7 signs a woman really dislikes you but hides it well

Navigating women’s emotions can feel like tiptoeing through a minefield—especially when some women hide their true feelings well.

Spotting the difference between genuine friendliness and mere tolerance isn’t always easy. But there are subtle signs that reveal her true feelings.

In this article, we’ll unravel seven signs a woman really dislikes you but conceals it well.

So, if you’ve ever had that nagging feeling that something is off, this is for you.

With years of relationship counseling experience, I’ve developed an eye for these hidden signs. Let’s dive in and decode the mystery together.

1) Avoids engaging in deep conversation

We all understand the importance of communication in any relationship, whether it’s with friends or romantically involved.

However, if a woman consistently avoids engaging in meaningful conversations with you, it might indicate she doesn’t enjoy your company as much as you’d hope.

She may respond to your messages and even laugh at your jokes, but if her replies lack depth and substance, it’s worth noting. This lack of engagement could imply she isn’t interested in developing a deeper connection with you.

But it’s essential not to jump to conclusions. Instead, observe and interpret the subtle cues that could reveal her true feelings. Stay attentive, as these signs can easily go unnoticed.

2) She’s overly polite

Now, this might seem counterintuitive at first glance. After all, isn’t politeness a good thing?

Well, not always.

Excessive politeness can sometimes be a shield used to keep people at arm’s length.

If a woman is overly polite with you – always maintaining a formal tone, never crossing the lines of casual banter or shared jokes – she might be subtly signaling her desire to keep the relationship superficial.

She might be punctual in replying to your messages, always say the right things, and never forget to send you holiday wishes.

But if her interactions lack the warmth and comfort of a genuine connection, it’s probably because she doesn’t want one.

3) She’s always busy

We’ve all had those days where 24 hours just don’t seem enough, haven’t we?

But if you find that the woman you’re interested in is perpetually occupied, it’s time to take note.

If every time you try to plan something, she’s always too busy, it could be a sign she’s trying to create distance.

Now, don’t get me wrong. It’s crucial to respect her space and not push her boundaries.

But if it becomes a pattern, it might be more than just a coincidental clash of schedules.

And here’s something I’ve personally observed through my journey as a relationship counselor – people make time for the ones they truly care about. If she wanted to connect with you, she’d find a way.

In fact, I discuss this in more detail in my book Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship. The book offers insights into how we can break free from cycles of unhealthy attachment and codependency.

But for this conversation, the takeaway is this – if she’s always too busy, it might be her way of subtly signaling that she’s not that into you.

4) She doesn’t remember details

I’ve always believed that when someone is truly interested in you, they remember the little things. The name of your childhood pet, your favorite ice cream flavor, the book you can’t stop raving about – these bits and pieces of your life matter to them.

However, if a woman consistently forgets these details you’ve shared, it could be a sign that she’s not as invested in the relationship as you’d like her to be.

It reminds me of a quote by Maya Angelou that I often share with my clients – “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

Now apply this to our current context. If she frequently forgets the little things about you, it may be that she’s not emotionally connected or doesn’t value the relationship enough to make an effort.

5) She never initiates contact

In my years of relationship coaching, I’ve discovered that one of the clearest indicators of someone’s interest level is who initiates contact.

If you’re consistently the one reaching out, making plans, or starting conversations, while she rarely reciprocates, it could raise a major red flag.

Now, I get it—everyone has different communication styles. Some people are naturally more passive. But in a healthy relationship or friendship, there should be a balance.

If you notice she never initiates contact, it could suggest that her interest in maintaining a connection with you isn’t as strong as yours. It might be her subtle way of expressing dislike or indifference towards you.  

6) She never includes you in her future plans

One of the most heartening things in a relationship is when someone includes you in their future. It’s a clear indication that they see you as an important part of their life moving forward.

However, if a woman never talks about her future plans with you in mind, it might be a sign that she doesn’t see you as part of her long-term picture. You may notice she talks about future vacations, career moves, or personal goals, but your name rarely comes up in these conversations.

As Oprah Winfrey once said, “You don’t become what you want, you become what you believe.”

If she doesn’t believe in a future with you, it’s likely because she doesn’t want one.

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7) You just don’t feel it

Sometimes, despite all the signs and signals, the most telling indicator is your own gut feeling.

If something inside you is whispering (or maybe even shouting) that she just isn’t into you, don’t ignore it. We often try to rationalize these feelings, push them aside, or convince ourselves that we’re just being paranoid.

But our intuition has a way of picking up on subtle cues that our conscious mind may miss.

If you constantly feel undervalued, ignored, or uncomfortable around her, it’s time to face reality. 

Acknowledging the truth is the first step towards finding someone who truly cherishes you for who you are.  

Embracing the journey

Navigating relationships is no easy feat. But understanding is the first step towards healing.

So keep in mind that the signs we’ve discussed in this article are not definitive or exhaustive. They’re just potential indicators that a woman may not be as into you as you’d like her to be.

Every individual is unique, and so are their ways of expressing their feelings.

To echo Justin Brown’s insightful words from his video on finding a compatible partner, “understanding the importance of shared values to the significance of growth and mutual support in a relationship” could be key in navigating these complex terrains.

This video explores the complexities of finding a life partner, reflecting on personal experiences and the lessons learned. It’s filled with valuable insights that I believe could prove beneficial to our discussion.

Remember, it’s okay to feel confused or hurt. These feelings are part of the journey towards finding someone who truly appreciates you for who you are.

And trust me, they’re out there. So keep your chin up, embrace the journey with an open heart, and remember – you are worth it.

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Tina Fey

I'm Tina Fey, the founder of the blog Love Connection. I've extremely passionate about sharing relationship advice. I've studied psychology and have my Masters in marital, family, and relationship counseling. I hope with all my heart to help you improve your relationships, and I hope that even if one thing I write helps you, it means more to me than just about anything else in the world. Check out my blog Love Connection, and if you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter

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