12 rules every successful woman lives by (and never compromises on)

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Ah, the empowered successful woman. Every girl wants to grow up to be like her and men are too scared to approach her. 

She knows exactly what she wants and she isn’t afraid to go and get it. 

Are you a successful woman? 

If you relate to the below rules that successful women live by, then you probably are. 

1. Know Your Why

A successful woman isn’t working towards just anything.

Whether it’s to help the less fortunate, empower those around her, or provide a service that makes someone’s life easier, a successful woman knows why exactly she’s doing it.

Given her success, she’s had to face countless difficulties and struggles.

Having concrete why for doing what she’s doing helps her find the strength to keep pushing and overcome her obstacles.

Paraphrasing from the German philosopher Nietzche, “She who has a why to live for can bear almost anyhow.”

2. Use Your Power 

While she possesses the soft and caring nature of a feminine woman, she also has incredible power.


Don’t be.

You see, in today’s society, our definition of femininity is a little fuzzy.

For some reason, most people believe that if you’re an overly feminine female that you’re simply passive and a pushover.

But this completely misses the mark.

Femininity is also about being powerful and sexy. It’s about owning your sexual power.

You know the type of woman I’m talking about:

Walking confidently in high heels with her shoulders back and chin up.

Everyone can’t help but stare. Males are attracted to her powerful sexual energy. Females envy her confidence.

And she knows how to use this energy to flirt with any man she desires.

This is why everyone loves Beyonce. Her sex appeal radiates through her confidence and power.

A successful woman who understands the power of her femininity knows she is of high value and doesn’t need a man to take care of her.

She is confident in who she truly is.

That’s the kind of feminine female that has true power.

3. Be Real…Always

She won’t be fake-nice. She won’t compliment someone if they haven’t earned it.

A successful woman is not trying to impress other people. She knows who she is and doesn’t need outside validation to feel better about herself.

She shows how she feels and what she thinks. This is refreshing in an age of social media where everyone is faking it to look better than they really are.

4. Don’t Be Afraid to Stand Up For Your Beliefs 

A successful woman isn’t on the lookout for arguments, but they are also aren’t afraid to say what they think.

A hallmark trait of a badass woman is to express her opinions even when their beliefs are against the majority.

They don’t express their opinion rudely, or with the intention of annoying others, but they simply state their opinions in a calm and matter-of-fact way.

While some people who can’t think outside of the status quo find this intimidating, most people respect honesty and the ability of someone to speak from the heart.

5. Help and Learn From Others 

Successful women consistently stay curious, and they also are always on the lookout for win-win situations. 

The most successful and appreciated people I know and who I have studied always have this in common:

Where they can see a way to create a win-win venture, technology or deal, they go for it. 

In this way, they often go down in history as individuals who were able to bring things together. 

What things? 

  • Warring sides of conflicts
  • Issues at the heart of inequality and injustice
  • Understanding and peace in the midst of chaos
  • Wealth and solutions instead of zero-sum rivalries

Successful women like to make deals, join people up and see everyone smile. 

The truly successful woman doesn’t want a victory that rests on somebody else’s humiliation and debasement. 

6. They Accept Faults and Learn From Mistakes

Reliving mistakes and repeating offenses becomes inevitable when problems and failures aren’t addressed.

With most people, there is an almost automatic response to sweep more embarrassing moments under the rug and forget they ever happened.

A successful woman understands that the road isn’t linear and that ultimately there are days when they just can’t win.

Instead of avoiding failure, they confront problems and use these as opportunities to address deficiencies within themselves and re-strategize.

They take the time to understand what exactly went wrong so they can focus on getting it right the second time around.

7. Always Have Standards

How many times have you looked at a relationship and thought, “Wow, she could do so much better.”

A successful woman knows what she’s worth, and won’t let herself be swayed away by a smooth talker.

This kind of woman will look for a life partner, not one fling after another; someone who deserves to be in her life.

The same goes with her friends.

Successful women don’t keep up with thousands of superficial acquaintances.

They keep a tight inner circle of people they know they trust, and give those people the love and time they deserve.

8. Be True To Yourself

Successful women aren’t always the most popular women, and that desire for integrity and independence is precisely what makes them successful.

In a world that forces people to adapt into systems and fit in, she’s not afraid to ascertain who she is, even if it’s not the most popular option.

She’s not afraid to embrace her quirks and be a little different.

She’s successful because she keeps her head held high and doesn’t try to pretend to be anyone else but herself.

9. Don’t Hesitate to Walk Away From Someone Treating You Like Cr*p

If you’re treating her like crap, a successful woman simply won’t have it. She’ll walk away no matter how long you’ve known her.

If you’re a guy and you’re dating her then you need to be warned: Treat her without respect and she’ll tell you to go back to where you came from.

She isn’t “clingy” or “needy” like those other girls, and she won’t hesitate to leave if you make her life even slightly worse.

10. She sees the good in others

Every person has a piece of good in them. You just need to find it.

A strong woman knows that most people have good intentions. That’s why she’s so polite to all those desperate men who approach her for her number.

Most of all, she treats people with respect and kindness. Just like Plato said, “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle.”

11. She is the anti-drama

Gossiping about others because it feels good? Please!

A successful woman hates this kind of negative energy. She knows toxic people are soul-sucking vampires and there’s no reason they won’t be bad-mouthing you behind your back.

She prefers to talk about meaningful topics, such as, what’s your purpose in life and how technology is going to change our future.

12. She Always Remains In Control

There are always going to be things in life that are out of our control: the weather, the moods of higher-ups, the opinions of others, what happened in the past, and what may or may not happen in the future.

It’s easy to get caught up in these things.

The successful woman, however, has no problem with them — because she can’t change them anyway.

Instead, she focuses on what is within her control: where she spends her time and energy, or what she chooses to do or say next. That’s what makes her stand above the rest.

Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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