21 subtle signs of fake people that are easy to miss

Are you tired of dealing with fake people?

I know I am. They only care about superficial attention and I never get to know them for who they are.

So in this article, I’m going to go over 21 ways to spot a fake person so you can avoid them in your daily life. I’ll also talk about how to deal with them (if you can’t avoid them!).

1. Fake people only respect those who have power and wealth.

Fake people are only interested in spending time with people who could benefit them in some way.

Therefore, when it comes to evaluating a person’s characteristics, a fake person will tend to look at how powerful or rich they are. They won’t care if they’re kind or genuine.

2. Fake people will manipulate others to get what they want

A fake person will manipulate whoever is in their path to get what they want. Dishonest methods of persuasion aren’t beyond them.

This is why fake people are masters at fake smiling, giving fake compliments, and acting like your friend when they’re really not.

A fake person is all about themselves. They’ll disregard someone else’s well-being if it means they can benefit in some way. This is not entirely different from a narcissist.

3. Fake people love superficial attention

A fake person thrives on Facebook likes and Instagram follows. They’ll do anything for attention.

The world revolves around them so getting any kind of attention (even if it’s superficial) boosts a fake person’s ego.

And if they can’t achieve popularity, they won’t hesitate to go against moral principles to find it.

4. Fake people always try to talk themselves up

A surefire way to spot a fake person is if they’re constantly boasting and talking about their achievements.

No matter what conversation they’re involved in, they’ll somehow find a way to turn into a conversation about themselves and all the good things they’ve done.

As we mentioned above, the world revolves around a fake person (according to them) so talking about their achievements is a way to boost their ego.

They might even lie about their achievements and make them seem better than they really are.

5. Fake people love to gossip

Gossiping is a great way to develop rapport with others while also putting your competitors down.

This is why a fake person has no issues saying whatever they want about others as it puts them down and lifts them up.

A fake person doesn’t stick to strong moral principles, so as long as the gossip isn’t about them, they’re happy to participate in it.

6. Fake people struggle to keep their promises

It doesn’t matter to a fake person whether they stick to their word or not. A fake person lacks integrity and they’ll fail to act if that action doesn’t benefit them in some way.

They tend to not harbor any deep emotions for others (they only have superficial feelings for others) so they won’t care if they let someone else down.

7. A fake person won’t hesitate to make others feel bad if it means they’ll look better

A fake person only cares about themselves. They don’t care about others.

If there is an opportunity to put someone else down to make them look better, a fake person won’t hesitate in the slightest.

This is why they gossip behind people’s backs and even in the conversation will downplay other people’s achievements.

Even if it goes against reality, they’ll say anything if it means it gets them ahead.

8. Fake people will only be nice if they need something

This is when dealing with a fake person can be tricky. They’ll smile beautifully, use fake compliments and treat you like a queen/king if it leads to them getting something.

Fake people tend to be very nice to powerful and rich people because they know that it could benefit them in the future.

9. Fake people tend to be arrogant

A fake person believes they are superior to others. This is why they find it so easy to manipulate people to get what they want.

And because they’re so focused on themselves, they inflate their ego and believe that they’re more important than other people around them.

This inflated ego and arrogant attitude is actually used to hide insecurities. This is very common with narcissists.

10. Fake people don’t own up to their mistakes

A big part of being an authentic and genuine person is taking ownership of actions.

If they make a mistake, they’ll own up to it and do what they can to rectify it.

On the other hand, fake people will point the blame at other people or external circumstances to protect their ego.

11. Fake people love being the center of attention

Fake people thrive off superficial attention. They want to make sure everyone around them sees how great they are.

Fake people tend to be the peacock of the group, strutting around and talking themselves up.

They hate it when someone takes the limelight from them. They form such a high image of themselves that after a while they even start to believe it.

12. Fake people are very judgmental of others

Fake people judge others down. This is because putting others down makes them feel better about themselves.

Remember, they’re all about their ego, so they’ll do whatever they can to protect it.

They are always trying to one-up people around them to win the validation of others.

They don’t care about anything but making themselves appear more important. This is why their energy is almost exclusively focused on building themselves up and tearing others down.

13. Fake people struggle to express their true feelings

Because fake people don’t know how to be their true selves, they don’t go deep into their true feelings and they don’t know how to express their real emotions.

This means that fake people are really running away from who they are.

After all, deeper emotions don’t serve them. They’d prefer to focus on superficial desires such as gains in material and social status.

14. They only get to know people on a superficial level

They know basic information about their friends. Their name, where they live, what sort of food they like, but that’s far as it goes.

Fake people don’t care for what makes a person tick. They know just enough about a person so they can call them when they need something from them.

Fake people never initiate deep conversations about life and beyond.

15. They mostly talk about themselves

They hardly pay attention in a conversation if the conversation isn’t about them.

Fake people are completely self-absorbed. They’re conversational narcissists who always find a way to bring the conversation back to them.

They won’t ask you how you are doing unless they know it will somehow lead back to them speaking about themselves.

16. They put down others’ successes or happiness

Fake people are never happy to hear about other people’s accomplishments. After all, it doesn’t involve them and it doesn’t benefit them when someone else does well.

Some fake people will even ditch their friends if they are becoming successful because it makes them look bad.

17. Fake people make plans they don’t keep

They don’t respect other people’s time, so even if they make plans, they won’t show up because at the time it doesn’t benefit them to show up.

Keeping their word isn’t important to them. Fake people are very fickle and don’t have strong moral values at all.

18. Fake people don’t listen to what you have to say

They’ll pretend to listen. They’ll nod and say yep but in reality, they’re not paying attention at all.

This is because fake people don’t respect other people’s opinions or comments.

After all, they think they’re superior, so what could they possibly learn from someone else?

Anyone that shows these signs will be tough to deal with. They can be emotionally draining and they won’t be there for you when you’re in need of help.

19. Fake people change their tune constantly

One minute they’re the nicest person in the world, the next minute they’re angry and talking about you behind their back.

You know their feelings are superficial when they can change so quickly.

You don’t really know what they think because they don’t know themselves.

They’ll simply behave in a way that has the greatest chance of benefiting themselves.

20. Fake people only pay attention to those in positions of power

Fake people only care about gaining power and status. They’ll listen to someone in a position of power because they see them as someone that can help them get to the top.

They’re comfortable with using others to get what they want. And if you’re not in a position of power, then they can’t see a reason to treat you kindly.

21. Fake people never initiate a date or hang out

They won’t initiate any type of social interaction unless it is with someone from who they can get something.

Building a genuine connection does nothing for a fake person. A catch-up is just a waste of time for a fake person.

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Lachlan Brown

Written by Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

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