What is love and how does it impact our lives? How do we know if we are in love?
Hollywood has cashed in over and over again on this subject. Movies about how to find love, how to keep love, how to lose love, how to regain love, how to ruin love, and how to be loved have all been made.
A good love story can make your day or ruin your week, depending on where you are in your search for love.
If you are in a relationship and you are trying to decide if what you are feeling is love, it can be hard to know.
Fortunately, psychologist Theresa E DiDonatio has done the dirty work and examined what true love really is.
Here are 7 research-based indicators that can tell you what you are feeling is, in fact, love.
1) You Can’t Get Enough of Them
Every relationship has what is called a “honeymoon” phase. This is the phase in which the conversation is hot, the sex is hot, the afternoon nap is even hot. Everything is on fire.
But is that love? According to Theresa DiDonato, Ph.D., you know you are in love if you continue to long for this person even after the honeymoon phase has passed.
A deep love endures many stages of a relationship and the changes that people go through as human beings.
Couples who successfully stay together continue to want to be in each other’s presence and talk to each other on a regular basis, even when times are tough.
They know that closeness helps strengthen the relationship.
2) You Want Everyone to Love Them
When you think you love someone, you are excited and nervous about introducing them to someone else.
They are a direct representation of who you are as a person and a physical representation of your life’s choices.
Jeez, no wonder we hesitate to take our partners home to our mothers. This moment of truth is important in many relationships because it helps someone decide if the relationship is worth pursuing further.
While many people will say they don’t care what others think about the person they love, it is important for many families to choose a partner that gets along with the rest of the family.
Pressure or not pressure, it’s a reality for a lot of people, and it can play a big part in the success of a relationship.
3) You Are Their Biggest Cheerleader
Regardless of how well you are doing in life, if you love someone, you cheer them on throughout their wins.
Instead of feeling jealous or resentful, you feel only pride and triumph for this person. This is a sure sign that you are in love because you can put your own feelings aside and focus on another person’s victories.
If your relationship wasn’t as strong as you had hoped, you might find yourself being jealous of your partner’s new promotion.
Unfortunately for some, all they experience is an inferiority complex, which can tear a relationship apart before it ever has a chance to blossom.
4) You Like Them – Which is Important to Love
You can love someone and not like them. You probably experience this phenomenon with some of your family members.
Afterall, we can’t choose our families, but we can choose our partners.
You know you could be in love if you have deep feelings for someone, and you also like them as a person.
If you love someone, but you are always fighting with them or feeling unhappy at the end of the day, it’s likely that you still love them, but don’t like them.
5) You Want to Tell Them Everything
When you love someone, you want to share everything with them. You don’t even dream of keeping secrets, and you want them to know how you are feeling.
It can seem like a lot to want to talk to someone all the time or share everything with them, but if you find yourself leaning toward that trend, you might be in love.
6) You’ve Become a Better Person
When you are in love, you show up differently than if you weren’t “feeling” a relationship. You want to do better and be better for this person.
If you aren’t sure about how you feel about someone, pay attention to how your life has changed since you met them.
Are you striving for better things? It could be a sign that you are in love.
7) You Worry About Them
Of course you worry about them. When you are in love, it is like you a part of that person.
You carry a piece of them in your soul, and they carry a piece of you.
You worry about what life would be like without them – and that’s how you know for sure that you are in love.
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