We’re all quite familiar with the signs of love, but what about the less obvious signs of a relationship that’ll last forever?
Because as much as love is important, many other factors contribute to a successful relationship.
So, in this article, we’ll cover 14 rare signs you’re in a relationship that can last a lifetime…will yours make the cut?
Let’s find out!
1) You enjoy each other’s company
If you really want to know whether your relationship can withstand the test of time, you’ve first got to look at how much you enjoy being together…
Do you truly look forward to spending time together?
Do you miss each other, even if you’ve only been a few days apart?
This is a telling sign because it shows compatibility – you get along well. Of course, love is important but if you guys have a great vibe together and you match each other’s energies, you’re onto something good here!
2) You’re friends as much as lovers
And following on from the previous point, another rare sign you’re in a long-lasting relationship is if you’re not just lovers, you’re good friends too.
The truth is, as much as the physical side of a relationship is important, it’s crucial that you feel like you can talk to each other about anything and everything.
This trust and openness that comes with being good friends mean your bond as a couple will deepen over time – when the romantic buzz wears off (which usually happens after a few years together), you’ll still have a strong friendship to keep the flame alive!
3) You make each other laugh
Another rare sign which confirms your relationship can last a lifetime is if you laugh regularly!
Laughter is beneficial to a relationship in so many ways…not only does it show you’ve got a similar sense of humor, but if you guys can laugh through the tough times in life, you’re more likely to stay together.
Not to mention, life is just more fun when you know you can have a chuckle with your SO, right?
Add the fact that laughter has positive effects on our health and mood, and you’re onto a winner!
4) You fight fair
If you look at couples who make it to the finish line, you’ll notice that most of them know how to fight fair.
This means they don’t:
- Insult each other or hit below the belt
- Drag arguments on for days
- Give each other the cold shoulder rather than deal with their issues
So if you and your partner are able to calmly and respectfully work through any problems that arise, there’s a good chance your relationship could last a lifetime!
5) You have shared values
Now, another rare way to know if you’re in a solid relationship is if you both share similar values.
Unfortunately, many couples make it a few years in before realizing that they have vastly different outlooks on life.
This can then cause problems, especially when children come along.
So while it’s normal to disagree on some things, as long as you and your partner are on the same page for the big stuff, your relationship will flourish!
6) You’re both committed to growth
And talking about flourishing…are you both committed to individual growth as well as progress within the relationship?
You see, for a relationship to last a lifetime, you have to keep evolving and adapting.
First, within your own personal development.
But also recognizing that your relationship will be challenged over the years, and will undoubtedly change as you both go through different phases of life.
If you’re both committed to making it work and supporting each other, there’s no reason why you can’t cultivate a long-lasting, healthy relationship!
7) You have a mutual admiration for each other
Another rare sign of being in a relationship for the long run is if you both admire each other…
For example – you both admire and respect each other’s professions, achievements, and characteristics.
Not only does this foster a supportive, encouraging environment, but it shows you guys share a deep connection!
8) You maintain your individuality
Something that most people overlook is the importance of two people keeping their independence in a relationship.
Romantic movies and novels have us thinking that we need to spend 100% of our time with our SOs.
But the truth is, a relationship that lasts a lifetime needs space as much as togetherness.
If you’re both able to have your own social lives, hobbies, and plenty of alone time, it shows you have trust and security in your relationship!
9) You have shared rituals
Do you and your SO make a point to have a date night once a week?
Do you plan something special every year for important dates or milestones, like your anniversary or birthday?
If so, you’ll find that as the years pass by, these shared rituals will strengthen your bond and create beautiful memories and shared history to look back on.
Not to mention, it could be one of the factors that’ll help you push through the tough times to keep you together for a lifetime!
Talking of tough times…
10) You stick together when life gets rocky
If you guys are going to last till the very end, it’s essential that you’re there for one another during turbulent times.
- Keeping clear, open, and honest communication
- Facing the problem together (rather than turning on each other)
- Supporting one another even when you don’t feel like it
You see, when a couple gets to this level, there’s very little that can break them down.
They’re both focused on making the relationship the best it can be, and they give less importance to external issues that can strain a relationship!
11) You’re adaptable
And part of working through turbulent times includes being adaptable.
At some point in your relationship, one or both of you are going to experience big life changes – whether it’s a new job, moving city, or an elderly parent needing care.
Couples that don’t make it tend to find these big obstacles hard to adapt to.
But if you’re both willing to be flexible and compromise, you’ve got a great chance of lasting a lifetime.
12) You have effortless communication
We all know how important communication is, but what about non-verbal communication?
This is a rare sign that could signal an immensely strong connection between you and your partner…
For example, if you’re able to communicate with each other with just a look or a raised eyebrow, it shows how in tune you are.
This type of communication comes when two people really take the time to get to know each other, and over the years, you may even find you’ve got secret signals and ways of speaking without saying a word!
13) You are both emotionally intelligent
Another rare sign to consider is if you’re both emotionally intelligent – in other words, you have good control over your feelings!
This also includes showing empathy towards one another, something many couples forget to do once the stresses of life take over and the honeymoon phase is over.
But here’s the thing, it’s not enough to only be aware of your own emotions.
In a relationship, you also need to understand your partner’s feelings and perspectives. Only then can you cultivate a happy, healthy relationship based on care and respect!
14) You’re equal and balanced in the relationship
And finally, if there’s no power struggle in your relationship, you guys stand a chance of making it work for a lifetime!
You see when both people feel equal and balanced in a relationship, it shows that you value and respect each other deeply.
For example, when making small or big decisions, if you both feel comfortable weighing in with your opinions and making a decision together, there’s less chance for resentment to creep in.
And ultimately, we all want to feel like our SO takes us seriously!
So, now we’ve covered 14 rare signs you’re in a relationship that can last a lifetime…do you and your partner fall into this category?
If not, use the points above as a guide to work on whatever issues are holding you guys back, and remember, relationships flourish when both are committed to making it work!
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