When you break up with someone, it’s always a rollercoaster of emotions. Regardless of who ended things, if you still have feelings for him, it’s not like you can just move on.
So, if you’re wondering what signs point to him coming back to you, you’re in the right place.
This article takes a deep dive into what those signs look like and what you need to do.
1) You’re still on his social media.
Social media is a great way to gauge how your ex is feeling.
If you’re still on his social media and he keeps liking your posts and commenting on them, it’s a good sign that he misses you.
It shows that he’s still interested in staying connected to you and your life.
If, on the other hand, you’ve unfollowed him and he has unfollowed you, his lack of interaction could be a sign that he isn’t into staying connected anymore.
If your ex still follows you on social media and you’ve unfollowed him, don’t follow him back right away. Instead, wait a few days.
Follow him again after a week.
If you follow him too quickly, it will seem like you’re desperately trying to stay connected to him. Proceed slowly because it shows that you’re not trying to cling to him and that you’re so not desperate.
On the topic of social media, if he’s taking a scroll through memory lane, it’s a surefire sign that he’s not ready to let go of you.
Remember that time you went horse riding several months ago?
If he’s reshared that image it’s a clear indicator that he’s thinking about you and is probably wanting to get back with you again.
He’s not over you!
2) He communicates with you regularly.
You might not be a couple but without fail, you still get regular messages from him asking about the mundane to the intimate. He’s not over you!
If you’ve broken up with your boyfriend, but he still keeps in touch with you, this is another good sign that he will come back.
It shows that he misses you and wants to stay connected to you.
This can take a few different forms; he could keep in touch with you through social media, he could call you up for advice, or he could text you about other things in his life.
Keep in mind, however, that there is a difference between being friendly and desperately clinging on to your ex. Don’t text him too often (or, if you do, make sure you don’t sound too desperate) and only give him the advice that he asks for.
3) You trigger his inner hero.
Despite the fact that you’re no longer romantically involved, your ex still does things to make your life a little easier. Whether it be changing your tires, fixing that broken hinge on your wardrobe, or mowing your lawn.
You see, for guys, it’s all about triggering their inner hero.
I learned about this from the hero instinct. Coined by relationship expert James Bauer, this fascinating concept is about what really drives men in relationships, which is ingrained in their DNA.
And it’s something most women don’t know anything about.
Once triggered, these drivers make men into the heroes of their own lives. They feel better, love harder, and commit stronger when they find someone who knows how to trigger it.
Now, you may be wondering why it’s called “the hero instinct”? Do guys really need to feel like superheroes to commit to a woman?
Not at all. Forget about Marvel. You won’t need to play the damsel in distress or buy your man a cape.
The easiest thing to do is to check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here. He shares some easy tips to get you started, such as sending him a 12 word text that will trigger his hero instinct right away.
Because that’s the beauty of the hero instinct.
It’s only a matter of knowing the right things to say to make him realize that he wants you and only you.
Click here to watch the free video.
4) He admits that he still misses you.
If your ex admits that he misses you, it’s a great sign that he will come back.
It shows that he is fully aware of the fact that he longs for you and that he is not trying to repress these feelings.
Obviously, don’t be in a rush to reciprocate the sentiment. (even though you’re dying to!)
Instead, try to get him to open up and talk through some of the issues the two of you experienced.
Accept it as a gift if your ex is open to talking about his feelings.
It’s very difficult for people to open up about their feelings, so be grateful that he is opening up to you and taking steps to work through his emotions.
5) He asks your friends about you.
Is he trying to get the inside scoop via your friends?
If he is, take it as a good sign he’s still invested in you.
If he is interested in how you are and what you are doing, he probably wants to get back into your life.
However, don’t tell your friends to divulge too much intel.
Let your friends know that you’re doing great and that you are keeping yourself busy.
This vague yet valuable information will have him intrigued and he’ll be itching to figure out what you’re up to and whether or not, you still have a space in your heart for him.
6) He keeps in touch with your family.
If your ex is still in contact with your family, it’s a good sign that he will come back.
This can take a few different forms; he could send gifts to you through your mom, he could come over for dinner with the family, or he could keep in touch over the phone.
It doesn’t matter what kind of contact he has with them; just know that it shows that he cares about you and wants to stay connected to you.
7) He wants to be friends.
Ok, what? He’s volunteering to be in the friendzone?
If your ex wants to be friends, he probably isn’t ready to move on yet.
Most people who are over a relationship want to stay as far away from their exes as they can, but if your ex wants to start hanging out and being friendly with you again, it means that he still has feelings for you.
Friendship is a great foundation to rekindle things but if you want to take things back to the way they were, you’re going to need some help.
What you need is clever psychology. That’s where dating expert Brad Browning comes in.
Brad is a best-selling author and has helped hundreds of people get back with their ex via his extremely popular YouTube channel.
He’s just released a new free video that will give you all the tips you need to get back with your ex.
Click here to watch his excellent video.
8) He’s showing keen interest in your love life.
If your ex is asking about your love life, it’s a good sign that he will come back. Asking about your love life shows that he wants to know what is going on in your life and that he is interested in staying connected to you.
Remember, however, that he may also be asking about your love life as a way of trying to get you to open up about your feelings.
If he is, take advantage of the opportunity to open up to him.
You might also want to tell him that someone is keen on dating you (even if this is a complete lie!)
What you’re actually doing is conjuring his inner jealousy demon because if he wants to get you back, he will now feel threatened and will bend over backward to win you over.
On the other hand, if he encourages you to go for it, take it as a sign that he’s just genuinely interested in having you move forward so don’t get your hopes up too high.
9) He still calls you pet names.
If your ex is still calling you pet names such as “baby” or “babe”, it’s generally a good indicator that he still has feelings for you and might be making a comeback.
Or, are you just reading too much into it?
Old habits die hard and it’s not easy to figure out if it’s just habit or if he really still thinks of you in that way.
But rather than leaving it up to fate to decide, why not take things into your own hands and find a way to get through to your ex?
I mentioned Brad Browning earlier – he’s an expert in relationships and reconciliation.
His practical tips have helped thousands of men and women not only reconnect with their exes but to rebuild the love and commitment they once shared.
If you’d like to do the same, check out his excellent free video here.
10) He confides in you.
If your ex confides in you, it shows that he values your input and advice.
It also shows that he trusts you, which is an essential part of getting back together.
If you want him back you need to be able to demonstrate to him that he can trust you.
Reassure him that you are there for him and that his confessions are not going to be scrutinized or judged.
He needs to know that you are capable of keeping his deepest and darkest fears private.
11) He compares his new girlfriend to you.
This is a biggie!
If your ex compares his new girlfriend to you, it’s a good sign that he’s realized that the grass isn’t in fact greener on the other side.
It shows that he realizes that there’s a difference between you two and that he misses the relationship that you two had.
Don’t get a big head about it now. It doesn’t mean that you are better than his new girlfriend.
It just shows that he misses the way that you two were together and that he’s likely thinking about rekindling the flame with you.
12) He asks for your advice.
If your ex is asking for your advice, take it as a surefire sign that he still sees you as his “go-to” person and also that he trusts you and that he values your opinion.
If your ex is asking you for advice on his relationship or on other aspects of his life, let him know that you are always there for him and that you want to help him.
Keep in mind, however, that you don’t want to be too eager to give him advice. Wait for him to ask for your advice and then let him know that you are always there for him.
Also, you don’t want to sound condescending or make it sound like you are belittling him by letting him know “I told you so!”.
13) He drunk dials you.
Has your ex had too much of the truth juice and is ringing you at 3 am to unleash his repressed feelings?
It’s a good thing!
If your ex drunk-dials you, it’s a good sign that he will come back.
A word of advice though, don’t answer! Let your phone go to voicemail.
Rather wait until he is sober and then talk about it. You want to be sure that he truly means what he’s saying because when liquor is involved, we tend to lose our inhibitions.
You want to be certain that he still cares and that he didn’t blab his mouth because he had too much Vodka.
14) He shows up unexpectedly.
Picture the scene, you’re sitting behind your desk at work and suddenly, out of nowhere, your ex pops in for a surprise visit. Or, you’re home one night, and your doorbell rings, and it’s him.
If he shows up unexpectedly is usually a good sign that he wants to come back unless he’s completely psycho and is stalking you.
The ball is in your court. If you want him back then show him how happy you are to see him. If the feeling isn’t quite there, best you send him packing.
15) He apologizes.
If your ex apologizes to you, it’s a good sign that he will come back.
A real apology shows that he regrets something that he did and it also shows that he wants to apologize. It doesn’t matter if his apology feels contrived; just the fact that he is apologizing is a great sign that things could be fixed with your relationship.
16) He makes positive changes (about the things you complained about)
Remember how he used to stay out all night with his friends, or, the way he used to expect you to clean up after him all the time.
Those days are over (or, so he says.)
If your ex makes positive changes, it’s a good sign that he will come back because he wants to please you.
This relates back to the unique concept I mentioned earlier: the hero instinct.
When a man feels respected, useful, and needed, he’s more likely to commit to you.
And the best part is, triggering his hero instinct can be as simple as knowing the right thing to say over a text.
You can learn exactly what to do by watching this simple and genuine video by James Bauer.
17) He asks you to give him another chance.
This is a pretty obvious one!
If your ex asks you for another chance, it’s a good sign that he will come back.
He’s already showing his commitment to you by taking the initiative to ask for a second chance and he probably just wants to clear up any misunderstandings.
However, if he is asking for another chance and you don’t want to give it to him, then tell him so as kindly as possible and then gently let him down.
By now you should have a better idea of what signs point to whether or not he will come back.
So the key now is getting through to your man in a way that empowers both him and you.
I mentioned the concept of the hero instinct earlier — by appealing directly to his primal instincts, you won’t only solve this issue, but you’ll take your relationship further than ever before.
And since this free video reveals exactly how to trigger your man’s hero instinct, you could make this change from as early as today.
With James Bauer’s incredible concept, he’ll see you as the only woman for him. So if you’re ready to take that plunge,be sure to check out the video now.
Here’s a link to his excellent free video again.
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