First dates can be intimidating because there’s a lot of pressure to make a good first impression.
But second dates – whoa! – those come with ever more pressure. Especially if you’ve had an amazing first date, the pressure could be on to impress a second time, and even third time for subsequent dates.
One-hit wonders are not fun when it comes to dating. And a second date isn’t something you’d usually do with your friends.
Give yourself some breathing room and a chance to make a series of good impressions, rather than just hit a home run once in a while.
There’s plenty to do, even in the smallest of towns, so don’t let your dating life fizzle just because you might lack imagination.
Try one of these 25 awesome second-date ideas and see if you can spice up your love life again and again!
1) Cook Instead of Look
Rather than pine over the menu at the local watering hole, invite your date over and cook some real food together.
It doesn’t have to be fancy and you can laugh when you burn the burgers. It’ll make a great story to tell the kids one day!
2) Ride the Roller Coaster of Life…and in Real Life
Head out to an amusement park and get on all the scary rides.
Get outside your comfort zone while getting outside your dating comfort zone and you’ll create memories that last a lifetime. Or, at the very least, you might have a laugh.
3) Take Out Without Going Out
Feeling tired after a long week of work but still want to take your date up on the offer for dinner?
Invite the over and order some fun food to enjoy on the couch with a movie.
It’s not the most romantic thing in the world, and it’s certainly not original, but when done right, it can be the start of a beautiful relationship.
4) Roll On
Rent some bikes at the local park and stroll around the trails to take in some beautiful scenery and give yourself something to talk about while breathing fresh air.
It doesn’t take a lot of effort and it’s relatively cheap to rent a bike for a few hours. Plus if you suck at cycling, it’ll make for a good laugh.
5) Paint the Town Red
Or, head to a paintball park and take turns shooting at one another with paintball guns.
You’ll love how competition brings out the best in everyone and you get to see how your gal or guy handles loss!
6) Ride Off into the Sunset
If you are lucky enough to live in an area with ranches or farms, you can see about renting a horse and taking on the trails.
For the ultimate second date, try for an evening ride.
7) Get Your Art On
Head out to a local art gallery and support local artists. This is a great way to make conversation, learn a few things, and take in some fabulous sights while you are at it.
8) Fortune Favors the Bold
Whether you believe it or not, going to a fortune teller can be a fun experience and you’ll definitely have a laugh.
Plus, it’s a fun way to learn lots about your date without having to ask. Just remember, take it all with a big grain of salty salt.
9) Host a Party Together
Want to get the gang together? Why not get both sides of the potential relationship together and see how it goes.
Invite some friends and mingle without a lot of pressure to be “on” with each other.
10) Couples’ Massage Anyone?
If you really feel like you have hit it off, consider taking in a couples’ massage. It’s super sexy and you can usually get a great deal!
11) Take in a Concert
Love music? Who doesn’t? Get some tickets to a local show so you can relax and enjoy some great tunes.
Plus, if you are shy, you don’t have to talk too much before the band will do the talking for you. Plus, clubs are intimate and you can get close.
12) Take a Dip
Go swimming. Find a local watering hole, local pool, or beach and let yourself relax into the water. It’s truly fine.
13) Picnic for the Win
Since food tends to be the focus of many first and second dates, grab basket, go on a hike, and eat some yummy picnic food.
It’s a great chance to catch your breath and get to know each other.
14) Take a Chocolate Tour
Who doesn’t love chocolate? Book a tour and find yourself getting close with the best stuff on earth, and each other.
15) Sports, Even if You Don’t Like Sports
Nothing is more fun than a baseball game in real life. If you can’t make it to a professional event, take in a men’s or women’s league game and cheer on some local talent.
16) Coffee and Crosswords
Keep it simple and problem solve together on date number two with some good coffee and a crossword puzzle.
This is a great “rainy Sunday afternoon” date. There’s nowhere to go but you can still get out.
17) Ice Cream is a Classic Date Idea
Ice cream dates get the job done. There’s no need to try too hard. Everyone is so happy about ice cream that it’s impossible to have a bad time.
18) Visit a Farmer’s Market
Pick up some local produce and cook brunch on the weekend. Fresh veggie and a stroll around town sounds like a perfect date to me.
19) Do Something Wild
If you are both adventurous, head on out to the local drop zone and sign up for some skydiving lessons. ‘Nuff said.
20) Get Your Sexy Back with a Burlesque Show
Try on something a little different and take your date to a burlesque show. These shows are super sexy and entertaining and it’ll loosen you up to have a good time.
21) Enjoy Drinks
Whenever you are stuck for ideas, quiet drinks in a local pub is a great way to get to know one another but stay loose with cool drinks.
22) Take in a Jazz Show
Jazz is the music of love and everyone loves jazz. Grab some tix and head to the show.
23) Create Your Own Pub Crawl
Get some friends together and walk the roads to enjoy a drink at each pub around town.
24) Visit a Nearby Town – Roadtrip!
Head out on a Saturday morning, coffee in hand, and take in the sights one or two towns over.
You’ll learn something new, get to know each other, and make fun memories while you are at it!
25) Bowl the night away!
Go bowling and bask in the glory of hitting down some pins! It’s a great way to show your fun side and eliminate any awkwardness between the two of you.
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