12 signs he sees you as a long-term partner

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You’ve been in a relationship for a while now. And you’re so good together that you know you can marry this guy.

But… does he feel the same way about you?

In this article, I will give you 12 clear signs that a guy sees you as a long-term partner.

1) He says you’re different

When we hear “you’re different”, it’s hard to decode the exact message, right? I mean, all of us are different. That’s pretty basic.

What a guy really means when he says this is that you make HIM different.

Maybe it’s the way you make him see the world or the way you make him inspired to live a more adventurous life.

You’re a one-of-a-kind woman to him because you have this effect on him.

And when a man feels this way about a woman? Trust me, he’d eventually see her as “The One.”

2) He actually likes you (not just loves you)

Like and love is different.

We can love our parents and friends but it doesn’t mean we truly like who they are as people. Not really.

The same way with partners. We can love them without actually liking every aspect of them.

But your guy? He truly likes who you are—what you do, how you think, your taste in music and movies…He just adores you!

He likes you and not just because he loves you. It’s because he truly admires you for who you are. He thinks of you as an amazing woman, not just a loving girlfriend.

If your man keeps telling you he really likes you, chances are he sees you as a long-term partner.

3) He shares his goals with you

Most people see goals as something personal—something to be shared only with a few trusted people.

Some don’t even talk about it because they don’t want to appear like they’re bragging. And of course, there’s the shame when we’re not able to achieve the goals we set.

But your guy shares his goals and ambitions and life plans with you.

Not only does he trust you, but he also wants to know your reaction to his goals because he wants to share his life with you someday.

4) He bares it all

Guys, unlike girls, are generally more secretive.

Society has this expectation that men should just have to deal with their issues alone and keep their feelings to themselves. It’s the basic definition of “manning up.”

But your guy wants to be honest with you even if it makes him vulnerable. He trusts you fully. Besides, he has no choice. He knows it’s a must for a good relationship.

A guy who doesn’t see you as a long-term partner would just share the good times—passion, sex, romance. But a guy who’s truly into you would share his scars.

Him baring his ugly past, his insecurities, his fears, and his frustrations is a big deal! It’s a sign he sees you as a long-term girlfriend or even wife.

5) You’ve stirred up his desire to constantly chase you

Here’s something that you should know: Men like the chase…yes, even if they’re already in a relationship. And even if the woman they’re chasing is already their girlfriend!

You see, men are biologically wired to pursue something.

I learned this from dating and relationship coach Clayton Max. And if you can make your man feel like he’s “chasing” you (of course, without actually being too manipulative), you will keep him hooked for life.

Maybe you’re good at making him crave for you even if you’ve been together for a while. Congrats! This is a skill that not too many women are good at.

If you’re not yet this kind of woman, don’t worry. I’m sure you can easily become one with the guidance of Clayton Max.

I’m an awkward introvert who knows nothing about seduction, but I became one!

What I did, I devoured Clayton Max’s “Infatuation Scripts” e-book when I felt that my boyfriend was pulling away from me. I then did some subtle tricks suggested in the book, and in no time, I was able to re-ignite my boyfriend’s interest in me.

If an awkward girl like me can do it, you can do it too.

If you want to get a glimpse of his course, then watch Clayton Max’s quick video here where he shows you how to make a man infatuated with you (it’s easier than you probably think).

Making your boyfriend fall head over heels in love with you again is even achievable through texting. To learn exactly what these texts are, watch Clayton’s excellent video now.

6) He jokes about getting married

He jokes (a lot) about getting married, having kids, and growing old together.

He’s “joking” about those things because he wants to see your reaction.

If you say “Sheesh, I don’t like the idea of marriage.”, then he’d know what to expect. If you blush and participate in a back-and-forth banter, then he knows you might like having a future with him.

If he’s not interested, he wouldn’t even say those things because it’s an assh*le thing to do if he really has no interest in marriage and he knows you’re into it.

7) He wants to impress your people

We all know that marriage (or long-term relationships in general) isn’t just about two people getting together. It’s a union of both of your people. That includes your family, your friends, and your colleagues.

Let’s be honest here. Meeting the family and friends of someone you’re dating can be exhausting, especially if you want to impress them.

If he’s doing this to your folks, and especially if he cares about what they think of him, that only means he’s serious about you.

Someone who doesn’t see you as a potential long-term partner would rather NOT do the hard work.

8) He wants you to meet his folks

If he’s introduced you to his parents and regularly tries to tag you along during family gatherings, then he must be really into you.

He wants you to be a (permanent) part of his life so he wants you and his family to get along.

However, don’t fret if you still haven’t met the parents. It doesn’t automatically mean he doesn’t see you as a long-term partner. It could mean he’s just not close to his family, or that he still has issues with them that he wants to be sorted out before you enter the picture.

9) He enjoys doing “nothing” with you

If you’ve been together for a while now, chances are you have a lot of downtimes.

Long-term relationships aren’t exciting 24/7. It’s filled with plenty of mundane moments like you cutting your toenails while he stares at the ceiling thinking of what to cook for dinner.

If he finds those regular moments cute and comforting, if you can even laugh at how “boring” you both have become, then he must see you as someone he can be with for the rest of his life.

What this means is that all he really needs is your company to be happy in life.

10) You’re actually a good team

You know a couple would do well if they know how to function as a team. And if your boyfriend notices this about your relationship—say he tells you “Hey, we’re a great team!”—then he probably sees you as someone he’ll settle down with.

Do you have each other’s backs no matter what?

Do you try your best to make each other’s life easier?

Do you have good communication and conflict resolution?

Then it’s highly likely that he does see you as a long-term partner.

11) He asks for your “permission”

He’s a free person and you’re not codependent, and yet…he finds it necessary to ask for your permission when he does something.

When his friends invite him to go to a concert, he doesn’t just inform you about it, he gives you the right to tell him not to go (but of course, you wouldn’t do that).

When he has to make major life decisions like switching jobs or even buying a new pair of shoes, he asks for your opinion.

He likes that you both help each other make decisions, and that’s because you matter to him a whole lot.

12) He invests in the relationship

I saved the best sign for last.

For me, being invested in your relationship is the number one indicator that a guy sees you as a long-term partner.

Does your guy spend enough time with you that you can say he really values your relationship?

Does your guy save up so you can both have some savings?

Does your guy go to therapy when you both agree it’s what’s best for your relationship?

In other words, do you feel like he’s willing to give anything and everything to keep you in his life?

Well then, there’s no question about it. This guy sees you as someone he can spend the rest of his life with.

Last words

How many of these signs do you see in your man?

If it’s more than half, then you can rest assured that your man sees you as a long-term partner.

And if you only notice a few, don’t worry. Love and commitment take time.

What’s more important is that you’re happy right now, and you know he feels the same way.

Live in the moment.

As Steinbeck once wrote, “The main thing is not to hurry. Nothing good gets away.”

Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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