Your answers to these 5 simple questions reveal how emotionally intelligent you really are

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Ever heard of Emotional Intelligence or EQ? It’s like your IQ, but for feelings. It helps us get along better with people, do well in our jobs, and reach our goals.

Now, you might be asking, “How emotionally smart am I?”

Great question! We’ve cooked up five easy questions to help you find out. No stress, no grades, just a fun way to learn a bit more about yourself.

Remember, being emotionally smart isn’t about being perfect. It’s about getting to know ourselves and handling life with more understanding and kindness.

Ready to dive in? Get cozy, grab a snack, and let’s go!

Question 1: How Do You Handle Criticism?

We’ve all been there. Someone, maybe a boss, a friend, or a family member, tells us something about ourselves that isn’t so flattering. It’s criticism, plain and simple. Think about the last time this happened.

How did you react? Did you take a deep breath, consider their words, and look for the truth in them? Or did you feel defensive, get upset, or even angry?

If you took the criticism on board and saw it as an opportunity to grow, that’s a big tick for emotional intelligence.

But if you felt hurt and tried to protect yourself, don’t stress. That’s a normal reaction, and it just means there might be room to grow your emotional smarts.

Remember, this is not about beating yourself up; it’s about becoming more aware.

So, keep going and let’s explore more with the next question.

Question 2: Can You Read People’s Emotions?

Next up, let’s talk about reading emotions. Not yours this time, but other people’s. It’s like you’re a detective, but for feelings!

Think about a recent conversation you had. Maybe it was a chat with a friend who was having a tough day, or a colleague who was a bit tense.

Did you pick up on how they were feeling, even if they didn’t say it outright? Were you able to understand their emotional state based on their words, their tone of voice, or their body language?

If you noticed these subtle signals and responded with empathy, that’s another sign of high emotional intelligence.

But if you didn’t, don’t worry! It’s not always easy to pick up on these cues. With practice, you can get better at understanding others’ feelings.

Alright, ready for the next question? Let’s keep going!

Related: How to read people like a pro: 17 tricks from psychology

Question 3: How Do You Deal with Stress?

Let’s talk stress. Yes, that icky, sticky feeling when things aren’t going right. We all face it, whether it’s a traffic jam when we’re already late, or a massive project with a looming deadline.

Think about the last time you were under stress. How did you handle it? Did you go into a meltdown, or were you able to stay cool, take a deep breath, and figure out your next move?

If you managed to keep your cool and come up with a plan, even under pressure, you’re showing some serious emotional intelligence skills.

But if you felt overwhelmed, it’s okay. Stress can sneak up on us, and it takes practice to handle it well. Remember, it’s not about being perfect, it’s about learning and growing.

Well done for getting this far! Ready for the next question? Let’s keep rolling!

Question 4: Do You Know What Makes You Happy?

What really makes you smile from ear to ear? No, I mean that deep down, warm, fuzzy feeling of contentment and joy.

It may seem straightforward, but knowing what genuinely brings us happiness is a fundamental element of emotional intelligence.

These “happy triggers,” as I like to call them, can be anything: spending quality time with loved ones, playing fetch with your dog, immersing yourself in a captivating book, or nailing that yoga pose you’ve been working on.

Now, think about your own life. Do you know your happy triggers, and more importantly, do you make space for these things in your daily life?

If you’ve figured out your happy triggers and carve out time for them regularly, that’s a sure sign of emotional intelligence.

But if this question has you stumped, or if your happy triggers have been collecting dust lately, don’t sweat it. It’s never too late to start exploring what brings you joy and integrating it into your life.

Are you enjoying this journey of self-discovery? Fantastic, let’s head on to the last question!

Related: The key to happiness: 10 habits of highly content people

Question 5: Can You Say ‘No’ When You Need To?

Okay, folks, this is our last stop on this self-discovery journey, and it’s a big one. Can you say ‘no’ when you need to?

I know, I know. It can be tough. We all want to be helpful, reliable, and supportive to those around us.

But sometimes, we need to put ourselves first.

Think about it this way. Have you ever been so stretched thin that you felt like a pancake, trying to cover every corner of a huge griddle? I’ve been there too, and let me tell you, it’s not fun.

So, have you managed to say ‘no’ recently when you knew you should, even if it was tough? If you have, give yourself a pat on the back. That’s emotional intelligence in action.

But if you’ve been that pancake (and who hasn’t?), don’t be hard on yourself. This is your friendly reminder that it’s okay to set boundaries and protect your time and energy.

Alright, that’s all five questions! I hope you found this journey insightful and enjoyable.

Remember, emotional intelligence is a journey, not a destination. You’re doing great just by being here and exploring this with me. Thanks for coming along for the ride!

Related: 14 habits of people who are good at saying “no”

 

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the founder, and editor of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 15 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. Check out my latest book on the Hidden Secrets of Buddhism and How it Saved My Life. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter.

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