13 undeniable signs you are going from best friend to lover

You may have that one friend that you love spending time with more than anyone else.

You connect better than others, and you understand each other in a deeper way.

For so long you’ve told yourself that you were “just friends” — until recently.

You’ve started feeling something different.

You notice your heart beats faster when you learn you’re going to see them.

Could this be love? It could very well be.

It’s important to be careful here.

Friendships have crumbled when one doesn’t reciprocate the feelings of another.

So it’s important to first find out if the feelings are actually mutual before you make any more moves.

To do that, here are  signs you can look out for.

1. You’re Each Other’s Go-to

Something juicy happened at the office today and the second you get home, the first person you message is your best friend.

That then starts a whole night-long conversation about what happened at work and how their day was.

You didn’t even think about it, you just picked up your phone and started messaging them like it was a reflex.

And when they need to let off some steam, maybe something happened in their day frustrated them and they just need someone to listen to their rant, you’re the first person they hit up to talk about it.

There have been multiple times when you’ve each sent each other silly memes out of nowhere throughout the day.

2. Your Jokes Have Slowly Become More Flirty

You knew you were close when you could casually roast or tease each other.

They’ve hit you with some good ones and you’ve retaliated with yours.

But over time, the topic of you being together started slipping into your jokes.

Maybe you both spot a couple doing romantic things together in public, then you start making fun of them by copying them: holding hands, looking each other in the eye in a sweet way, cuddling – all as a joke, of course.

It might have even turned into a running gag with the two of you.

While you could see it as just joking around with your friend, others might see it as attempts to flirt with one another without actually flirting with one another.

3. You Go Out of the Way for Each Other

They got stuck in a jam: they might have left their charger at home but they need to charge their laptop for a big presentation coming up.

Even though you work a little far away from each other, you wouldn’t think twice to drop what you’re doing and get to them as fast as you can to lend them your charger.

Likewise, if you need to get home, they’re willing to drive you, even if where you live is far from them.

They don’t mind literally going out of their way for you just like how you don’t mind doing the same for them.

These actions show how much you truly value each other.

If you still doubt that, ask yourself honestly: Would you go out of your way for another one of your friends?

4. He feels like your hero

Even if you guys are just friends now, do you make him feel needed? Do you let him step up to the plate for you? Do you let him provide for and protect you (even in little ways)?

Then chances are he is going to like you a lot.

There’s a fascinating new concept in relationship psychology doing the rounds which claims that men are much more likely to fall love with women who make them feel like a hero.

People are calling it the ‘hero instinct‘.

The simple truth is that men have a biological urge to provide for and protect women. It’s hardwired into them.

By making your guy feel like a hero, it unleashes his protective instincts and the most noble aspect of his masculinity. Most importantly, it will unleash his deepest feelings of attraction.

And the kicker?

A man won’t fall for a woman when this thirst isn’t satisfied.

I know it sounds kind of silly. In this day and age, women don’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives.

But here’s the ironic truth. Men do still need to be a hero. Because it’s built into their DNA to seek out relationships that allow them to feel like a protector.

The hero instinct is a legitimate concept in relationship psychology that I personally believe has a lot of truth to it.

And there’s an art to making a man feel like a hero.

To learn exactly what to do, watch this simple and genuine video now. You’ll learn the simple things you can do today to trigger this very natural male instinct.

5. People Mention You Two Being Together

You might be in the same friend group.

Since others see that you clearly have more chemistry than with other people in the group, they may have started pairing you together.

They mention how cute you would both be if you got together.

It might not even be your friends but your family too; your parents might have even assumed that you’re already a couple since you two are so close already.

Maybe before you didn’t even consider it; your initial reaction might have been in disbelief or disgust. “I don’t see it”, you say… until the jokes keep going.

You slowly begin to buy into the joke, and your best friend plays more and more along with it too.

6. You’re Alone Together Often

Ask yourself: Who would you say is the person you spend most of your time with?

If it’s them, that could mean something.

When you check your chat history, you see that they’re the person you most often talk to.

When you’re hanging out with your other friends, you’re always the one pairing up together.

Maybe you both even planned to go out to visit a cool new exhibit together, as a friendly outing, since you both share the same love for modern art.

7. You Have Special Names for Each Other

You call other people by their usual nicknames, but not your best friend.

Instead, you might each have special names for each other.

It’s an inside joke between the two of you, so the only people that understand it is you. This becomes a special bond between the two of you.

Special nicknames like this tend to be something couples usually do.

They start speaking their own language, making references to things that others simply won’t understand.

8. Your Body Languages Say It

When you’re with other people, you wouldn’t say you’re a touchy kind of person.

Sure, there’s the usual hug for greeting your friends, but besides that you mostly keep your hands to yourself.

But when you’re with your best friend, suddenly you’re tickling each other and hugging a little longer. You put your arm around them when you’re sided by side.

When you say something funny, they reach out to hold your arm.

You often slap each other’s arms in a friendly way too.

This could be read as you both wanting to be even closer together.

9. You Can Talk for Hours

There’s no one else you’d say that you talk to than your best friend.

It’s almost as if you’re always on your phone, talking about just about anything and everything.

When you’re out in public, people might start glancing at you since you could both be noisy, even laughing out loud; people have told you both to keep it down more than once.

10. You’re Too Conscious About Your Appearances

When you’re out with your other friends, you don’t mind if you’re dressed more casually than usual.

Your hair might be a mess and your attire looks like you’re ready to spend the entire day on the couch binging a new series.

But when you learn your best friend is coming to see you, suddenly you become more conscious about the way you look.

You get the need to fix your hair and put on perfume or cologne.

You might just pass it off as wanting to fix yourself a little, but in reality, it might be because you don’t want your best friend seeing you so disheveled.

11. You Trust Each Other More Than Others

Among your group of friends, you’re the most comfortable sharing your secrets with them. You’re also the person they tell their secrets to.

When one of you is going through something difficult and personal, you seek their advice and guidance.

13They’re the only ones you’re comfortable with knowing about your personal situations.

This shows that they truly are much more special than anyone else you’ve met.

You don’t just share personal details to just anyone.

You need someone you can genuinely trust. This trust could blossom into something bigger in the future.

12. You Talk About Future Plans Together

You’ve both talked about your personal goals.

What could be odd is that you both share the same dreams.

You both want to move abroad.

You both might even say that you’d like to marry someone that loves dogs (a possible subtle implication that you’re talking about each other).

You have even made plans to go to a specific event together.

Friends that plan together tend to take their relationship more seriously than most.

13. You Feel Jealous of Each Other Sometimes

They might have gotten two tickets to a concert.

You didn’t even ask about it, because you already assumed since you’re already so close, that they would invite you to join them.

But then they tell you they chose to invite someone else.

This could feel like a complete betrayal.

If you feel betrayed, try to pay attention to your feelings.

Why do you feel that way?

And do you feel jealous about the person they’re going with?

Since you claimed that you were both just friends, it would be odd to feel jealous in this situation.

They can go with anyone they want – but did you want it to be you?

How to turn his feelings into a relationship

Now you’ve read the signs and know with confidence that he really does have feelings for you…what next? Where to from here?

You could sit around and hope that he plucks up the courage one day to ask you out and make something of the feelings.

But, let’s be honest you might be waiting around for a while. Possibly indefinitely. Some guys just aren’t good at this kind of thing.

Another option is to take matters into your own hands and get the ball rolling.

All you need to do is trigger his hero instinct, and he will be on your doorstep ready for that first date.

Sound too good to be true?

Of course, it does, because the hero instinct is one of the best-kept secrets of the relationship world.

In relationship expert James Bauer’s excellent new video, he reveals everything you need to know about this new concept, and how you can use it to change your relationship life.

Men want to be your hero. Not with the capes and villains, but he does want to step up to the plate for the woman in his life and earn her respect in return.

Click here to watch this simple and genuine video.

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. Check out my latest book on the Hidden Secrets of Buddhism and How it Saved My Life. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

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