve touched upon social media in a previous point, it’s worth delving into another specific behavior: posting old photos. 

The sharing of old photos featuring you, whether in duo snapshots or group settings, can signal a lingering fondness or a subtle nod to a shared history.

These digital throwbacks don’t always come with a direct mention or tag—sometimes, the person might not even fully acknowledge the emotional undercurrents driving their actions. 

In other scenarios, especially with group photos, the approach is more overt, with tags sprawled across a caption reminiscent of “Hey guys…remember when we…?” This seemingly casual nudge to collective memories might carry a deeper subtext, hinting at a desire to reconnect with not just the moment but with you.

5) They contact you needing advice or information

Yes, this is close to reaching out, but not quite the same. 

Sometimes, instead of revealing their true feelings, people will reach out with some kind of request for help or advice. Think messages that start with “Hey, long time no chat! I was wondering if you could help me with something…” or “You’re the first person I thought of when I ran into this issue…”. 

These inquiries often revolve around topics the sender assumes you might know about. For example, “Do you know any good places for hiking around here?” or “I remember you mentioning you’re good with tech stuff; could you give me some advice on choosing a laptop?”

If you get a message like this and you’re not particularly an expert on the subject,  or if the answer could pretty easily be found online, it’s likely that this person is just using their request as an excuse to talk to you. 

It’s their way of initiating a conversation without making the underlying intention too obvious. 

6) They are overly enthusiastic when they do run into you

So you are at a party, and you unexpectedly bump into someone you haven’t seen in a while. Instead of a casual “hello” or a brief catch-up, they’re all smiles and hugs and generally seem overly enthusiastic to see you. 

Disproportionate excitement or happiness, especially during brief exchanges that wouldn’t typically warrant such a high level of enthusiasm, could be a subtle hint. It’s as if every encounter, no matter how small, is a big deal to them.

This emotional overflow in such situations could suggest that these brief moments with you are significant highlights for them. It’s not just about being polite or friendly; their response is layered with genuine happiness and perhaps an underlying longing. 

Basically, it might signal deep-seated feelings of affection or a desire for a closer connection, hinting that your presence or the thought of you evokes strong, positive emotions in them. 

7) Drunk texts!

Ah, alcohol, the notorious truth serum. What happens when it mixes with the ache of missing someone?

Drunk texts. 

These texts, often heartfelt and raw, sometimes reveal the true sentiments lurking beneath the surface—emotions someone might not dare express in the light of day.

They’re the late-night confessions, the “I miss yous,” the “What are we doing?” questions that we ponder in quieter moments. 

The next morning, the aftermath is often a blend of embarrassment and regret, and you may get an apology message with some excuse or just notice some deleted messages. 

The bottom line?

If you’re noticing these signs, chances are someone’s got you on their mind and is playing it cool. 

Keep your eyes peeled, and if you wish to do so, make a real move to reconnect. Life is short. 

Until next time. 

Mal James

Originally from Ireland, Mal is a content writer, entrepreneur, and teacher with a passion for self-development, productivity, relationships, and business.

As an avid reader, Mal delves into a diverse range of genres, expanding his knowledge and honing his writing skills to empower readers to embark on their own transformative journeys.

In his downtime, Mal can be found on the golf course or exploring the beautiful landscapes and diverse culture of Vietnam, where he is now based.

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