12 definite signs he is desperate to get married

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In a relationship, it’s usually the woman who’s obsessed with the idea of settling down and getting married, while it’s the man who needs the time to figure out whether he’s finally ready for it or not.

But there are times when it’s the reverse: where it’s the man who’s clearly desperate to finally find a wife and start building a family.

While this may not be common, it certainly does happen in some cases, and it can change the way a man acts around you in the dating stage.

How do you know he’s really being his honest self, if he’s just trying to trick you into believing he’s the perfect husband instead of actually being himself?

Here are 12 signs that a man is desperate to get married:

1) He Does Everything You Say

You’ve never been in a relationship with a man who was so agreeable, have you?

No matter what you want, he’ll do what you say.

Restaurant choices are based on what you want to eat; travel choices are based on where you want to go; and even what you watch on Netflix on the couch at night depends on you.

He wants you to know that he is the ultimate partner, and he does that by showing he has no argument whatsoever.

He’ll support you no matter what you do or say, even if it means ignoring his own beliefs and values.

His most important identity right now is as your potential husband, nothing else.

2) He Skips Stages In a Relationship

There’s never been a rulebook when it comes to dating; you’re not supposed to do certain milestones at certain points in the lifespan of the relationship.

But you always kind of have a feeling when things are happening too soon.

And with this guy, it’s felt like that with every single relationship milestone you’ve had.

Simply put, it doesn’t feel like things are going along at their natural pace.

The relationship is being fast-forwarded, in a way, forced along the track at a faster speed than you’re used to.

But when you ask him about it, he won’t admit why he wants to meet your family so soon, or why he wants to move in together so soon, or why he’s willing to quit his job and find a new one closer to you so soon.

In your heart, you might still feel like you’re just dating, but according to the relationship milestones you’ve already experienced, it’s like you’re already engaged.

3) He Wants To Be BFFs With Your Family

If you’ve never been with a guy who so eagerly wants to meet your family, dating a man desperate to get married can be immediately jarring, particularly because he’ll want to become BFFs with every single member of your family as soon as possible.

He doesn’t fear your mom, dad, or brothers and sisters — he embraces them.

He’s at this stage in his life where he knows that the easiest way to convince you to marry him is to convince your family that he’s the best husband you can get.

He knows they’re an easy way into your heart, so he doesn’t beat around the bush; he tries to impress them almost as much (if not more so) as he does with you.

4) He Wants You To Dress More Conservatively

One of the downsides of dating a man who is so obviously desperate to get married is that they start “wifezoning” you.

Even if you two are still in the early stages of dating, he’ll want to try to mold you into the perfect wife in his head.

And one important quality of that perfect imaginary wife is that she dresses like a wife.

So if you ever hear him talk about how your outfits might be too sexy or are showing too much skin, that’s probably a sign that he wants you to look like a wife, dressing as a traditional wife or mom would dress.

5) All His Friends Are Married Couples

Nothing will get the wedding bells in his head going more than seeing every single one of his closest friends tie the knot.

After being part of so many bachelor parties, it’s no doubt that he’s started wondering, “When am I going to have mine?”

And seeing his friends in marriage might have been the final push he needed to see that the married life isn’t so bad.

All he needs now is the right person to do it with.

If you start going on “couples dates” with him and his married couple friends, it might just be a ploy for all of them to convince you that it’s time to settle down with him as well.

6) He’s Always Talking About “The Rest of His Life”

In almost every conversation you have with him these days, he can’t stop talking about “the rest of his life”, or some variation of that same idea.

He loves planning out what he’ll be doing or where he’ll be 5, 10, 20 years in the future.

He talks about his kids as if they already exist, the big house with the backyard as if it’s already been bought.

His future is clear as day to him, and he slips these into conversations with you because he wants that same future to be clear as day to you as well.

A potential future that is so obviously amazingly, you’d have to be stupid to reject it.

7) He Wants to be Your Hero

If this guy is desperate to get married to you, then you can bet your bottom dollar his instinct to protect and defend you have been triggered.

You see, for guys, it’s all about triggering their inner hero.

I learned about this from the hero instinct. Coined by relationship expert James Bauer, this fascinating concept is about what really drives men in relationships, which is ingrained in their DNA.

And it’s something most women don’t know anything about.

Once triggered, these drivers make men into the heroes of their own lives. They feel better, love harder, and commit stronger when they find someone who knows how to trigger it.

Now, you may be wondering why it’s called “the hero instinct”? Do guys really need to feel like superheroes to commit to a woman?

Not at all. Forget about Marvel. You won’t need to play the damsel in distress or buy your man a cape.

The easiest thing to do is to check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here. He shares some easy tips to get you started, such as sending him a 12 word text that will trigger his hero instinct right away.

Because that’s the beauty of the hero instinct.

It’s only a matter of knowing the right things to say to make him realize that he wants you and only you. 

Click here to watch the free video.

8) He Forgives Everything

A man desperate to get married is a man who can feel his age catching up to him.

He knows he doesn’t have the years in the tank to keep jumping from one girl to another; if he wants to build a family and a home with someone, he’s got to do it now.

And that means he’s going to do everything he can to keep his current relationship going, even if that means being much more forgiving than he should be.

So it doesn’t matter what you might do to him — chat with other “guy friends”, fight with him about his hobbies, or talk trash about him to your friends — he’ll still find a way to forgive you.

While this isn’t something you should take advantage of, it’s also something you need to think about.

Do you really want to be with a man who would compromise on his own values just so that he can get married? Is it really you he wants, or just a wedding?

9) He’s Planning His Life Around You

You’ve been on a few dates and you’ve had fun together, but it’s not anything more than that (at least for now).

So why does it seem like he’s already planning the rest of his life around the idea that he has to include you in it?

Nothing is a bigger sign of marriage desperation than that.

Maybe you want to live in another state or country; he’ll start talking about how he can move his career to that same area, and how there are several great companies he can join.

Maybe you don’t want kids and he does, or vice versa; he’ll start leaning towards your preference, and then say that he might be able to convince you otherwise in the future when you’re more “stable” together.

He no longer sees himself as just him. In his mind, it’s you and him, now and forever.

10) He Doesn’t Care About Staying Safe In Bed Anymore

Most couples are careful about getting pregnant.

The last thing you want is an unexpected, unplanned “accident” pregnancy.

But he’s more than happy to be completely wild with you in bed, with zero protection.

He’ll say it’s just because he wants to have the best sex with you possible, but you know in the back of your mind that it wouldn’t really bother him if you ended up pregnant.

He’s more than happy to baby-trap you into a marriage.

11) He’s Been Engaged In the Past

If you’re still unsure whether or not your man is marriage-hungry, ask yourself — has he been engaged in the past, or has he been in an extremely long-term relationship in the past?

If the answer is yes to either question, then he’s probably been hearing wedding bells in his head for years.

He’s already accepted the fact that he wants to get married, and he proved that with his previous relationship.

For one reason or another that relationship didn’t work out, but that doesn’t mean his desire to get married suddenly went away; now he’s just looking to put the ring on the right woman’s finger this time.

The right woman being you.

12) He’s Pushy About Getting Answers From You

It’s fine to ask questions and have normal conversations in a relationship; that’s to be expected.

But when it gets to the point that you start to feel like every conversation revolves around the same general theme — what are your plans for the future? — then it starts feeling a little off.

You can tell that a guy is desperate to get married if he wants to get your “soft Yes” almost from day one.

He’ll be locking you into soft commitments, talking about where you’ll spend your next summer and winter vacation together, about how you would feel about moving in with him, about all the decisions you make in life.

He wants to feel that you’re as committed as he is, even if the relationship is way too early to be at that stage.

Now if you’re feeling that your man actually isn’t desperate to get married, but you want him to get more desperate to commit to you over the long haul.

So the key here is getting through to your man in a way that empowers both him and you. 

I mentioned the concept of the hero instinct earlier by appealing directly to his primal instincts, you won’t only solve this issue, but you’ll take your relationship further than ever before.

And since this free video reveals exactly how to trigger your man’s hero instinct, you could make this change from as early as today. 

With James Bauer’s incredible concept, he’ll see you as the only woman for him. So if you’re ready to take that plunge,be sure to check out the video now. 

Here’s a link to his excellent free video again. 


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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. Check out my latest book on the Hidden Secrets of Buddhism and How it Saved My Life. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

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