“The woman who does not require validation from anyone is the most feared individual on the planet.”
— Mohadesa Najumi
If you’re in a relationship that’s breaking up, you’re probably feeling scared, angry, sad and confused.
Did I miss anything?
The point is that it’s not the easiest time to analyze whether your relationship has a future.
That’s why I’ve made this no-nonsense list about whether he’s really going to pull the trigger and leave you or not…
21 no-nonsense signs he is leaving you for another woman
1) He’s having an affair and he doesn’t feel sorry about it
If your husband is having an affair and he doesn’t feel about it, things aren’t looking good.
This is generally what happens just before a break-up.
One of the worst signs he is leaving you for another woman is that he admits he’s been seeing another woman but justifies it.
He more or less says: “so what?”
This means that he’s done with you and he’s moving on.
2) He doesn’t act like your hero
If another woman makes your man feel needed, he might stop acting like your hero. Instead, he might start acting like HER hero.
You see, for guys, it’s all about triggering their inner hero.
I learned about this from the hero instinct. Coined by relationship expert James Bauer, this fascinating concept is about what really drives men in relationships, which is ingrained in their DNA.
And it’s something most women don’t know anything about.
Once triggered, these drivers make men into the heroes of their own lives. They feel better, love harder, and commit stronger when they find someone who knows how to trigger it.
Now, you may be wondering why it’s called “the hero instinct”? Do guys really need to feel like superheroes to commit to a woman?
Not at all. Forget about Marvel. You won’t need to play the damsel in distress or buy your man a cape.
The truth is, it comes at no cost or sacrifice to you. With only a few small changes in how you approach him, you’ll tap into a part of him no woman has tapped into before.
The easiest thing to do is to check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here. He shares some easy tips to get you started, such as sending him a 12-word text that will trigger his hero instinct right away.
Because that’s the beauty of the hero instinct.
It’s only a matter of knowing the right things to say to make him realize that he wants you and only you.
3) He’s minimizing the time he spends around you
Another of the top signs he is leaving you for another woman is that he’s minimizing the time he spends around you.
There’s a simple thing that every man does when he’s interested in someone: he spends time with them as much as possible.
That’s why if he’s cheating on you and going to leave you he will avoid spending time with you.
Even responsibilities or plans he has with you will start falling through on a regular basis.
“When cheaters decide to jump ship from their main relationship, the girls they’re dumping quickly notice the amount of time they spend with their partners shrinking.
“He’s no longer prioritizing you, spending as much time as possible with his future girlfriend instead.”
4) He hides his phone like it has the nuclear codes on it
Another one of the worrisome signs he is leaving you for another woman is that he hovers over his phone like it has the nuclear codes on it.
He literally stops breathing and glares at you if you even come within ten feet of him and his precious phone.
Don’t ever expect it to be face up on any table, ever.
You can also be sure that he’ll have a very secure password set on it.
If you ever want to check the weather or something on his phone you’re out of luck as well, since he’ll hiss like Gollum protecting the one ring and pull away rapidly.
This secretiveness and protectiveness on your guy’s part is a clear sign that he’s either cheating, wants to cheat, or has actual plans in place to leave you soon…
5) He’s sprucing himself up, but not for you
Usually, seeing that your boyfriend or husband is looking after his appearance is very good news.
But when it’s not for you it’s the exact opposite.
In fact, it’s one of the strongest signs he is leaving you for another woman.
In the first place it probably means that he’s literally going to see another woman later in the day after getting himself looking sharp.
But thinking longer-term it also likely means he’s reorienting his energy and affection to someone else and will soon jump ship.
“When a man starts working out, styling his hair, buying nice clothes, and generally taking more care of his appearance it’s a sign that he’s trying to impress someone.
“If that someone isn’t you – who is it?”
6) He’s on his phone constantly and seems transfixed by it
In addition to being protective of his phone, a guy who is headed away from you will be very obsessed with his phone.
This is his golden ticket out of the relationship.
It’s his place to cruise profiles, chit-chat in ways he shouldn’t be, and speak to the new object of his affection.
This is all very bad news for you, but it can be like a slow-motion trainwreck watching someone you care about slowly lose interest.
There he is, staring at his phone like he’s in a trance while you try to talk to him.
What did men do before phones when they didn’t care about their women anymore?
I’m guessing they sat reading books or probably way back in the beginning they watched the cave fire and scowled.
This relates back to the unique concept I mentioned earlier: the hero instinct.
When a man feels respected, useful, and needed, he’s more likely to stay committed to you, not leave you for another woman.
And the best part is (since he’s always on his phone), triggering his hero instinct can be as simple as knowing the right thing to say over a text.
You can learn exactly what to do by watching this simple and genuine video by James Bauer.
7) He suddenly seems to have been promoted to CEO of a Fortune 500 company
Another of the top signs he is leaving you for another woman is all about how he structures his time.
As I said, he likely will be trying to cut down any time he spends with you.
But another thing is that his job will suddenly take on a whole new importance.
It’s as if he was promoted to the CEO of a Fortune 500 company.
Suddenly it’s late days at work everyday and special weekend corporate retreats that he just forgot to mention previously.
But now he’s so interested in his work that he’s basically obsessed.
“If your man is experiencing love for a different woman, then you may have noticed that his schedule has suddenly gotten extremely busy for no apparent reason.
“If he is unusually busy and has not given you a believable explanation for this sudden change in his schedule then there may be a reason for you to worry that something is going on,” notes Sarah Mayfield.
That’s it right there…
8) He compares you to other women and criticizes you constantly
This is another big red flag that can come up.
He compares you to other women and undercuts you any chance he gets.
This is really bad news…
Because even if he’s only talking about other women “in general” the point is that they have something you don’t have (according to him)…
This gaslighting is likely to continue and worsen as his interest in leaving you for another woman increases.
It’s a vicious cycle.
9) He doesn’t open up to you in any way about what he’s feeling
Another of the disturbing signs he is leaving you for another woman is that he ceases to be emotionally available to you in any way.
It’s like a giant door has closed over his heart.
He’s not opening up at all.
He might have had the best day of his life or found out his best friend died.
There’s no way for you to know with the way he talks to you or acts, because he hides his feelings like a world famous poker player.
It’s hurtful and disappointing, and it’s really hard to get past it.
“You might used to talk about everything and anything, sharing all your feelings and thoughts. Your relationship should be an open and safe space, where you can share everything.
“However, if he has feelings for someone else, this might have changed.”
10) He decides his next steps in life without your input
Whatever it is that’s going on in your life with you and your guy, it’s good to know you’re in it together.
That’s why it hurts so much to find out he’s been planning his future without you.
If you were going to be part of his future, he wouldn’t be doing this.
So that’s why it’s so worrisome.
That’s why it’s also one of the top signs that he’s planning to leave you for someone else.
I learned about this from the shaman Rudá Iandê. In his genuine, free video on cultivating healthy relationships, he gives you the tools to plant yourself at the center of your world.
He covers some of the major mistakes most of us make in our relationships, such as codependency habits and unhealthy expectations. Mistakes most of us make without even realizing it.
So why am I recommending Rudá’s life-changing advice?
Well, he uses techniques derived from ancient shamanic teachings, but he puts his own modern-day twist on them. He may be a shaman, but his experiences in love weren’t much different from yours and mine.
Until he found a way to overcome these common issues. And that’s what he wants to share with you.
So if you’re ready to make that change today and cultivate healthy, loving relationships, relationships you know you deserve, check out his simple, genuine advice.
11) He’s mostly uninterested in sex and physical affection with you
Another of the most important signs he is leaving you for another woman is that he’s shut down shop in the sex department.
He’s just not interested in sex with you.
And if he is it’s very rare, very lacking in enthusiasm and not followed or preceded by any touching or intimacy.
He does the bare minimum and gets out.
As if it’s a chore…
Or a duty…
“You guys might still be getting it on, but it’s with much less frequency and when you do get busy, there’s less cuddling and fewer sweet moments and more pulling away as soon as everything’s done.”
12) He gets angry at you for no reason all the time
This is one of the indicators of a failing relationship as a whole.
But it can also be a specific marker that he’s interested in another woman.
Sometimes a man will create a conflict so that he has a justification for leaving you.
For this reason he may seem to always be on your case and upset at you…
Apparently for no reason.
But the reason could be that he wants to leave you for another woman.
13) He’s publicly avoiding acknowledging your relationship
Another one of the troubling signs he is leaving you for another woman is that he publicly unlinks from you.
He may consciously avoid going out with you in public.
Untag himself in photos…
Talk about you in a way that makes it sound vague as to whether he’s with you…
And otherwise treat you in a way that’s standoffish and like he’s trying to get rid of an annoying younger sibling or something…
It’s very off-putting.
“If possible, he avoids going out with you in public at all costs. If that’s the case, then there’s a real problem here.
“Why would he care if other people see him in a relationship? There’s a pretty good reason why. I think you know the answer to it,” explains Natasha Ivanovic.
14) He tells you many reasons why you’re not good enough or incompatible with him
Another one of the ways in which a guy will try to gaslight you before he leaves you is by making you feel inadequate and damaged.
He may tell you all the reasons you’re not good enough for him.
Or why you’re not a fit for him.
This is basically him making a kind of “legal case” to justify to himself why he’s going to drop you.
Once he finally hits the road with his new girl he’ll have all sorts of memories of the ways in which he believes he justified the move.
15) He hates talking about the future with you in any way
In addition to planning the future without you in it, a guy who’s planning to leave you for another woman will hate discussing his plans with you at all.
If you bring up your future as a couple he’ll act uncomfortable or change the subject.
He just doesn’t want to go there.
Once you look for the signs it will become obvious.
He’s shaking off any talk of the future with you because he doesn’t plan to have a future with you.
“Some men are notorious for avoiding the where-is-this-relationship-going talk, and this behavior is further intensified when there is another woman in the picture.
“He will try to avoid or downplay conversations about taking the next step, getting serious, or generally anything that has to do with your future.”
16) He cancels plans you make without apologizing
When there’s a let down in respect in a relationship it’s often the sign that it’s about to collapse.
One of the worst things you can do is constantly cancel plans at the last minute.
But what makes it even worse is when you do this and then also don’t apologize.
And that’s exactly what a man will do if he’s planning to leave you for another woman.
In many of the times he will be cancelling with you when his other crush comes through.
And he’ll also be doing it so that he can try to cut down his time around you.
It’s all part of him moving away from you.
17) He leaves you on read and doesn’t answer your calls
When a guy is making plans to ditch you for another woman he will engage in that nasty practice known as “leaving on read.”
This is where someone gets a message from you, reads it and then…just doesn’t answer.
Sometimes they don’t answer for many days.
Then when they do (if they do) they act like it was normal that they just brushed you off like a piece of trash.
It’s a pretty upsetting occurrence that you’d only expect from some one-night stand, not a guy you’re in a relationship with.
If he’s doing this then there’s a good chance that he’s got plans to leave you for another woman.
“His attention has already drifted to someone else if he goes radio silent and you find yourself always having to be the initiator, it could be that he’s emotionally removing himself from your relationship because talking and texting with someone else seems way more appealing.”
18) He wouldn’t open up his wallet for you if you were dying on the street
There are many positive things about women’s financial independence.
But one of the ugly spinoffs from it is guys who feel like they can treat their partner as a piggy bank and never pay for anything.
This kind of greedy behavior is disappointing in anyone.
But it’s especially upsetting in a guy you thought you were in a relationship with.
If he’s shutting down any kind of help for you it’s one of the signs that he’s redirecting his focus elsewhere.
And he’s putting his resources in for a new woman.
19) He doesn’t do nice little things (or any things) for you anymore
If your guy used to do nice things for you, you can look forward to that ending now that he has a new woman in mind.
If you’ve noticed a huge chasm between how he used to be and how he is now, then it’s going to hurt to realize that he’s got someone new as his sweetheart.
He’s doing those nice little things for her now.
And he won’t even lift a finger for you.
“He used to be a real-life Romeo, always showing up after a long day at work with chocolates and flowers for her,” writes Tania di Palma.
“ Now that he has fallen for someone else though, all those romantic things he would normally do have stopped.
No, it isn’t laziness, it’s because he’s thinking of others way he could do the same for his crush.”
20) He starts blaming you for the problems in his life
Gaslighting is when you blame someone else for your problems.
Unfortunately, it’s especially common in romantic relationships.
If your guy is planning to leave you for another woman then don’t be surprised if he starts acting like you’re the devil.
Suddenly everything you do becomes the reason that he’s struggling in life.
No matter what you do or say (including nothing), you are the one to blame that he’s not acing life’s test.
This toxic mentality is a real relationship killer.
If you want some karmic justice then think about how his new girl is going to react to this kind of behavior (spoiler: not well).
21) He threatens you that he’s going to leave you for another woman
Last and simplest of all, he may directly just tell you that he’s going to leave you for another woman.
The thing here is that you need to figure out if he’s bluffing or for real.
This could be part of another game or it could be that he’s really going to.
Look for other signs that he’s really serious about it or just spewing smoke.
If he’s talking like this then he may really mean it or he may be trying to threaten or manipulate you in other ways.
But one thing’s for sure and that is that this relationship is clearly nearing the end of its life cycle…
What can you do if he leaves you?
If he goes ahead and leaves you for another woman, nobody can blame you for feeling wretched, furious, and demoralized.
Just know that you are going to get through this.
If there is one thing that I could tell you as your world crashes down, it would be to never forget your own power and potential.
When will it get better?
The pain from him leaving you isn’t going to suddenly go away.
The suffering and humiliation of feeling inadequate and betrayed leaves a deep mark.
But over time as you focus on yourself, your goals and your inner self-worth, you will feel a sense of wellbeing come over you.
You have the power within you to build a new life and move forward.
Stop him from leaving you
By now you should have a good idea about whether he’s leaving you for another woman.
So the key now is getting through to him in a way that empowers both him and you.
I mentioned the concept of the hero instinct earlier — by appealing directly to his primal instincts, you won’t only solve this issue, but you’ll take your relationship further than ever before.
And since this free video reveals exactly how to trigger your man’s hero instinct, you could make this change as early as today.
With James Bauer’s incredible concept, he’ll see you as the only woman for him. So if you’re ready to take that plunge, before sure to check out the video now.
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