Let me get one thing straight. There’s no man out there that’s perfect. We all have our own insecurities and faults.
To find a good husband is almost always to make a compromise. You’ll love some things about him and hate some others.
But there are many telltale signs that will show you your man is husband material, even if he doesn’t tick all the boxes.
Let’s see what they are.
1) He values family and friends
Someone who places importance on maintaining healthy relationships with their loved ones will likely prioritize your relationship too.
If your man and possibly future husband loves spending time with his close or, even better, whole extended family, then it’s probably something he expects from his future life too.
Having a big family is a dream for many people. If that’s not your dream, you better talk to him and find out what his dreams and aspirations are for his topic.
In any case, a man that values family and friendships is definitely husband material, even if he doesn’t tick all the other boxes.
2) He is financially responsible
Having no money isn’t good, obviously. So for some women, seeing that a man is financially responsible or earns a good living instantly makes him more desirable.
While financial stability shouldn’t be the sole indicator of husband material, a man who has shown his responsible financial habits and commitment to building a secure future can contribute to a stable and comfortable life together.
Financial responsibility doesn’t mean just earning a lot of money. It also means he:
- Knows the importance of budgeting and actively plans his expenses
- Lives within his financial means and avoids excessive debt or overspending
- Prioritizes saving for the future
- Has a long-term financial plan
- Openly and transparently communicates about money matters
- Adjusts his financial plans if needed
3) He’s reliable and dependable
Being reliable and dependable is extremely important in every healthy relationship or marriage.
Yet, you can ask any of your friends, and you’ll often hear how their husbands, in reality, aren’t that dependable or responsible.
As I said in the introduction, everyone comes into a relationship with their share of quirks and faults.
So, ultimately, if you’re dating a man who consistently follows through on his promises, shows up when he says he will, and can be counted on when you need him, he clearly has qualities that will make him a good husband.
4) He’s emotionally available
Men and emotions. I could write a whole book on it. We all know that men shouldn’t show emotions, cry, or complain about anything. They should just exist like a chunk of metal.
All kidding aside, things seem to be slowly improving, and men are becoming more emotional. Or dare to show it more, finally.
Husband-material men are, in fact, open and willing to share their emotions. They can have meaningful conversations about their feelings and are supportive when you need emotional support.
Some women like their men emotional, others don’t. But in the long term, being able to talk to him freely about any and all emotions is a good thing, don’t you agree?
5) He values your opinion
There are many people that are “stuck” in one-sided relationships and marriages. They’re the ones that do all the legwork, yet they rarely get to do what they want or need.
In order to avoid this imbalance from the get-go, you’re better off finding a man who seeks and values your input on important decisions and respects your perspective.
In other words, one that values you as an equal partner.
A man who values your opinion respects your right to have a different viewpoint. He engages in healthy discussions, encourages open dialogue, and treats your views with respect even when there are differences of opinion.
6) He actively contributes to household chores
Women still disproportionately perform household chores. Even the ones that are full-time employed. Is that fair? Not at all.
A man willing to share household responsibilities is committed to fairness and teamwork.
He knows how to work a hoover, separate blacks from whites, and how to load the dishwasher properly.
7) He has a good sense of humor
Would you rather be married to a man who knows how to make you laugh and does it often or with a man who does his share of household chores?
Hmm, that’s a tough one, isn’t it?
In most cases, a man that is husband material will know how to do both. So you won’t have to make this choice.
Ultimately, a man who can make you laugh and bring joy into your life is someone you can enjoy spending time with, even during challenging moments.
And we all know how important this is.
8) He is patient and understanding
Equally important is to find a man that understands that relationships require patience and compromise. They’re willing to work through challenges and conflicts with empathy and understanding.
Can you imagine being married for 20-50 years to someone who becomes easily frustrated or irritated when things don’t go according to his expectations or timelines?
Or with a husband who lacks empathy and struggles to connect with your emotions, dismissing or minimizing your experiences instead of providing comfort and support?
9) He prioritizes the relationship
A man can’t possibly tick all the boxes, can he? But he can still be husband material if he prioritizes the relationship by actively making time for his partner and prioritizes spending quality time together.
But prioritizing the relationship often involves a willingness to make compromises and find solutions that benefit both partners.
A husband-material man is open to discussing and finding common ground on important decisions, showing a commitment to the shared goals and happiness of the relationship.
In the end, a man who prioritizes the relationship and makes an effort to nurture and strengthen it, even if he doesn’t fulfill every idealized characteristic, can still be husband material.
10) He appreciates your quirks and eccentricities
How quirky are you? Do you play ukulele, collect unique tea sets, mix unexpected clothing combinations, or talk to plants?
Although all these habits are cute, they can become a bit too much after some time.
For instance, I’m a loud gulper. I don’t notice it, but my wife does. And she told me many, many times that I do it, which means she obviously hates it, right?
That doesn’t mean she isn’t a great wife. She sure is. I just want to illustrate how some quirks become annoying over time.
If a man embraces and celebrates your unique qualities, even the ones that are considered unconventional, it shows a level of acceptance and love that can be a strong foundation for a lasting relationship.
11) He surprises you with thoughtful gestures
Unexpected gestures of kindness and thoughtfulness, such as leaving you a sweet note or bringing you your favorite snack, confirm his desire to make you feel loved and appreciated.
These thoughtful gestures can strengthen the emotional bond between you and create a sense of warmth and appreciation within the relationship.
So if a man does this regularly and hopefully continues with it even after some time, he’s husband material.
12) He supports your alone time
Spending time alone is crucial for a healthy relationship and marriage, especially when the kids arrive.
A man who understands and respects your need for solitude and encourages you to pursue your own interests without feeling threatened or neglected is showing a healthy level of independence.
He may be the best thing to happen to you ever. People with kids will understand this.
13) He remembers tiny details about you
A man that doesn’t tick all the boxes but remembers your favorite flower, the name of your childhood pet, or other seemingly insignificant details shows that he pays attention and values your individuality.
He remembers significant dates in your relationship, such as your anniversary, the day you first met, or other milestones with personal meaning.
He takes the initiative to acknowledge and celebrate these moments, showing that they also hold significance to him.
14) He has a strong bond with his pet
If a man has a loving and caring relationship with his pet, it can point to his capacity for compassion and responsibility.
Having dogs is basically like raising kids, right?
Dogs and cats aren’t even close to raising a kid.
But all jokes aside, if he can take good care of a pet, he’s probably a loving and caring person that could be a good father one day.
15) He enjoys doing activities together that involve teamwork
And lastly, teamwork is another thing that’s essential in a relationship.
Whether it’s solving puzzles, playing board games, or participating in team sports, a man who values collaboration and enjoys working together can be a great partner in life.
I just showed you 15 signs that a man is husband material. Do you agree with them?