So your girl has broken up with you, and you want another chance with her.
The good news is she might be open to giving you a chance! All you need to do is be on the lookout for these ten signs – and heed my five tips on making it happen!
1) She’s the first to communicate.
In most breakups, the communication is severed 100%. That means no calls, texts, and all associated acts.
But if she keeps on reaching out to you – even being the first one to do so – it’s evident that she’s willing to give things another try.
2) She’s quick to answer your calls or messages.
If your ex-girlfriend is completely over you, she’ll most likely ignore your calls or leave your messages on read.
What’s the point of responding anyway?
But if she’s quick to answer any of them, you’re looking at an opening right here!
3) She’s willing to see you.
Having no contact with an ex undoubtedly works. It gives you time to focus on yourself and clear your mind, among many other things.
So if your ex is more than willing to see you, it’s possible that she’s open to giving your relationship another chance.
4) She remains very flirty.
Remember how she flirted with you when you guys were just starting out?
Well, if she’s serious about giving you a chance, she’ll remain this way.
You know what I mean—staying coy, staying close, and flashing that megawatt smile! She’s doing these in hopes that it will lure you back again.
5) She acts awkwardly around you.
On the other end of the spectrum may be a girl who acts weird around you. And it’s not because she’s trying to avoid you; it’s because she’s afraid you’ll see right through her.
If you’ve been with your ex for quite some time, you probably have mastered all her quirks and tendencies.
She’s acting weird because she may not be ready to give you a chance – yet. She’s willing to give it, but she probably thinks you need a little more time apart.
6) She frequently interacts with your social media posts
Girls who want to get over their ex – for good – will take a sabbatical from the social media plane. But if she’s doing the opposite – and if she’s interacting the same way (if not more frequently), then it’s a sign.
She’s willing to give you another chance.
7) She keeps on making a lot of effort for you.
When you love someone, you’ll bend over backward for them.
Maybe she keeps on making that soup you want when you’re sick. Perhaps, she’s still bringing you lunch to work – the way she used to when you were together.
If your ex keeps on doing these extraordinary things for you, it’s safe to say that there’s an opening. You still hold a soft spot in her heart, and it’s up to you to grab hold of the opportunity.
8) She remains touchy-feely
It has been scientifically proven that “Intimate touch is a vital part of most close relationships.” That’s why couples are all up each other’s businesses!
If your ex is willing to give things another try, she’ll most likely remain physical with you. She’ll touch, hug, or even kiss you whenever an opportunity arises.
It’s as if you haven’t broken up at all!
9) She may even continue to sleep with you.
Indeed, sex is a basic need. It’s hard not to get intimate with someone you’ve been with for quite some time.
So if she keeps ending up in your bed (or you, in hers) more often than not, then it’s a possible sign. She may be using her lady parts to keep you thoroughly interested in her!
10) She’s curious about your relationship status.
Why should she care if you’re seeing someone else?
Well, the operative word is there. She still cares.
She keeps on asking about your relationship status because she’s curious if there’s someone else already.
She’s trying to assess the situation here.
If you’re still single, she’ll probably be more forthright with giving you a chance.
In case you’re not, she may try to shelve her reconciliation plans…at least for now. On the other hand, she may even try to sabotage your new relationship!
11) She tells you that she’s not dating anyone.
If your ex wants to give you a chance, she’ll do more than just ask about your relationship status. She’ll tell you her status as well – which is single at the moment.
See, she wants to let you know that she’s free to reconcile and reconnect. Again, it’s up to you to make a move!
12) She’s trying to make you jealous.
If she’s posting updates on her new dates and travels, know that she’s just trying to make you jealous.
Clearly, she’s only pretending to be over you.
So how does this relate to her giving you another chance?
Well, she thinks that by making you jealous, you’ll be more aggressive in pursuing her. Some girls may deny it, but we love to be wooed!
13) She’s always there
Say you’re going out with your friends. Then, all of a sudden, you see your ex there.
You know for a fact that it’s a place she wouldn’t go to on an average day. But now, suddenly, she’s hanging out in that peculiar spot.
As you see, it’s not just a mere coincidence. She’s probably there to see you and find out what you’ve been up to in the last few weeks/months.
As to how she knows you’re there, don’t underestimate your ex’s FBI-esque skills!
This is actually one of the suavest ways for her to get you back. It’ll make you think that it was fate or destiny when it was, in fact, manufactured reality.
Who knows? You may end up leaving with her at the end of the night!
14) She tells you she wonders what could’ve been
Sometimes, your girl wouldn’t be forthright in giving you a chance. Instead, she’ll indirectly hint at it by exploring the what-could’ve-been in your relationship.
What if you were still together today? Would you already be moving in together? Maybe you’ll be on the road to getting married!
She wants to give things a chance, and she’s curious about the beautiful future that may lie ahead.
And, if you’re just as curious, I recommend going in for the kill right now!
15) She keeps holding on to your stuff.
Breakups often come with returning your ex’s things. But if she’s reluctant to give back all the things you have in her place, there may be a silver lining!
She’s holding on to these things because she believes there’s a chance in the future.
Why return them when you may be moving back into her place again?
The same goes for her. She may not be as persistent in getting her things back because she knows she might be back in your place soon!
16) Her family and friends have told you so
Your ex may be trying her hardest to conceal the fact that she wants you back. But as we all know, no secret goes unspilled.
Your ex may be more forthcoming about this ‘chance’ to her family and friends. And, in turn, they may be more willing to tell this to you.
They know that your ex could be really hardheaded, and they think it will help if you were the one to extend the olive branch.
17) She’s blunt about getting back together.
This is perhaps the most obvious sign that she’s willing to give things another go.
She’s not trying to dance around the subject. In fact, she’s candid about it.
She doesn’t believe in sending subtle signs such as the ones above. She wants to go straight to the point, and that is the fact that she wants to be with you again.
How to make it happen
Sure, she could be sending signs that she wants another chance with you. But how do you make it happen in the first place?
Well, here are five things you need to do:
Give her space
If you’ve just broken up, there’s a big chance that she’s still processing the breakup. In other words, she wouldn’t know if she’s willing to reconcile yet.
She may still be recovering from all the pain the breakup has caused.
You need to give her time to get into her own headspace. You’d want her to give you a chance because she wants to make things work.
You don’t want to get your ex back because she’s feeling lonely on all your supposed date nights.
If you want to be with her again, you’d like it to be for good.
Don’t be afraid to say sorry
Reflect on the day you broke up. What was her reason for dumping you?
Were you ignoring her? Were you prioritizing your work over her?
Now, you may not be doing this on purpose. But what’s done is done.
If you want to get her back, you need to swallow your pride (for your relationship’s sake) and say sorry.
Apologize for the times when you made her feel unloved and unwanted, even if you didn’t mean to do it.
See, when you’re dealing with a breakup, it’s easy to become frustrated and even feel helpless. You may even be tempted to throw in the towel and give up on love.
I want to suggest doing something different.
It’s something I learned from the world-renowned shaman Rudá Iandê. He taught me that the way to find love and intimacy is not what we have been culturally conditioned to believe.
As Rudá explains in this mind-blowing free video, many of us chase love in a toxic way because we’re not taught how to love ourselves first.
So, if you want to have a chance, I’d recommend starting with yourself first and taking Rudá’s incredible advice.
Show her you’ve changed
See, your apology is useless if you don’t change your old ways.
If you want her to give you a chance, you need to show that you’re worthy of this opportunity. Make her your priority if this was your breakup issue in the first place.
More importantly, stop messing with other girls if infidelity is the main cause of your breakup!
No drunk texts/calls, please
Indeed, it’s tempting to text or call your ex because you miss her. But for all intents and purposes, it’s best to do this when you’re 100% sober.
I know you’re serious about getting her back, but texting/calling her when you’re drunk conveys the opposite message.
If you really want to get her back for good, you need to send the right messages.
In his excellent short video, James Bauer gives you a step-by-step method for changing how your ex feels about you.
He reveals the texts you can send and things you can say that will trigger something deep inside her.
Because once you paint a new picture of what your life together could be like, her emotional walls won’t stand a chance.
There’s an old saying that goes, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.”
If you want her back, you need to claw your way into it. You need to be as persistent as you were the first time you wooed her.
Heck, you may even have to work doubly hard!
You’d want to show her that you’re remorseful of your old ways. You’d want to let her know that you’ve changed and that you deserve her love. See, persistence is vital.
When you love somebody, you shouldn’t give up on her quickly!
Just because things are over, it doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s 100% over.
She may be open to giving you another chance. That said, you need to keep your eyes peeled for the signs mentioned above!
Likewise, it will help to follow the tips above – for you ultimately hold the power to get her back again!
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