13 signs a woman is deeply in love with you, according to psychology

You’ve been seeing your partner for a while, but she hasn’t said those three magic words yet.

Whenever she smiles at you, your heart skips a beat.

When you hang out, you see a twinkle in her eye.

Still, you’re not sure. And you want to be.

Here are 13 signs a woman is deeply in love with you, according to psychology.

While talk is cheap, her actions speak volumes.

1) She nudges you to open up

If a woman loves you deeply, she wants to know all of you.

Warts, fears, and insecurities included.

So much so that she’ll do everything she can to create a safe space for you to express yourself without fear of judgment.

According to psychology, emotional safety is key to a healthy and happy relationship.

As long as your girlfriend provides you with that, you’re golden.

2) She remembers small things about you

Not only does she encourage you to open up, but a woman who loves you deeply will actively listen to you whenever you do.

She’ll approach your conversations with empathy and commit the information you share to memory.

As a result, she’ll remember small details you shared at the drop of a hat, unprompted.

Even details you don’t remember telling her about.

It’s proof that she pays attention.

3) She shares her vulnerabilities

I’m not what people would call an open book.

Vulnerability doesn’t come naturally to me. I’ve been hurt before, so sharing what lurks in the deepest crevices of myself makes me feel exposed and uncomfortable.

However, I know that being vulnerable is crucial to building intimacy.

And when I fall in love, I want my partner to get to know the real me. Even the parts I usually keep hidden from the general population.

So I make an effort, and my truth begins to spill out in small bits here and there. The more I trust him, the more I let him in.

Women won’t reveal themselves completely all at once.

But once they’re smitten, you’ll hear about their insecurities, traumas, and occasional bouts of craziness.

That’s how you know.

4) She meets your needs

According to psychologist Zick Rubin, being in like with someone means enjoying their company.

Being in love, meanwhile, means caring about the other person’s needs as much as you care about your own.

When a woman is deeply in love with you, she becomes attuned to your needs and strives to fulfill them to the best of her ability.

This looks different for everyone, but it generally goes beyond mere gestures of affection:

• She makes an effort to understand your desires and preferences
• She celebrates your successes
• She provides comfort when required
• Or, she dispels tough love to motivate you not to give up
• She is reliable and trustworthy
• She is attentive to your emotional and physical well-being
• She strives to strengthen your bond

Sounds like anyone you know?

5) She respects your boundaries

A woman who loves you deeply won’t only try to meet your needs; she’ll also respect your boundaries.

She accepts you just as you are, even if she occasionally struggles to do so.

She respects your autonomy and individuality and doesn’t work overtime to change you into someone you’re not.

Consider yourself lucky.

6) She encourages you to grow

If your partner loves you, she’ll want you to be the best version of yourself. It’s because she’s keen to see you happy.

Consequently, a woman who is into you will do her best to prop you up on your personal improvement journey.

According to psychology, you can tell that your significant other is offering support if they take your problems seriously, check in regularly, and ask how they can best assist you when you’re going through a difficult time.  

Women can’t read your mind, even if they love you deeply.

They still find ways to show their support.

7) She makes sacrifices

Falling in love can make someone reassess their priorities to align with their partner’s, psychologists found.

If a woman loves you deeply, she makes the occasional sacrifice and puts your happiness first at times.

Whether it’s choosing a restaurant for dinner, planning a vacation, or deciding how to spend free time, she takes your preferences into account.

She also understands that relationships require give and take, and she’s committed to making compromises and finding common ground when you have a disagreement.

Make sure you return the favor.

8) She surprises you with small acts of kindness

A woman who loves you deeply might express her affection through small acts of kindness that brighten your day and make you feel cherished.

Everyone is different, but common examples include:

• Writing you sweet messages when you’re apart
• Surprising you with thoughtful gifts (your favorite snack, a book you’ve been meaning to read, and so on)
• Learning how to cook your favorite meal
• Making a care package for you when you’re sick
• Sending you memes she thinks you would find funny

More often than not, it’s the little things.

9) She introduces you to her loved ones

Another sign that a woman is deeply in love with you is that she shows you off.

Instead of keeping you all to herself, she introduces you to her loved ones, friends, and family.

It’s because she wants them to know who makes her giggle when she looks at her phone and smile whenever someone brings up his name.

There’s a difference between keeping your relationship secret and keeping it private.

10) She asks for your opinion

When your significant other is in love with you, they value your opinion.

Does your girlfriend ask you to weigh in when she has to make a decision?

Inquire about what you would do in her situation when she struggles with a personal dilemma?

Text you several outfit options before going out, wanting to know which you like best?

It’s because she trusts your judgment.  

That’s always a good thing.

11) She includes you in her plans

On a similar note, a woman who is deeply in love with you will include you in her future plans.

According to psychology, talking about the future shows you care.

Here’s what that might look like:

• She initiates conversations about long-term goals and aspirations
• She talks about the possibility of living together sometime down the line
• She asks if you want to tag along when planning a vacation or booking tickets for a future event
• She invites you to family gatherings and holiday celebrations
• She openly discusses her long-term dreams to see if the two of you are on the same page

You must have done something right.

12) She gets a little jealous

Research found that jealousy can be a sign of being deeply in love with a partner.

While a lot of jealousy is usually a red flag, a little jealousy signals investment and commitment.

In short, don’t blow things out of proportion if your girlfriend goes a little nuts if she perceives a threat to the relationship.

It shows that she truly cares about you and wants you all to herself.

13) You feel like she’s on the verge of saying it

The last time I fell in love, it took me about a month to come to terms with it.

Once I accepted this new reality, the feeling engulfed me, to the point when I was on the verge of spilling the beans at a moment’s notice.

Being with him made me happy and I wanted to shout it from the rooftops.

Even so, I didn’t want to be the first to utter those words, since I suspected he wasn’t quite there yet.

Do you feel like your girlfriend is constantly gearing up to tell you something, but backs up at the last minute?

This might be why.

Bottom line

“This is what makes us girls, we all look for heaven and we put love first,” Lana del Rey sings in This Is What Makes Us Girls.

The song came out more than a decade ago, but the message still stands.

We might have gotten smarter and more selective about the men we choose over the years, but when it creeps up on us, love is still “somethin’ that we’d die for, it’s our curse.”

At least it is for hopeless romantics.

There’s a chance we won’t say it outright. Still, you’ll notice the signs above.

And you’ll know we’re in it for the long haul.