8 signs he’ll eventually come back to you (even if you have doubts)

Are you lying awake at night, tossing and turning, wondering if he’ll ever come back? Trust me, you’re not alone. 

A friend of mine was in the same boat, dissecting every text and replaying old memories. 

But here’s the good news: sometimes love makes a U-turn. 

If you’re scanning for signals, trying to decode if he’s gone for good or just taking a detour, you’re in the right place. 

Stick around as we delve into the 8 signs that hint he may very well find his way back to you, even when doubt clouds your mind.

1) Unfinished conversations

Have you ever noticed how some conversations seem to trail off, leaving behind a sense of “to be continued”? Well, that’s exactly what happened with my friend. 

She and her guy had these unfinished conversations that seemed to hang in the air long after they had parted ways. It was as if their words carried a silent promise of more to come. 

These types of conversations are usually heavy with meaning and emotion. They may end abruptly, but they leave a mark, encouraging you to think about each other and the relationship long after you’ve stopped talking. 

They essentially serve as open doors, inviting you both back to pick up where you left off.

If you find yourselves having these lingering conversations that feel too significant to be left incomplete, take it as a sign.

It could very well mean that he’s also feeling the unfinished business between you and could come back to resolve it.

2) He keeps in touch

Let’s face it — when a person doesn’t want you in their life anymore, they cut you out. They don’t reply to your text with “we shouldn’t talk anymore,” — they just don’t reply at all.

That’s why, the fact that your ex stays in touch at all is in and of itself sending a message, and a pretty meaningful one at that.

Despite their distance, my friend’s ex would still stay connected to her. They kept following each other on social media, and he would leave comments or likes here and there.

And when she texted him, he never ignored her. He even initiated an interaction himself a few times. 

Now, some people stay in contact because they genuinely want to be friends, or because they don’t like to burn bridges or leave things on bad terms. 

But, another explanation is that some feelings still linger, and he hasn’t closed the chapter on your relationship just yet. The door is left ajar for a potential comeback. 

3) He still has stuff at your place, or you at his

You know how they say that belongings can tie us down? Well, in relationships, they can tie us together. 

My friend, for example, noticed that her guy still had some of her things at his place — even a couple of months after they had split. And it wasn’t just trivial stuff, either; we’re talking about a favorite sweater and a book she had been reading. 

On the flip side, she also had some of his things. Every time she saw his old guitar in the corner or came across his hoodie in her closet, she was reminded of the connection they still had. 

It’s almost as if those items served as placeholders, silently whispering, “There’s still something here.”

If you or he still have each other’s belongings, and neither of you is making a rush to get them back, take note. 

It’s like an unspoken agreement that the story isn’t over, a subconscious reluctance to sever all ties.

4) He asks about you

We’re all naturally curious about the people who’ve played significant roles in our lives. But when a guy takes that extra step to actually ask about you, it’s different. 

My friend would hear from mutual pals that her guy had been asking about her — how she was doing and what she was up to. 

It wasn’t just idle chatter; he seemed genuinely interested in her well-being.

Interest speaks volumes. It’s one thing to ask a casual, “How are you?” but another to dig deeper, wanting to know how you’re coping, feeling, and living without him. 

When he’s inquiring about your life in a way that goes beyond surface-level small talk, it’s a sign. A sign that not only does he care but also that he might be considering reentering your life.

5) He’s making an effort to resolve his issues

Sometimes, the real reason a relationship hits a pause or comes to an end isn’t about falling out of love, but rather personal issues that one or both parties need to resolve. 

My friend had this experience; her guy had things he needed to work on, from career struggles to emotional baggage. 

And you know what? She started noticing that he was actually making a conscious effort to tackle these issues head-on.

Whether your ex has gone back to school, sought therapy, or made lifestyle changes, these aren’t just signs of personal growth; they’re potential signs he’s prepping for a relationship reboot. 

Why? Because overcoming these challenges could be his way of proving — both to himself and to you — that he can be the man you deserve.

It’s like he’s silently saying, “I know I need to be better, and I’m working on it.” And that, my friends, is monumental. 

6) He doesn’t date seriously

After a breakup, some people dive headfirst into new relationships, either to fill the void or to move on. But if he’s not dating anyone seriously, that’s worth noting. 

My friend found herself in this very situation. While her guy was certainly not a monk, there was a marked lack of any serious new flame in his life.

What does this mean? Well, if he’s not committing to anyone new, it could be a sign that he’s still holding onto what you two had. 

He might even say that he’s open to something serious with a new person. But actions speak louder than words, and it could even be his subconscious that’s holding him back. 

He’s not ready to let anyone else take your place yet, because deep down he knows nobody can replace the special connection the two of you shared.

7) He wasn’t sure about the breakup

Doubt can be a powerful thing, especially when it comes to breakups. If he wasn’t entirely sure about the decision to part ways, that uncertainty can linger. 

My friend told me that even when they decided to call it quits, he seemed hesitant, almost regretful. 

You know, it’s like breaking a vase and then looking at the pieces, wondering if maybe, just maybe, it could be put back together.

If he’s vocalized or even hinted at this uncertainty, that’s something to latch onto. Often, this doubt isn’t just a fleeting moment of indecision; it can be a seed of hope that needs just a bit of nurturing to grow. 

What it definitely shows is emotional investment; it’s much easier to walk away from something you don’t care about than something you do.

You see, when someone is unsure about a breakup, it’s often because they’re weighing the pain of the problems against the joy of the good times, and they can’t definitively say that one outweighs the other. 

That inner tug-of-war is a sign that he’s not done processing your relationship, and it could mean that he’s open to revisiting it in the future.

8) He recognizes positive change in you

Sometimes breakups serve as catalysts for personal growth. You find yourself focusing on improving, whether it’s hitting the gym, diving into a new hobby, or working on your emotional intelligence. 

If he notices these positive changes in you and even comments on them, that’s a big deal.

My friend went through this transformation. After their split, she decided to focus on her career, and achieved some pretty impressive accomplishments.

She also took up baking again, a hobby she had shelved for years, and published a successful online recipe book. 

And guess who noticed? Yep, her ex. He didn’t just casually acknowledge it; he seemed genuinely impressed and appreciative of her new focus.

This can get a person thinking — we have both clearly grown as individuals, maybe we can give it another shot. There’s proof that things will be different in some way this time, because you are both different, better people.

And if the change addresses something that was a point of contention in your relationship, this recognition is doubly significant. 

So, if he’s noticing your personal improvements and highlighting them, take it as a sign. He’s seeing you in a new light, and that could very well reignite the spark that once was.

Holding onto hope: Second chances are real

Sometimes love takes a detour, but that doesn’t mean the journey’s over. If you see these signs, it’s likely he’s wrestling with the same hope and uncertainty that you are. 

Listen to your gut and keep your eyes peeled. 

Love has its own timetable and sometimes, it’s all about the perfect timing. 

Who knows? The universe might just be aligning the stars for your second act.

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Tina Fey

I'm Tina Fey, the founder of the blog Love Connection. I've extremely passionate about sharing relationship advice. I've studied psychology and have my Masters in marital, family, and relationship counseling. I hope with all my heart to help you improve your relationships, and I hope that even if one thing I write helps you, it means more to me than just about anything else in the world. Check out my blog Love Connection, and if you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter

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