7 signs someone is highly attracted to you but trying not to show it

Ever wondered if that special someone is secretly crushing on you, even if they’re trying their best to keep it hush-hush? Well, you’re in the right place.

I’ve seen it all, from the hidden glances to the subtle body language that speaks volumes more than words ever could.

As an expert in decoding these secret signals of attraction, I’m here to share with you 7 undeniable signs that someone is totally into you, but they’re doing their best not to show it.

Stay tuned, because by the end of this piece, you’ll have a newfound understanding of those seemingly insignificant gestures and what they truly mean. Let’s dive in, shall we?

1) They can’t help but mirror your actions

Ever noticed how when you’re really connected with someone, you start to pick up their mannerisms? That’s because mirroring is a subconscious thing we do when we feel strongly towards someone.

It’s a phenomenon that’s rooted in our empathy. We mimic the actions of those we admire or feel close to. It’s a way of saying, “I see you, I understand you, and I’m with you.”

So if your crush is subtly copying your gestures, your expressions or even the way you talk or laugh, there’s a good chance they’re more into you than they’re letting on.

Remember, it’s all about observing the subtle cues. It might not seem like much on the surface, but these slight echoes can speak volumes about their hidden feelings for you.

2) They seem distant or aloof

Now, this might seem like a curveball. After all, if someone is attracted to you, wouldn’t they want to be close to you? Not necessarily. In fact, people who are trying hard not to reveal their feelings often act distant or aloof.

The reason behind this is simple: self-protection. Attraction can be a vulnerable feeling, and not everyone is comfortable with being vulnerable. So they put up a wall to protect themselves from possible rejection.

In other words, if you find someone being unusually distant or disengaged, it might not be because they’re not interested. On the contrary, it could be one of the signs they’re trying to hide their true feelings for you.

3) They remember the little things

Paying attention to the small details is a big sign that someone is secretly smitten. If they remember your favorite coffee order, a book you mentioned you loved, or a story you told them weeks ago, there’s a good chance they’re more invested than they’re letting on.

In my experience, when someone is trying to hide their feelings, they’ll often compensate by showing interest in other non-romantic ways. They’ll be attentive and remember the smallest details about you. It’s their way of connecting without crossing any lines.

I’ve seen this time and again with couples I’ve worked with over the years. In fact, in my book Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I discuss how paying attention to these subtle signs can help build healthier, stronger relationships.

So if someone seems to have an uncanny memory for your likes and dislikes, your dreams and fears, don’t overlook it. It might just be their way of saying “I like you” without actually saying it.

4) Their body language speaks volumes

Body language is a powerful communicator. As the saying goes, actions often speak louder than words. That’s especially true when it comes to hidden attraction.

A person who is attracted to you might try to hide their feelings, but their body language can often give them away. They might lean in when you’re talking, make a lot of eye contact, or find subtle ways to touch you – like brushing against your arm or touching your back.

I always remind people that our bodies often reveal what our mouths won’t say. I guess it’s what Oscar Wilde meant when he said, “Who, being loved, is poor?” Love, or attraction in this case, can’t be hidden for long – it has a way of expressing itself one way or another.

5) They’re always there for you

One sign that often goes unnoticed is consistency. If someone is constantly showing up for you, supporting you, and being there when you need them, it can be a sign of deep, hidden attraction.

Over the years, I’ve noticed that people who are secretly attracted often become a kind of ‘rock’ to the person they’re attracted to. They’re the first one to congratulate you on your successes and the first one to offer a shoulder when things go wrong.

Trust me, this kind of unwavering support and reliability is more than just friendship. It’s a sign that they care deeply about your well-being and want to be a part of your life – even if they can’t express their feelings openly.

6) They get nervous around you

This one might seem a little old school, but it’s true – if someone is attracted to you, they might get a little nervous in your presence. Their pulse quickens, they may fumble their words, or they might overthink their actions. It’s all because they care so much about the impression they’re making on you.

It reminds me of a quote by William Shakespeare: “Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind.” When someone is attracted to you, they’re not just seeing you; they’re feeling you, and that can cause some jitters.

I’ve seen this play out countless times in my years of helping people navigate their relationships. It’s sweet, endearing, and a sure sign that someone is head over heels for you – even if they’re trying to play it cool.

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7) They’re protective of you

This is a raw and honest sign that someone is attracted to you: they become protective. Not in an overbearing, controlling way, but in a caring, concerned way. They want to see you safe, happy, and well.

Whether it’s making sure you get home safe after a night out, standing up for you in an argument, or just checking in on you if you’re not feeling well – these are all signs of someone who cares deeply for you.

Hidden attraction often manifests as an instinctive need to protect the person we care about. It’s an unspoken promise—”I’ve got your back.”

Understanding the signs: A deeper connection

Attraction is a complex dance influenced by many factors. Recognizing these signs can help us navigate the confusing waters of human emotion. 

If you notice these signs in someone, it might be time for an honest conversation. Remember, it’s okay if they’re not ready to admit their feelings yet; everyone moves at their own pace.

From my experience, the best connections are built on mutual understanding and respect. As Mark Twain said, “The secret of getting ahead is getting started.” So, don’t be afraid to take that first step, even if it feels daunting.

For more on attraction and relationships, I highly recommend an insightful video by Justin Brown.

He shares personal experiences and insights on finding a life partner, covering everything from shared values to the importance of growth and mutual support. This video is a treasure trove of valuable advice.

The journey towards understanding attraction and navigating relationships can be tough but remember, you’re not alone in this journey. Let’s continue to learn, grow, and connect together.

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Tina Fey

I'm Tina Fey, the founder of the blog Love Connection. I've extremely passionate about sharing relationship advice. I've studied psychology and have my Masters in marital, family, and relationship counseling. I hope with all my heart to help you improve your relationships, and I hope that even if one thing I write helps you, it means more to me than just about anything else in the world. Check out my blog Love Connection, and if you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter

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