29 definite signs he is catching feelings for you

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If you’ve been dating your guy for a while now, but he hasn’t told you how he feels and you’re about to burst at the seams, keep reading.

In this article, we’re sharing some subtle ways he’s trying to tell you how much he cares about you without actually coming out and saying it.

It’s annoying, for sure, but give the guy a break. He’s probably never felt like this in his life and is trying to figure out what to do with all these feelings he has.

He’ll come around.

And who said you had to wait around for him to say I love you first anyway? Spill the beans if you’re feeling him.

Check out this list to hold you over until you’re ready to say it too.

1. Stare much?

He can’t get enough of you.

He’s always looking at you and always smiling at you.

You catch him across a room, sitting next to you, or across the dinner table.

Ummm, your fries are getting cold.

He doesn’t stop looking at you. He’s totally hooked.

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2. His friends know more about you than you know about him.

When y’all get together, his friends are giving it all up and are into conversations like they’ve been dating you.

They know lots of things about you and he gets embarrassed that he’s been talking about you.

He kind of hoped they wouldn’t do that, yet here we are: he’s into you and he likes you more than a friend.

3. He wants to be your hero.

A surefire way you can tell that he is catching feelings for you before he even knows himself is if he makes an effort to protect you.

Subtle gestures like facing his body to the side of the traffic when you’re crossing the road, or placing his hand on your back when you’re walking in a busy area, are excellent signs that he wants to assume the protector role.

He is doing this because he loves you and he wants you to be safe.

There’s actually a new concept in relationship psychology that explains why men are so protective of the woman they love. It’s called the hero instinct.

According to this theory, a man will only fall in love with a woman when he feels like he is her provider and protector. Someone that she genuinely admires for the things he does for her. In other words, men want to be your hero.

I know it sounds a bit silly. In modern times, women don’t need someone to be their “hero” to save the day.

And I couldn’t agree more.

But here’s the ironic truth. Men do still need to feel like they are a hero. Because it’s built into their DNA to seek out a relationship with a woman that makes them feel like a hero.

The simple truth is that men have a thirst for admiration and respect. They want to protect and provide for the woman they love. This is deeply rooted in male biology.

And the kicker?

A man won’t fall in love with a woman when this thirst isn’t satisfied.

If you want your guy to fall in love with you, then you need to make sure you’re triggering his hero instinct.

The best way to learn to do this is to watch this free online video.

James Bauer, the relationship psychologist who first discovered the hero instinct, gives a terrific introduction to his concept.

I don’t often buy into popular new concepts in psychology or recommend videos.

However, I think the hero instinct can be a game changer when it comes to love.

Here’s a link to this excellent free video again.

4. He asks to hang out.

He just wants to be with you all the time.

He wants to go to the movies, go shopping with you, heck, he even wants to wait in the store while you try on clothes.

Who is this guy? Has he been drinking Love Potion #9 or what?

He’s in love if he happily, willingly, stands in a department store while you try on four pairs of black pants.

5. He wants to be close to you.

This guy doesn’t know the meaning of personal space and he lets you know it every time you’re together.

The table might have another side, but he puts himself right next to you at the restaurant.

The couch might have three seats, but his seat is right next to you.

6. He texts you first to tell you good news.

You’re the first person he wants to talk to when good things happen in his life.

He’ll ring you up or send you a text message with a big “Guess what?!” and he’ll be anxiously waiting for your response so he can leap into a story-telling mode and share the good news!

The question then becomes, how do you grab his attention over text?

So that he’s thinking about you – and only you?

The simple answer is that you need to use “attention hooks” in your texts. Hollywood screenwriters are famous for using “attention hooks” to draw audiences into their TV shows and movies.

Have you ever been so hooked on a show that you couldn’t stop watching it? Something at the end of each episode made you click “Watch Next Episode”. Almost as if you couldn’t help yourself.

Relationship expert Amy North has adapted the same Hollywood techniques for texting men. As she explains here, text messages with attention hooks tap directly into the focus system of a man’s brain.

When you send these texts to a guy, you’ll pop into his head again and again throughout his day. He won’t be able to shake you from his mind.

No matter how far away he is or how long since you’ve seen each other.

Check out this excellent free video by Amy North to learn more.

7. He is all about the kissing.

Sure, the sex is amazing, but this guy can’t get enough of your lips. He wants to kiss you and hold you and be close to you as much as possible.

He’s passionate and on fire and even though he can’t say the words, he’s feeling the love.

8. He’s told you things he’s never told anyone.

Because he feels so close to you and comfortable with you, he’s told you things that he has never shared with anyone before.

He wants you to know all of him and love all of him, even if he can’t say the words to you just yet.

He’s afraid you won’t feel the same way, so he’s trying to make you as comfortable as possible around him.

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9. He acts weird around you.

When guys catch feelings, they tend to act a little weird.

After all, usually, men aren’t emotional creatures so they’re bound to act strange when strong feelings come their way.

He might also act a little nervous around you because he likes you so much. Maybe he’ll stumble over his words, becomes tense or nervous or start acting a little hyper around you.

The reality is most men are not good at processing their emotions and don’t know how to act around women they like.

And the reason is simple.

Male and female brains are biologically different.

One big difference is that the limbic system (the part of the brain that regulates our emotions) is much larger in female brains and male ones.

This is why women are generally more in touch with their emotions and men can struggle to deal with complicated feelings, such as developing strong feelings for a woman.

I learned this from relationship guru Carlos Cavallo.

He’s one of the world’s leading experts male psychology and what men want from relationships.

If your guy is acting weird around you, watch Carlos’s simple and genuine video here.

Most men don’t think about relationships in a logical way. At least not in the way women do. What men really care about is how the relationship makes them feel.

The simple truth is that your man wants to feel like he’s found the absolute best woman for him. Like he’s won the game of love. Carlos Cavallo will show exactly how to do that.

In his new video, he’ll show you a simple and genuine way to give your man this unique feeling…

Here’s a link to his free video again.

10. He tells you you’re different from other girls he’s dated.

He loves to pay you a compliment, but his favorite one is to tell you just how unique and special you are.

He doesn’t compare you to other girls he’s dated, but he lets you know that you are better in all the ways.

He wants you to know he cares about and notices what makes you, you.

11. He’s not dating anyone else.

He’s all but lost every other number in his phone.

He’s only calling and texting you. He’s only hanging out with you.

He’s not even seeing the gorgeous woman who just walked by at the bar. He’s team you.

12. He can’t stop smiling around you

Call it fake. Call it being positive. But one thing is clear:

If he can’t help but smile around you, then it’s a clear sign that he is falling for you.


For one, he is probably trying to make a good impression. We all know that a smile can make anyone look better.

He also wants to appear happy around you and show you that he is a stand-up guy that you can also have fun with.

And two, he’s probably just enjoying your company. When anyone gets time to spend with someone they truly like, then you know that they’re going to relish that time.

You can’t fake true happiness. He loves spending time with you and he loves what he sees.

Now keep in mind:

You will also need to get a baseline of how he acts around other people before interpreting his smiling around you as a sign of affection.

If he smiles around everyone, then he might just be a friendly, nice guy.

He also might see you as a friend.

But if he doesn’t act like that around others, then it’s most likely that he is falling for you.

13. He wants to do things for you.

If you need helping to move a piece of furniture or you need a contact in a company, he’s more than willing to go out of his way to help you move anything forward.

He wants to see you happy and if that means lifting tires out of a garage or calling up an old college roommate to ask for a phone number, he’s on it.

14. He is happy to hang out on the sofa.

He doesn’t need fancy dates or expensive dinners to enjoy hanging out with you – unless you want those things!

He’s perfectly happy just hanging out at home, chatting with you, watching old movies, or making food in the kitchen.

He feels comfortable enough around you that he doesn’t need to put on a show for you.

15. What does your Zodiac say?

Yes, you can use astrology to find out whether you share something special with another person.

The best bit?

Zodiac signs can absolutely help you figure out whether a guy is developing strong feelings for you. They influence how you connect with one another regarding communication, love, emotions, sex, and personality.

For instance, if you’re an Aries then star signs Leo and Sagittarius are great for you because of the emotional connection you will have. While a Gemini will be drawn to guys who are Aquarius and Libra because they’ll tap into your intellectual, confident nature with ease.

Just by taking this star sign quiz, you’ll be able to make it your guy’s idea to:

  • Pursue you
  • Chase after you
  • And completely commit to you.

I was blown away when I first took the quiz. I just selected my man’s zodiac and then discovered shocking details about him on the next page (which have proven to be 100% correct so far).

Here’s a link to the quiz again.

16. He tells you how amazing you are.

He might not be using the “L” word, but he is using lots of other words about how he feels about you.

He tells you how great he thinks you are and how proud of you he is when you do cool things. He tells others too.

He tells you you’re beautiful and you can tell he means it.

17. He just wants to lock lips all day long.

If this guy kissed you anymore, your lips might fall off. He just can’t get enough.

He kisses you in public and isn’t afraid to show others how he feels about you.

Perhaps he enjoys cuddling and making out with you so much that even sleeping with you isn’t that important to him.

PDA is not something he’s afraid to engage in and he likes that you like it too.

18. You catch him looking at you.

There are only so many things to look at in the room and you happen to be the one thing that has his attention all the time.

You don’t mind though, he like that he looks at you like that.

It doesn’t weird you out and he’s always smiling at you, anyway. What’s not to like about that?

19. His mother knows who you are.

You might not have met his mother yet, but he talks about you to her. And he tells you that.

He can’t wait for you to meet her and he wants you to meet his sister, too.

He just wants to show you off to people he cares about because he cares about you.

20. He’s shared childhood memories with you.

He’s told you the most embarrassing stories about himself without holding back and he loved that you laughed at him for every one of them.

He’s got no shame whatsoever letting you into that part of his life.

21. He lets you into his world.

In fact, one of the most telling signs you can watch for if you’re wondering if a guy is into your or not is by how much he lets you into his world.

Does he invite you to his place or do you always have to hang out at your place?

Does he ask you to stop by work or does he only visit you?

Does he tell you about his parents or does he get defensive when you talk about family?

If he’s falling for you, he’ll let you into all the areas of his life, not just the ones he’s deemed okay for public consumption. He wants you to know the real him.

22. His body language is giving him away

His body reveals a lot about how he feels. And if he is always facing his body towards you, then you know what he is subconsciously thinking. He wants to be near you!

This is especially the case if his feet is facing towards you. This is a huge indicator that he likes you and he is catching feelings for you.

Furthermore, he’ll also try to physically touch you as much as he can. Not in a creepy way of course.

Whether it’s touching your hand or giving you a hug, his body just absolutely loves getting close to you.

23. He just loves having conversations with you.

You know that he is catching feelings for you if he is constantly asking you questions and actually listening to what you have to say.

He just loves learning more about you and what makes you tick.

And what’s more, he remembers every little detail you mutter.

When you mention that you are going to your cousin’s birthday on Saturday, he’ll be the first one to ask you how it went.

24. He is talking about the future with you

You know he wants a serious relationship with you if he is talking about the future with the words “we” and he just assumes that two are together.

If you mention that you plan on working overseas, he may even get a little down because that means that you might leave the country and forget about him.

But remember: A man that is focused on the future with his girl is a man that is catching certified feelings.

25. He can’t help but compliment you.

He just loves everything about you.

And they’re not just run-of-the-mill compliments that anyone can give, either.

They’re unique compliments that show he is paying special attention to you.

It could be unique tidbits about your personality, or even subtle changes in your dress style.

26. He mirrors your actions and your slang

Imitating one’s actions, adopting their slang, and copying their energy levels are generally a sign that he likes spending time with you and you two have developed a significant rapport.

It’s also something that happens naturally.

If you use a particular word to describe someone, he’ll start using a similar word.

He may even adopt the same mannerisms as you like touching your hair or using your hands when speaking.

27. He is always chatting to you on social media apps.

Think about it:

When we’re using social media, this is the time that we have to ourselves. We can literally do whatever we want to do.

And for him, he chooses to spend that time liking and commenting on your photos and frequently messaging you to see what you’re doing.

He is the opposite of those guys that use one-word responses to your questions. He goes all-in for any answer he gives.

28. He gets jealous

Look, jealously is a powerful emotion that is tough to control.

So if your man is catching feelings, you know that when you talk to another guy or even talk about another guy, he’s going to get angry. Ain’t no doubt about it.

In fact, jealously often motivates a guy that is catching feelings to take action. So if you can make him jealous, it may just be the catalyst you need to enter into an official relationship!

29. He is honest about his feelings with you

Does he tell you how much you mean to him? Has he told you that he wants to be in a serious relationship?

Look, it takes a lot of guts for a man to admit how he is feeling, so if he is telling you that he has strong feelings for you, then you’d better believe him.

Men don’t often tell a woman they love them unless they actually mean it. So you can be sure that he is falling for you if he is telling you how he feels about you.

However, don’t be too disheartened if he doesn’t tell you he has feelings for you. Why? Because not all men are honest with their feelings, and that’s completely normal.

It doesn’t mean he isn’t falling for you, but it just means that he needs to feel a little more comfortable to express how he truly feels.

If he is the kind of guy that isn’t forthcoming with his feelings, he will express his love in other ways.

This could be flowers for no reason, or leaving a little mint on your pillow for when you wake up in the morning, or always making sure he has your favorite drink ready for when you’re willing to come over.

Even if he finds it hard to admit how he is feeling about you, he’s showing it all the time by these little recurring signals.


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Lachlan Brown

Written by Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook.

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