7 signs a woman finds you extremely attractive, according to psychology

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Ever wondered if the woman you’re into feels the same way about you? 

Maybe you’ve seen her smiling at you, laughing at your jokes, or finding little reasons to be around you, and now you’re trying to figure out if she’s interested.

Understanding if a woman is attracted to you can be tricky. 

Often, we might hide our feelings or play hard to get, it’s just part of the dating game.

But here’s the good news: even when trying to hide it, there are clear, subconscious signs that most women show when they’re attracted to someone. 

These signs are rooted in psychological behaviors that are usually beyond her conscious control.

If this sparks your curiosity, keep reading because we’re about to uncover 7 signs that a woman finds you extremely attractive. 

If you spot some of these, it might just be the encouragement you need to make your move.

Let’s get started!

1) She remembers little details about you

Do you have a woman in your life who has been remembering the small, seemingly insignificant details about you? 

Maybe she remembers to order your coffee just the way you like it. Or she knows your favorite movie even though you only mentioned it once in passing.

If she’s remembering small details like this, it might be a sign of her attraction to you. 

Research supports this notion: a recent study has found that “infatuated individuals exhibit enhanced memory for information that is associated with their beloved.” 

Chances are, her remembering these little details about you isn’t just a coincidence.

So, if there’s a woman in your life who keeps track of the little things about you, it’s a good sign she’s very attracted to you.

2) She’s super nervous and flustered around you 

This one hits home for me, big time. 

It’s super embarrassing, but when I was at university, I was so attracted to this guy that I could barely string a sentence together around him. 

He just made me so nervous. I remember one time, I bumped into him at the student canteen. 

When he stopped to say hi, I blushed and tried to invite him to my birthday party, but I was so flustered that the words didn’t come out right. 

Thankfully, my friend was there to rescue the situation. But it’s not just me. 

Psychology Today notes in attractiveness studies that common reactions to romantic attraction include “staring, heart rate increase, increased attentiveness, smiling, laughing, blushing, and having trouble concentrating.”

And I can confirm, I felt all of those things when I bumped into that guy.

There’s no doubt about it, if this girl seems nervous and flustered around you, you can take it as a sign she’s extremely attracted to you.

3) She laughs a little differently around you

Have you ever noticed that her laugh sounds a bit different when she’s with you compared to when she’s with her friends?

This might sound a little crazy but hear me out. 

Psychologist Sally Farley has found through her research, that our laughs are more natural and relaxed around friends. 

But when someone is attracted to you, even their laugh can change.

According to Farley “We’re still basically engaging in speech modulation even with regard to how our laugh sounds in early-stage romantic love”.

Notice how she laughs when she doesn’t know you’re watching. Also, see if her friends mention that her laugh is different around them. 

Then, compare it to how she laughs when she’s with you. If her laugh changes, it might be a subtle sign that she’s attracted to you and open to romance.

4) She’s fully engaged when you speak 

In today’s world full of distractions, getting someone’s complete attention is a big deal.

A recent study showed that 62% of our conversations involve ‘phubbing,’ where people ignore someone to look at their phones instead. 

This means we often pay more attention to our phones than to the people we’re talking to.

But she’s different.

Whether she’s working on her laptop, reading a book, or scrolling through her phone, she stops everything to listen when you start talking. 

She’s not just being polite, she’s really listening, asking good questions, and engaging with what you say.

Don’t overlook getting her undivided attention. It’s a clear sign she’s super attracted to you.

5) She plays with her hair 

Have you ever seen in the movies how when a girl is attracted to a guy, she tilts her head to the side and plays with her hair?

Believe it or not: that doesn’t just happen in the movies, it’s a real thing.

When girls feel attraction to someone, they’ll often play with and twirl their hair, as outlined by author and psychology expert, Ronald E. Riggio, PhD

It’s not even something she does on purpose; it’s just a subconscious thing that lets you know she’s into you.

So if you notice her playing with her hair while talking to you or when you walk into the room, it’s a subtle but classic sign of attraction. 

6) She makes and holds eye contact with you

Eye contact really says a lot without a single word, and it’s often one of the first signs someone is attracted to you. 

Pay attention: if a girl keeps eye contact with you longer than usual, that’s worth noting.

As noted by dating coach Connel Barret, “A clear sign someone is attracted to you is making eye contact, briefly averting their eyes and then returning their gaze to you.”

There’s some science behind this, too. 

Studies show that when couples hold each other’s gaze for a while, they start feeling closer and more connected.

So, if she’s locking eyes with you more often, it may be a sign she finds you very attractive and she’s interested in creating a deeper bond with you. 

7) She laughs and smiles a lot and shows her wrists and palms

It can be tough to tell if someone is attracted to you because everyone has their own subtle way of flirting. 

However, a recent study found some common behaviors among many women when they’re attracted to someone.

They tend to laugh and smile more, and they often show their wrists and palms, a gesture known as “palming.” It’s a sign of openness.

This is something I’ve noticed with my best friend, too. 

Whenever she’s attracted to a guy, she’s all smiles, laughs a lot, and her body language becomes very open and welcoming.

Think about it: does the girl you’re thinking about act this way around you? If so, it’s a strong indication that she fancies you

Final thoughts

There you have it, 7 signs a woman finds you extremely attractive.

Remember, these behaviors are often subconscious and genuine indicators she likes what she sees.

So, if you see them, it might be the perfect time to make your move.

Cat Harper

Cat is an experienced Sales and Enablement professional turned writer whose passions span from psychology and relationships to continuous self-improvement, lifelong learning and pushing back on societal expectations to forge a life she loves. An avid traveler and adventure sports enthusiast, in her downtime you'll find Cat snowboarding, motorcycling or working on her latest self-development project.

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