If you’ve ever found yourself feeling red in the face, making eye contact over and over again, and feeling your knees get weak whenever someone special walks by, it’s high time you pay attention to whether there is actually any sexual tension between the two of you or not.
Nothing stings more than finding out your crush doesn’t have reciprocating feelings. Before you put yourself out on a limb, consider that there are ways to tell if what’s going on between you is sexual or not.
Here are 13 ways to tell if there is any sexual tension between you and the object of your affection.
1) You keep making eye contact
There’s no doubt that the chemistry between you is on fire if you constantly find yourselves locking eyes. You might be doing it on purpose and not even realize it.
You’ll find yourself at a party and your eye will keep wanting to go to where that person is in the room. It might feel awkward, and you might even laugh about it, but it’s sure sign that your brain is trying to tell you something about this person. Pay attention.
2) You stare
While looking at someone by chance is one thing, staring at them is quite another. You might be talking to a friend and notice that someone is staring at you!
That might feel weird, but if you return the glance, it could be magical. And it can go the other way: you might be staring at someone and they catch you!
3) Conversations feel awkward
If you like someone, you might find yourself lost for words, saying bizarre things, and stumbling over your thoughts.
Remember when George took out Marisa Tomei on the American show, Seinfeld? He talked about Manure!
Yeah, it’s kind of like that. Don’t talk about crap on your dates or any interactions leading up to dates! You might find yourself saying all kinds of things that don’t sound like you.
4) You might as well be in high school all over again
When you feel like there might be some sexual attraction amongst you and another person, you’ll be doing everything you can to get in front of them.
Remember in high school when you would make the second round trip around the halls just to walk by their locker?
Now you are buying coffee in new places, taking lunch across town, and going to parties where they might be.
5) You find yourself distracted by them
Regardless of what you do, you’ll find yourself thinking about this person and losing time. You’ll be watching television and when the characters kiss, you’ll be wishing it was you.
You’ll be bringing them into conversations that have nothing to do with them. It’s all part of the tension that exists between you. Maybe it’s time to do something about it?
6) You daydream about them
It’s hard to keep our brain focused on a good day, but a day when we suddenly realize we might be attracted to someone – it’s even harder!
You’ll be sitting at work thinking about dates, kissing, and more. Don’t worry though – it’ perfectly normal and fun! Just don’t get too caught up in daydreaming instead of making the real thing happen.
7) You just keep wishing they would kiss you
When you are together you want nothing more than for them to make the first move or to ask you out on a first date. Guess what! They are probably thinking the same thing.
That’s the thing about sexual tension: it’s tension because nobody is acting on their feelings!
8) There always feels like there is something unsaid between you
You hang on their every word waiting for a slip up or sign or confession that they are into you. But you are also doing the same thing to them.
Nobody wants to make the first move. It’s a tricky thing when you are into someone, suspect they might be into you, and then everyone gets weirded out by it all and nothing happens.
9) You get a strange feeling around them
You might not even have good feelings about them! It could be that they drive you crazy, or you don’t know why but you just don’t like them.
That might be your subconscious telling you one thing and your conscious telling you another. If you love/hate someone, it could be because you actually really like them.
10) Body language is everything
If you fix your hair, if they fix theirs, if they lean in or touch your arm, pay attention to that.
The signs of sexual tension are pretty clear and as old as time itself. If someone likes you, whether they say it or not, they can show you with their body language.
11) You can’t help flirting
You laugh like school girls whenever you are around each other. It’s hard not to want to talk to them and you end up saying or doing silly things.
You’ll find yourself walking away asking yourself, “what did I just say?” and dying a little because you don’t flirt like that!
12) People comment about how good you would be together
Others notice that you spend time together or comment on how you would be a good couple.
It’s tempting to shout it from the rooftops, but it’s easier to just keep things the same. If you really want them, go for it.
Seems like everyone around you already knows the truth anyway!
13) People are jealous of what you have
If you are already in a relationship and find your significant other being jealous or worried about your behavior, or the behavior of your “crush”, it might be a sign that you are, actually into someone.
It could just be crazy talk, but usually people are a good judge when someone is into you.
14) Increased heart rate and physical sensations
Does your heart rate tick up? Do your hands get sweatier?
According to Dr. Kirk, this is actually the stimulation of adrenaline and norepinephrine:
“This can lead to having a physical sensation of craving and the desire to focus your attention on that specific person.”
What’s more, your pupils dilate when you’re attracted to someone because there’s stimulation in your nervous system sympathetic branch.
15) You can’t stop smiling and laughing
It’s obvious that’s sexual tension is high when you can’t stop smiling. No matter what they say or what they do, your mood is peaking and smiling and laughing occurs naturally.
You’re both excited to be around each other and the tension is hitting its high point.
16) There’s constant jokes and playful teasing
Are they pulling out some naughty but nice jokes around you? Are they playfully teasing you?
When someone is sexually attracted to you, they can’t help but bring out that playful vibe, especially if they’re man.
It’s natural, it’s fun and it increases the sexual tension.
If you can’t help laughing at their jokes (even if they’re horrible), then the sexual tension is high.
17) You can’t help but feel horny
This one obviously makes sense. If they’re making you feel sexual and getting your naughty areas tingling, then there’s a lot of sexual tension.
You might also experience a dream or two about sleeping with them, because even if it’s not obvious to you, your sub-conscious has a mind of its own.
18) You’re attracted to each other like a magnet
You always end up near each other, even when you don’t mean to.
Even when you’re in a large group, you’re sitting next to each other. Sexual tension acts as a sort of magnet that you’re both powerless to defend against.
In the end, we love being around people that make us laugh and feel good.
19) There’s a change in tone of voice
This is an interesting one that can be easy to miss.
When sexual attraction is in the air, people tend to naturally change their voice tone. A women’s tone becomes softer and gentler and a man’s becomes deeper and richer.
20) You respond to touch by getting closer
If you reach out to grab his/her hand, do they pull away or get closer?
If they get closer, then they’re probably sexual attracted to you.
It’s not intentional, but subconsciously they’ll want to be closer to you, which will trigger their behavior.
You can also see if you do the same. If you find they touch and then you’re following them like a magnet, then there’s definite sexual tension in the air.
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