Romance can be a bit of a gray area.
It’s difficult to distinguish friendliness from flirtiness, especially if you’re talking about a completely amicable girl.
Not everyone will show their cards right away, and there might be a good reason why she’s hiding her feelings from you.
Maybe she’s uncertain about your feelings for her.
Maybe you’re good friends and she doesn’t want to make things weird.
Maybe she’s in a relationship and doesn’t want to stir the boat.
For whatever reason, she’s hiding her attraction and trying to pretend like she doesn’t like you at all.
Luckily, there could be hidden signs that she may not even know she’s doing that could reveal her true feelings for you:
1. She Makes Sure You Know She’s Available
Asking about your relationship status might be forward for her, but she still has to figure out a way to let you know she’s single, right?
If a girl is interested in you romantically, she’ll try to drop subtle cues about her relationship status.
She’ll want to clarify that she’s open to seeing people by either talking about dating and her most recent exploits or complaining about the people she’s seeing; the latter being her way of telling you that, despite the attention she’s getting, she still has her sights somewhere.
2. She’s Curious About The Girls Around You
Her curiosity about your social life is probably inspired by something deeper than general wonderment.
A girl who’s interested in you will try to figure out if you’re currently seeing someone else.
If she sees you hovering around gal pals, that’s likely going to pique her curiosity, prompting her to ask about them.
Subtle questions like “how long have you two been dating?” or suggestive phrases like “you guys look good together!” are just some ways a girl could try to get an understanding of the nature of your relationship with other people.
3. She Grooms Herself Around You
People tend to adjust themselves around people they find attractive.
Guys might sit up a little straighter and smooth their hair.
Girls pretty much do the same thing when they’re talking to someone they find particularly interesting.
Keep an eye out for gestures like straightening her clothes or fixing her hair.
She might not even be conscious that she’s grooming herself for you so it could be a telling sign that she finds you attractive, at the very least.
4. She Wants To Make Your Birthday Special
It doesn’t matter if you’re longtime friends or acquaintances, she’ll probably be as excited about your birthday as if you were her very best friend.
Because she likes you, she’ll want to show you that she cares about you, and doing something on your birthday is the perfect excuse for that.
On top of remembering your actual birth date, she might send a gift or do something nice.
Regardless of how big or small the gesture is, the fact that she’s even thinking about doing anything at all speaks volumes about what she feels about you.
5. She Secretly Stares At You
Do you ever feel like you’re being watched?
Your eyes scan the room and you’ll almost always see her locking eyes with you.
In an instant, you see her breaking away, acting a little embarrassed to be caught, probably because she didn’t count on you catching her.
If she’s stealing glances from you, and more than just the quick looks either, then she’s probably interested in you.
6. She Gives You Her Full Attention
She could be on her laptop working or reading a book, but that doesn’t seem to matter when you’re around.
In an age where people are easily distracted by the wind, this girl actually pays attention to you when you talk.
She listens attentively and even puts away any distractions that may get in the way of you talking.
She doesn’t just listen to you; it’s clear she values what you have to say by giving you the time of day when you spend time together.
7. She Texts You Out Of Nowhere
Does it ever feel like she’s talking to you for the sake of talking? Like she’s reaching out to you for the most trivial things?
A girl who’s interested in you will try to stay in touch even when there’s nothing to talk about.
She’ll ask you about the most random things — from advice for stuff she probably knows how to deal with best herself to just asking how you’ve been doing.
At the end of the day, it’s less about what you’re talking about and more just about the fact that you’re talking at all.
She wants to be around you, and texting kind of replicates some of those being-together-in-person feel-good chemicals.
8. She Flirts With Others While Keeping Her Eyes On You
She wants to see how you feel about her without asking you herself.
One of the ways she can do this is by flirting with other people within your vicinity and seeing how you react to them.
Have you ever felt like she was parading her dates in front of you?
Does she seem more playful with guys when you’re around?
If you’re sensing a pattern, it may be less about coincidence and more about deliberate patterns on her end.
She keeps a close watch on you because she wants to see if her being around other guys does something to you.
It’s not always malevolent; it doesn’t always mean that she wants you to be jealous.
At the very least, she wants to stoke some friendly competition and let you know that she’s definitely in the market.
9. She Draws You Into Long Conversations
There’s no such thing as quick chats.
One way or another, your conversations turn into longer, more extensive conversations.
Dropped in for a quick hi?
That will almost always turn into some more thorough discussion.
She might not even notice it herself but it could be her way of spending more time with you.
She draws out the conversation, consciously or not, because she enjoys having you in her presence.
Some women might just be naturally curious and inquisitive, but if you find that this particular girl has a habit of drawing out conversations, even the most trivial ones, then it’s likely that she feels some type of way around you.
10. She Asks Around About You
A person who’s playing it cool will likely never ask you upfront about your relationship.
That’s not to say they won’t go behind your back to figure things out.
She’ll ask through friends and family to get a better picture of who you’re seeing or talking to, and if you’re even open to dating at all.
When talking to mutual friends, she just seems just a little bit more interested in you compared to your other friends.
11. You Almost Always See Her Smiling
Try to think about this girl’s face: what do you see?
If you see her smiling at you in your thoughts, then it’s probably because she’s almost always smiling when you look at her.
On one hand, it could be that she’s just someone who likes to smile.
But on the other hand, no one smiles that much, and she’s only smiling because you’re in the same room as her, or because she notices that you’re looking her way.
12. She’s Always Around At Social Events You Go To
At a party? She’s there. Volunteering for something? She’s there. Doing some kind of extracurricular class? She’s there.
Depending on how much she likes you, she knows a certain amount about what you’re doing and what you’re up to, and she’s trying her best to build up the level of interactions she has with you.
She wants you to start feeling her presence everywhere, and maybe then you’ll realize: “I think I like her.”
13. She Talks To You About Her Day
It might just seem like a normal friend thing to do — randomly messaging someone at the end of the day and then telling them about the little things that happened to you that day.
She could just be treating you like every other friend.
But think about it: does she do this with anyone else (or any other guy)?
Does she do it consistently with you?
And are there times when she stops talking to you, maybe when you’ve been interacting with another girl?
14. She Notices Differences In Your Appearance
No matter how small the change in your appearance, she is almost always the first to notice it and point it out, when she gets the chance.
If you had a haircut, she’ll know; if you buy new shoes, she’ll know.
And she’s not trying to be creepy on purpose.
She’s just excited to get the chance to talk to you again, and she’ll recognize these tiny differences simply because she’s observed you so much.
15. She walks like a model around you
If she stands taller, pulls her stomach and her shoulders back when she’s around you, then you can bet your bottom dollar that she’s interested you.
Because subconsciously she wants to impress you.
And even if she is trying to hide that she likes you, she won’t be able to control her body language around you.
Check out her posture when she walks past you, or away from you. If she knows you’re looking, she’ll automatically change her posture like she’s on the catwalk.
Other subconscious physical signs include licking her lips, pushing her neck out or touching her neck.
Because she wants to accentuate her body or face.
She may also run her hand through her hair.
16. Her feet are always pointing towards you
If someone is trying to hide that they like you, they can easily control what they say and how close to you they get.
But you know what they won’t think about controlling?
And according to psychologists, the position of your feet is one of the best nonverbal cues to know if someone likes you.
Here’s what to look for:
– If her feet are pointing towards you, that’s a sign she likes you.
– If her feet are pointing away from you, then she may not be interested.
– If her feet are under her when she is sitting or her legs tighly crossed, she may be nervous or uncomfortable around you.
– If she sits with her feet away from her body, then she may be relaxed when she is around you.
17. Her body faces you
In the same vein, body orientation will show you if she likes you or not.
Turning her body towards you and giving her full presence is obviously a great sign that she likes you.
But if she is trying to hide it, then she may not position her whole body towards you.
However, she won’t be able to control her whole body not facing. If she likes you, then some part of her body will undoubtedly face you.
If she talks to you without at all moving her body towards you then that may not be a good sign.
18. She doesn’t mind when it when you touch her
How a woman reacts to you touching them is an excellent indicator of whether she likes you or not.
I don’t mean heavy or inappropriate touching.
What I’m referring to are casual touches on the arm or shoulder. If she doesn’t pull away and seems comfortable, then it probably shows that she likes you.
But if she seems uncomfortable and tries to get as far away from as she can, then it’s probably not a good sign.
It also reveals a lot if she feels comfortable touching you.
According to behavior analyst Jack Schafer, “women may lightly touch the arm of the person they are talking to.
This light touch is not an invitation to a sexual encounter; it merely indicates she likes you.”
Another indicator that she likes you is if she starts preening you. This means picking lint off your clothes or fixing a piece of your clothing that’s crooked.
19. She blushes when she’s around you
This is a huge indicator that she likes you but might be hiding it.
Because you can’t control blushing! It’s a spontaneous reaction from embarrassment or an unexpected compliment.
So if you find that she blushes when you talk to her, then it’s a good sign she likes you.
However, you’ll want to make sure she doesn’t easily blush around other people as well.
20. Her pupils dilate
This will be a little more difficult to see, but dilated pupils are a sign of attraction.
You’re going to need to close to her eyes to see if they’re actually dilated. And you’ll also need to get a baseline of what is normal dilation for her.
But if you can figure out that her pupils are even slightly dilated when she is talking to you, then that’s an excellent sign that she likes you (even if she is trying to hide it).
21. She mirrors you
This is a big sign that she likes you.
If you find that she copies your mannerisms and movements, then there’s a good chance she likes you, or at least there is significant rapport between the two of you.
It’s actually something we do naturally when we like someone. Our energy levels and body language start to match up.
For example, if you’re a slow talker and she starts to talk slow, then that’s a great sign that there is the rapport between the two of you.
She may also copy the words and slang you use.
If she begins to use the same language that you use, and she didn’t when she first met you, then she probably likes you.
22. She tilts her head
Does she lean in when she talks to you?
If so, it’s a great sign that she is interested in what you are saying and she probably likes you.
If she’s trying to hide that likes you, she may try to pretend like she isn’t interested, but she likely won’t consciously control tilting her head.
She’ll be too naturally interested in what you have to say.
This is why her body language will reveal a lot because she won’t be in conscious control of what her body is doing.
23. She caresses an object in her hands
This is a huge sign that a woman is into you.
Look at how she holds an object when she is looking at you. Is she caressing it gently?
Stroking it while looking at you directly? If so, that’s a tremendous subconscious sign that she’s picking up what you’re putting down.
If she holds an object tightly and gives you fleeting eye contact, then that’s not really a sign of anything.
But holding eye contact while caressing an object in her hands is an excellent sign that she likes you.
24. She responds to your body language
The other side to the coin is how she responds to your own body language.
While most guys focus on what they’re saying to a girl, few pay enough attention to their body language.
And this is a big mistake.
Because women are highly tuned into the signals a man’s body is giving off. And if your body language is giving off the right signals, she’ll more likely than not respond with an emphatic ‘yes’ to you.
Let’s face it: Being good-looking and in shape can be helpful when it comes to women.
However, much more important is the signals you convey to them. Because it doesn’t matter what you look like or how wealthy you are…
…if you’re short, fat, bald, or stupid.
Any man can learn some simple body language techniques that force women to see you as more than a friend.
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25. She’s nervous around you for no reason
Obviously, she could be nervous for a reason you aren’t aware of, too, but if she seems to be nervous around you for no reason in a giddy, excited kind of way then you might be on more than just her friend radar.
What used to be a relaxing day at the park has become her laughing awkwardly and catching her breath when you turn to look at her.
She giggles nervously and touches your arm when you make a joke in a way that a girl would who has romantic feelings.
These are big signs. She wouldn’t be nervous around you if you were just a friend.
Also, she may think that she’s hiding that she likes you, but the truth is, you can’t control nerves. If she likes, she’ll be naturally nervous because she has feelings for you and wants to impress you.
26. She butters you up
If she’s hitting you with thoughtful compliments left and right you could be ready to hop aboard Steampship Sexytime. Or she could be just a good friend who wants to boost you up.
How to tell the difference?
If she’s complimenting you on your appearance and everyday actions you do for her then she’s indicating clear romantic interest.
If she just uses the “atta boy” tone it’s a friend compliment.
I’ll trust you to be able to tell the difference.
27. She showers you with flirtatious attention, then withdraws
In other words, she plays hot and cold, going after you hard one day with all sorts of flirtatious behavior and then pulling back cooly and acting like just a casual friend the next day.
You start to think you did something wrong or p*ssed her off.
But no, you’re just along for the rollicking ride on the Love Loop rollercoaster.
What should you do?
Be interested, but stay cool. Don’t be an overeager Evan (no offense to any Evans in the crowd) and jump at any romantic attention she gives you, as that will lower your value in her eyes.
The best thing you can do is to pull away a bit yourself.
It’s a psychological fact that when we fear we’re going to lose something, we want it 10x more.
This is where “nice guys” get it so wrong. Women have no “fear of loss” with a nice guy… and that makes them pretty unattractive.
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Putting yourself first
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