The real reason women don’t hook up with “nice guys”

a guy wondering why women don't like nice guys

If you’ve ever thought that nice guys finish last, you might be onto something.

Although women claim they want to be with a “nice guy”, they avoid them like the plague. Why? Because “nice guys” are insecure and inauthentic.

Women don’t buy into a guy who is all touchy feely. In fact, most women think it’s pure crap.

If you’ve ever met a guy and thought to yourself, “wow, he was really nice, why is he still single?” It’s probably because he’s a lying douche.

Here are the real reasons why women don’t like nice guys.

1) Women Can Smell the Bull From a Mile Away

If you’ve ever been fooled into thinking that your guy is “nice” it’s probably because he was putting on a show for you.

Nice guys try to hide their flaws by overcompensating for them with being nice.

Nice guys are trying to fake it til they make it, and that means that they often slip up, revealing their true selves.

And you know the feeling when someone tells you about a nice guy: you always think, “what’s wrong with him?” Because you know better. You’ve been there. Women can smell crap from a guy like bacon in the morning.

2) Nice Guys Can’t Hear Women

The problem with being a nice guy is that they often don’t hear a woman when she says she isn’t interested in being in a relationship with them.

“But, I’m a nice guy! Why wouldn’t she want to be with me?” seems to roll around in their head a lot.

Nice guys can turn into creeps fast if they don’t take the hint, or if they don’t listen to you when you say “no, thanks.”

It’s probably one of the main reasons why women avoid nice guys in the first place.

If a guy can’t accept that a woman is not interested, things get weird real fast.

But because they are nice, they think she will come around sooner or later. Stop that. She’s not going to come around. Go be nice somewhere else, please.

3) Life Isn’t a Movie

It’s not their fault you know. Nice guys learned to be “nice” by watching television shows and taking in one too many chick flicks on a Friday night.

Romantic comedies are a relationship’s worst nightmare. Nothing in life happens the way it happens in the movies, but we cling to hope that it will someday turn out like that.

And nice guys think they can win girls over by doing things like showing up unexpectedly with food and flowers without discussing it with the woman first.

Yeah, in theory that is great, but women have things to get done. They need a head start if you are coming over. You can’t show up and expect her to drop everything and pine at your feet. It’s needy and totally unappealing.

Be gentleMAN, not an insecure “nice guy”

It’s frustrating to think that if the nice guys finish last, what’s left for the rest of the world?

Well, for starters, how about some truth? How about nice guys stop trying to be nice, and start working on be productive, kind, and contributing members of society?

How about they show women how “nice” they are by doing selfless things and acting in a way that isn’t trying to get them laid all the time.

Come on men, have some dignity. There’s a woman out there for you, but you’ll never find her if you keep up this charade of lies.

Nice guys finish last because they aren’t real. Kind men, generous men, gentlemen, are real. Be that and you’ll be well on your way to finding a woman who can appreciate your qualities and your quirks for the rest of your life.

There’s no trick to it really, women just want men to be themselves. It’s hard to keep up the “nice guy” routine after you’ve gotten the girl, so don’t bother with it in the first place.

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