8 signs a woman is highly attracted to you, according to psychology

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How do you know if someone is attracted to you?

It’s not always easy. After all, this isn’t the movies.

You don’t have a soundtrack to tell you how people are feeling.

And for lots of reasons, women, especially, can go to great lengths to hide any attraction they may have.

After all, women are under a lot of societal pressure to not be aggressive when it comes to what they want.

No woman wants to seem like she’s easy or desperate.

Plus, there’s the sad fact that admitting attraction to a man can be potentially dangerous for women.

For all these reasons, women are often much more subtle than men when it comes to showing they are attracted to someone.

So subtle, in fact, that many men completely miss the signs of a woman’s attraction to them.

But when you know what to look for, a woman can give away her attraction to you.

Keep an eye out for these signs of a woman who is interested in being more than just friends.

1) She makes eye contact

This one is tricky, because it can be extremely subtle.

But there’s no denying that eye contact is an important sign of a woman who is attracted to you.

Here’s the thing: we all make eye contact with others, or should do, especially when we’re talking to them.

After all, it’s only polite, and a good way to show someone you are listening.

But that’s different from the eye contact a woman makes with someone she is attracted to.

“Correct and impressive eye contact can make communication more attractive and impressive, as well as establish a strong bond with the other person,” writes psychologist Mart Seker for marriage.com.

And we all know this instinctively, even if we don’t realize it on an intellectual level.

That means a woman who is attracted to you will make eye contact with you more than she does with other people.

She will hold that contact longer, and may make eye contact with you even when she’s talking to other people.

An even more subtle but powerful sign is if her pupils dilate when she looks at you.

Because this is an involuntary physical response, there’s no way to hide or control it.

Of course, to notice that, you’re going to have to be maintaining some pretty intense eye contact with her in the first place.

2) She smiles

It makes sense that we smile at people we are attracted to. After all, we want them to like us, and everyone looks better with a smile.

However, it’s important not to read too much into it when a woman smiles at you. After all, a study from the National Science Foundation found that women smile, on average, more than men do.

For women, a smile can often be a way to put other people at ease or keep themselves from seeming grumpy or unfriendly.

Men, as a general rule, worry a lot less about that, and are more concerned with seeming authoritative and strong.

On the other hand, it’s certainly true that women smile more at people they are attracted to, and people they want to be attracted to them.

So if you’re wondering if a woman is attracted to you, keep an eye on how she smiles, and when, and at who.

Because if she smiles at you more than she does other people, it’s a good sign she’s interested.

3) She mirrors your behavior

This is another subtle sign of a woman who is attracted to you.

But often when it comes to body language, the subtle signs of the most powerful in letting you know how a person really feels.

Mirroring simply means copying the behavior of another person.

And often, this process is totally unconscious.

When a woman is attracted to someone, she may find herself mirroring the way they stand, the way they sit, or even the way they talk.

“Repeating the words or phrases of your partner can enhance other techniques for making conversation more attractive and help highlight topics that create various romantic feelings as well,” writes psychologist Jeremy Nicholson. “Copy your partner’s gestures on occasion. Repeat a word or phrase now and again. You may find it makes them like you more, increases their comfort around you, and improves your romance, too,” he adds.

4) She touches you

This is often a more obvious sign of someone who is interested in you.

Then again, you still need to be careful, as some people are simply more touchy-feely than others.

We want to be close to the people we are attracted to. We want to touch them.

After all, that just makes sense.

So if a woman is attracted to you, you may notice that she takes any opportunity to touch you and be physically close to you.

Maybe she places her hand on your arm, or on your leg when you’re sitting beside her.

Maybe she touches your shoulder or your back when greeting you.

Both men and women do this, but with women, the touches tend to be lighter and more subtle.

Also, men and women both tend to touch different areas of each other’s body to show their attraction.

“Women may lightly touch the arm of the person they’re talking to,” says behavior analyst Jack Schafer.

But as with many of these signs of attraction, it’s important not to read too much into it.

Only if it’s combined with other behaviors on this list is it possible it’s a sign of attraction.

5) She teases you

In some ways, it might seem counterintuitive that we are more mean to the people we like than we are to those we don’t.

But I’m not really talking about being mean. Instead, I’m talking about fun, playful teasing that is designed to create a bond between two people.

Think about how you talk to your best friend compared to how you talk to your boss, or a cop who pulls you over to give you a speeding ticket, for example.

You’re much more likely to make fun of your friend. But that’s because the two of you are close.

Well, the same thing applies when you’re attracted to someone.

Playful teasing is a way for a woman to create an intimate bond with you while having some fun.

So if a woman playfully teases you, master the art of doing it right back to her and watch the attraction between you grow.

6) She is attentive

How does the woman you’re thinking of react to the things you say and do? Does she pay attention?

When a woman is attracted to someone, she will tend to be more attentive to the things they say.

She will listen more closely and remember facts she learns about the person who has caught her interest.

Author and public speaker Vanessa Van Edwards talks about ‘fronting’, which means to stand directly in front of someone and give them your undivided attention.

“When you front someone, you are signaling attraction and interest. It says, “I am here, and you are the center of my attention,” she writes.

7) She laughs at your jokes

A shared sense of humor is important in any potential relationship.

But it seems that when it comes to female attraction, it’s even more important to be able to crack a joke.

Check out this study, which demonstrated that the more times a man tries to be funny and the more times he can make a woman laugh, the more likely she is to be attracted to him.

Interestingly, the same thing didn’t work the other way, with a woman’s attempts at being funny making no significant difference on a man’s level of attraction to her.

The thing is, while it’s great to be funny, it’s also worth noting that if a woman is attracted to you, she will be more likely to laugh at your jokes – even if they aren’t all that funny.

So if a woman seems to find you hilarious, it’s a good indicator that she might find you attractive, too.

8) She adjusts her appearance

It’s cliché to say that men are visual creatures and that a woman’s appearance is the main thing that attracts them.

However, it happens to be true.

That’s part of why women, on average, tend to be more concerned about their appearance than men are.

And it’s why a woman who is attracted to a man will fuss over her appearance around him more than she does around other people.

If she makes frequent adjustments to her hair or clothing while you’re around, it indicates that she is more conscious of the way she looks because she’s trying to be attractive.

Body language expert Blanca Cobb points out that a woman playing with or twirling her hair can be a sign that she is attracted to you, especially if in doing so, she shows you the inside of her wrist.

Spotting attraction

It’s not always clear when a woman is attracted to you.

But there are some subtle psychological signs that can show she’s interested.

However, ultimately, you’ll never know for sure unless she comes right out and tells you.

So while it’s a good idea to look for these signs to have some idea where you stand, don’t assume she has the hots for you just because she laughs at a few of your jokes.


Isabella Chase

Isabella Chase, a New York City native, writes about the complexities of modern life and relationships. Her articles draw from her experiences navigating the vibrant and diverse social landscape of the city. Isabella’s insights are about finding harmony in the chaos and building strong, authentic connections in a fast-paced world.

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