Self-assured men who never feel the need to impress others usually display these 6 behaviors

Genuinely self-assured men aren’t quite as common as you may think.

After all, any guy can pretend to be confident, say by sticking his chest out and acting brashly.

But true confidence is quiet, it comes from deep down within.

When you’re truly comfortable in your own skin, a whole new world opens up to you.

You generally have better relationships and gain more opportunities, you attract better quality people in life.

So if you’re already self-assured, then fantastic… more power to you.

But if you don’t feel you’re there yet, don’t fret. It’s never too late to change.

I’m here to provide you with a bit more clarity.

In this article, I’ll run you through the common behaviors of self-assured men who never feel the need to impress others.

Let’s get to it!

1) They’re comfortable with silence

Growing up, being “quiet’ was sort of frowned upon among my peers.

Being quiet meant you were shy, and shy people weren’t supposed to fit in.

As I matured, so did my perception of silence. I began to realize that silence was power.

Men who are truly comfortable with themselves don’t feel the incessant need for chatter, to fill every moment with conversation or noise.

When you have confidence, you begin to realize that still waters do indeed run deep.

You begin to value stillness, instead of distractions.

You begin to value listening more than rambling on incoherently.

Being comfortable with silence means you’re content with who you are at your core; it means you aren’t afraid to hear yourself think.

2) They listen and show respect for others’ opinions

One of the hallmarks of the insecure male faking confidence is his frequent need to overcompensate.

I think we all know a few men like this.

They can talk about themselves for hours at a time, bragging frequently and rarely asking any questions or showing interest in the other person…

And when you do inevitably chime in, they’ll almost instinctively (and conveniently) get distracted by their phone.

Not cool.

Secure, self-assured men don’t have anything to prove, so they’ll often be inclined to listen more than they talk.

They’ll show respect for others and their opinions, however foreign.

They’re so comfortable with themselves that they don’t feel the never-ending need for validation or approval in their interactions.

Hence, confident men will almost always let the other person take the spotlight, rather than hog it for themselves.

3) They act authentically

For many men, the popularity contest of life doesn’t end in high school.

Many men want to continually climb the ranks of society or business and are willing to sacrifice their integrity in the process.

Like a chameleon, they’re willing to alter their behaviors just to fit in and be liked.

This is a stark contrast to the genuinely self-assured man.

Self-assured men make it a point to consistently stay true to themselves, regardless of social context. 

They get their validation from within, not from external praise or the feeling of being “liked.”

Self-assured men will consistently stay true to themselves, forging their own paths in life rather than following everyone else’s.

4) They don’t feel the need to compete with others

Self-assured men rarely feel the need to outdo others.

They’re frequently content, a feeling that comes from deep within, not relative to how everyone else is doing in life.

I know hyper-competitive men who are never content or satisfied.

They constantly want to chase others rather than be pleased with what do actually have going for them in life.

Because they’re driven by a perpetual need to be on top, they’re never genuinely happy for other people’s successes.

And hell, they’re rarely happy period.

Remember the people who were there celebrating your victories in life without envy, those still in your corner through the good and bad.

Those are the men and women who count, at the end of the day.

5) They’re humble

When I opened my first business years ago, I enjoyed some moderate initial success.

But rather than act humbly, I was immodest and arrogant, allowing the marginal success to get to my head.

Whenever I’d received the odd bit of constructive criticism or feedback, I’d resentfully shun it, earnestly believing I was incapable of doing wrong.

I sometimes took criticism, however valid, as a personal affront. 

I’m happy to report that I’ve grown as a person since those juvenile-minded days.

I’ve become far more self-assured.

These days, for instance, I’m able to acknowledge my mistakes and show a willingness to learn from them, without making lame excuses or attempting to shift blame.

These days, I’m able to self-reflect, understanding my strengths and areas for improvement.

I no longer fear being wrong.

I accept that having shortcomings is an essential part of the human experience.

I know that it’s how I respond, and how I bounce back, that ultimately will define me as a person.

6) They keep their cool under pressure

Self-assured men don’t freak out, panic, and take their frustrations out on others when they’re under pressure.

For me, one of the easiest ways to gauge the quality of someone’s character is how they treat other people when they’re stressed out.

I’ve known many men in my life who suddenly become short-tempered and infuriated, lashing out at whoever is in their way, at the slightest hint of hardship.

Crossing paths with them in this state is always contentious business.

Self-assured men can emotionally regulate themselves in tense moments, rather than get their feathers ruffled.

They maintain composure and think clearly, qualities that both increase their chances of success and make them natural leaders in life. 

Final words

If you don’t feel you’re as self-assured as you’d like to be, don’t worry.

Nobody is perfect.

Even the most confident of men have something to work on.

The fact that you’re reading this right now means you’ve made the first (and perhaps biggest) step: Realizing that there is room for improvement.

You’d be surprised how many men are inflexible of change, who think nothing needs fixing.

Not you though. You want more.

So keep learning and moving forward. Stay humble.

Soon, you’ll get where you want to be, and at that point, there will be no stopping you. You got this.

Ethan Sterling

Ethan Sterling has a background in entrepreneurship, having started and managed several small businesses. His journey through the ups and downs of entrepreneurship provides him with practical insights into personal resilience, strategic thinking, and the value of persistence. Ethan’s articles offer real-world advice for those looking to grow personally and professionally.

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