Jelena Dincic
We’ve all been through it.
Even the most popular person you know has at one point or another had someone lose interest.
There are a lot of possible reasons this happens, sometimes it’s us, and other times it has nothing to do with us.
Whatever the reason, it’s important to recognize the signs on time.
That way, if the relationship is important to you, you can get a chance to save it.
Here are 14 signs someone in your life is losing interest in you.
The first list of signs applies to all relationships while the second focuses on romantic relationships.
Let’s get started:
All relationships
1) You hardly ever see them
It could start with you not seeing your friend in weeks. Then, the weeks turn into months, and the months turn into a year.
You’ll find yourself thinking, “They’re busy, they’ve got kids now, their priorities have shifted.”
And maybe you’re right.
But it could also be a sign that they’ve lost the desire to spend time with you.
Watch what happens when you finally meet up with them. Are they excited and happy to see you, or are they distant and different than they used to be?
Keep reading to see if you can spot some other signs.
2) They don’t initiate plans
You’ll invite them for dinner, organize a trip to the movies, call them up to see if they want to hang out during the weekend…
Can you notice the pattern?
When was the last time your friend or the person you’re dating initiated plans?
If you can’t remember and you’re always the one calling them, it could be another sign that they’re not as interested in spending time with you.
Hold on though!
It could also be that you’re too eager and never give them the chance to plan anything.
Here’s what I suggest: The next time you feel like calling them to go out, don’t.
Instead, wait and see if they call you and how long it actually takes them to do so.
3) They cancel
Okay, everyone is bound to cancel plans from time to time.
People get sick, stuck at work, and all sorts of things come up, so don’t freak out if they cancel on your plans once.
However, if it keeps on happening, you’ve got to ask yourself, “Do they even want to meet up?”
Unless their job involves saving lives or something, chances are they don’t have a good excuse for bailing out.
4) They don’t say much
Another way to tell that someone in your life is losing interest in you is by how they behave around you.
Whereas once they were all smiles and full of stories, now they sit across from you solemnly with hardly a word to say.
They just listen to you talk and nod their heads.
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but it’s not looking good. Either they’re preoccupied by a personal matter, or they’re not interested in pursuing a relationship with you any longer.
Try asking them if anything is the matter.
See how they act the next time you see them.
5) They avoid serious conversations
When someone you were close to and could talk to about anything starts to avoid deep and meaningful conversations with you and instead makes small talk, it could be a sign that they’re pulling away.
Think about it: When you feel close to someone, whether they be a friend or a romantic partner, you feel comfortable opening up to them and talking about pretty much anything, right?
Now, for some reason, the dynamics of your relationship have changed and they no longer feel they can open up to you.
It’s up to you to see if you want to work on fixing things or just let it go.
6) They’re distant
Apart from saying little and avoiding serious conversations, you may find your friend or romantic partner to be distant.
What do I mean by that?
Well, you’ll feel like they’re not really present in the moment, like they’re not paying attention to what you’re saying, or like they have something else on their mind.
They may also keep looking at their watch or checking the messages on their phone.
If it’s a one-off thing, don’t worry about it.
If it’s a recurrent behavior, it’s probably another sign they’re losing interest in your relationship.
7) They’re ignoring your texts and calls
Are you being ghosted?
Does it take days for them to text or call you back?
You may be telling yourself that it’s not a big deal and that “They’re just busy” but the truth is that nobody is too busy to reply to a text, even if it’s just to say, “Sorry, I’m crazy busy right now.”. It’s common courtesy.
Romantic relationships
8) They no longer make an effort
When you first started dating, they’d always put on their A game.
- They’d dress to impress
- Plan romantic dates
- Surprise you with lunch at work
- Send you texts to tell you they miss you
- Take you on weekend getaways
I mean they really worked hard to impress you and make you happy.
But things are different now. It’s like they take you for granted.
They don’t really care about how they look. They don’t bother with planning dates, surprising you, or sweeping you off your feet.
Quality time is watching Netflix and ordering a pizza!
So, what does this mean?
It can be one of two things:
- You’ve been together for a really long time
- They’re rethinking your relationship
If it’s the first, I wouldn’t worry too much. Just try to spark things up once in a while. Talk about having a date night once a week so your relationship doesn’t get into a rut.
And if it’s the second thing, you’ve got to ask yourself if your relationship has run its course.
9) They’re dodging questions about your relationship
“Where is this going?” and “Do you even love me?” are just some of the questions you find yourself asking your partner.
And their response?
“Don’t get started again” and “Why can’t we just have a normal meal?”
They’re loaded questions but you wouldn’t be asking them unless you felt something was off.
I’m not gonna lie to you, dodging questions about your relationship doesn’t look good.
10) Lack of physical affection
I’m just gonna come out and ask: When was the last time you had sex?
Here’s the thing, physical affection, such as hugging, kissing, cuddling, and sex, plays an important role when it comes to emotional intimacy and connection in a romantic relationship.
So, when your partner withdraws or shows a decline in physical affection, it could be another sign that they are experiencing changes in their feelings or level of interest.
My advice?
Try to approach the issue with sensitivity and open communication. It’s important to have a candid conversation to understand what’s going on. That way, you can work together to address the issue.
11) You are not a priority
Work, friends, family, pets, the gym, the football game on TV… everyone and everything seems to come before you.
It’s pretty clear that the person you’re dating would rather do anything else than spend time with you.
Sadly, it looks like they’re losing interest in you.
12) They fail to notice anything about you
Do you ever get the feeling that your partner doesn’t see you?
Not only are they unable to pick up on your mood but they don’t even notice when you get a haircut or dress up for their benefit.
I’ll admit that women pick up on these things more than men, but still, they have to notice something.
Otherwise, you have to ask yourself, “Do they even care about me?”
13) They’re not making plans for the future
So, you’ve been dating for quite a while and your partner is careful not to make any commitments.
Okay, some people have commitment issues.
Except…
It’s gotten to the point that they can’t even make plans for the upcoming holidays with you.
Now, I get that making a commitment can be scary. But to avoid making any sort of plans for the future is going to the extreme.
It sounds to me like they might not think the relationship will last that long.
14) They’re openly flirting with others
Finally, if your partner starts flirting with other people in front of you, if they’re not even trying to hide it, they’re sending you a very clear message.
They’re telling you that you’ve had a “nice run” but they’re losing interest and wanna see what else is out there.
Final thoughts
If you recognize some or all of these signs, you’re probably hurting. I get it. But at least you know where you stand.
Sometimes, people’s feelings change over time, and it may be best to accept that the relationship has run its course.
At other times, the relationship just needs some work and effort put into it. It’s up to you to decide if it’s worth it.
